How did you ever pick out 2 names?

We are having 2 boys and I am 22 weeks. We cannot seem to agree on any names. We initially said Myles and Mykah and my hubby liked it at first, then his mom didn't like it and his attitude completely changed! I cannot for the life of me get him to budge on Mykah which I really like. We don't want to common of names and they don't have to rhyme or even have the same 1st letter. He likes Wyatt and keeps bringing it up, but I just don't like it! We have the middle names picked out. Whichever is 1st born will have the middle name Lee (hubby's, hubby's dad's, and my brother in law's- much like my 2nd father middle names are all Lee so it was an easy choice), the 2nd born will have James as his middle name (my dad's name is Joe, not Joseph, just Joe lol and I don't really like it so I decided to use my grandpa's- his dad- name).

Any suggestions?

 

we have not yet decided but are tossing around ones we like. I too do not want very common names and find it helps to research what is being done.

This site of the Soc Sec Admin lists top 20 names of twins:

http://www.ssa.gov/OACT/babynames/twins.html

so I tend to look at those and then be sure to avoid them. For us, we are looking to our family tree for ideas as well. We did not decide DD's name until about two weeks before she was born and a friend of mine recently had a girl that they did not name until 2-3 days after birth! So you do have time

 

Well we could only agree on on boys name which was : Everett and my husband picked that one out.
As for the girls we had a list but had a hard time finding middle names with the first names till finally one day I came up with Macey marie and my husband loved it. So essentially he named one and so did I.

we didnt want common names either so we googled names from the early 1900s and started from there.

My best piece of advice, dont share the names you 2 pick out with anyone. Everyone always has a comment and it makes it so much harder. Once your little one arrives and teh name is assigned to them, its a lot harder for people to make negative comments about such a cute little face. You're the parents, name your kids what you want, just like your parents named you what they wanted.

best of luck!

 

For every child we had a big list that we began from. With the girls, the process actually went more smoothly and it didn't take long for us to bring the ist down to a final 4. From there, it was about 5 minutes until the children were named. They were named by 24 weeks. Like you, we had the middle names picked out beforehand.

For our boys, the big lists we began with were compiled by going through every name in our huge baby name book. From there, we worked together to whittle down the list a bit every few nights. When we had Dax's possible name list down to about 10 names, Paul and I went to a coffee shop and sat for a few hours comparing names, making charts and doing little name competitions (like in March Madness ), and then finally picking a name. I was well into the 3rd trimester by the time we picked the name and then we couldn't settle on a middle name for a good month or two after that.

With our last child we didn't find out the sex so we had to have two big lists to pick names from, one for boys and one for girls. Paul went through the huge baby name book by himself and then presented me with his big list and I crossed off the ones that I knew would never work. Then we whittled it down slowly week by week. I was about 40 weeks along when Ewan's name was finalized.

Good luck!

 

I soooooo agree with the PP who said you shouldnt share your names -- especially with family, who reserve the right to have such strong opinions about what you want to name your children. My husband and I only ever really had one boy name and one girl name (glad it worked out that way). I had a block against two of each so I can totally understand where you're coming from. We always knew that we would name our first son after his father who died when my husband was 13, so that was easy. Choosing the middle name was a little more tricky since my husband is obsessed with the name Alfredo, but I FINALLY talked him out of that. Ugh. The girl's was really easy. I'm a bookworm and I plucked an obscure girl's name from literature and my husband loves it and it just feels right, so thats the name we're going with.

I should also say that for me, giving my children names that people can pronounce was always a big deal given that I have spent my entire life having my name mispronounced. My name is Chakira, pronounced cha-ky-ra (long "I" sound, like "eye") but I have spent my life answering to all manner of things because no one can say my name . And of course with the rise of the singer Shakira a few years back, everyone all of a sudden assumes thats my name (hellloooo -- the "ch" at the beginning of a word is pronounced like "chicken", not "shoe", people!!), but it gets boring and tedious constantly correcting people so I just answer to Shakira half the time so as to not appear rude. That would be my only advice -- a name that people can pronounce. Otherwise, this is for you and your husband to decide.

 

I picked Evan's name and my husband picked James'. We thought that was fair. Having one child is harder - only one name to select!

 

DH and I are in the same boat. We agree on very little. We both agree on Jayden & Lorenzo but I also like Julian & Adrian, which he does not. Its not easy. I suggested that I pick one and so does he, but he wants us to both agree since he feels so strongly about not liking Adrian or Julian.

 

We are expecting 2 boys as well, and my biggest fear was names, my dh didn't like any of them. Then one evening, we set down and decided that we are picking the names, the ones I absolutlely loved he hated, the ones he liked I didn't but after 3 hrs, we agreed on the names. We picked Brandon and Mathew, dh is indifferent about Mathew, but loves Brandon, I love Mathew and since he doesn't hate it we are sticking with it. Good Luck.

 

We have had a hard time too, with our b/g twins. DH wanted Michael because it is his middle name and that why his parents named him Joseph. The girl we decided we just like Abigial. We still have not picked middle names. We have several that we like, but nothing definite.

We haven't told our friends and family either. We keep telling everyone we haven't decided yet, which is true. They can tell we are hiding it from them and get really snooty about it. Haha. It is really fun to drive my sister crazy. She refers them as the babies with secret names.

 

We had always kind of went back and forth w the name Tanner for both the girls and when we found out we were having 2 boys we both decided that would be one of the names. Dd1 (7) then suggested Jace when we were driving home one day we both liked that as well so Tanner and Jace are their names. I love that dd picked one of the names out too.

Ohhhhh and my mil, I love her but she's pretty opinionated about names so we've kept the names a secret for that reason, no one sways our decision!!

 

Our criteria was:

the two names couldn't start with the same letter
have the same number of syllables
and had to sound good with our last name

 

I completely agre with not sharing your names. We did that in the beginning and it got so frustrating when soemone didn't like what we had chosen that when we finally decided we just said that's it. We love them. No one needs to know if they are going to be a critic!

Both of the kids have a name that is a variation of my hubby's name. Brian. We chose Orian, because it's different, and will call him Rian. And originally our girl was going to be Shayna Brianne. But we switched it. My name is MaryAnne and so she has a bit of both of us.

Good luck xoxoxoxoxoxoxo

 

What's everyone think of Wyatt Lee and Wesley James?

 

If you all are confused and don't know what to do...let husband name one of the twins and you name the other.So that would be Wyatt and Mykah...and which ever comes out 1st get the 1st middle name and the 2nd gets that middle name. But for me it was easy I knew my babies names at 6 wks. And for the most part I have kept those names confidential because I did not want anyone's 2 cents.(inlaws,others who just want to be responsible for name someone) I made my husband swear an oath when I did tell him at maybe 5 mths. not to tell anyone else. And when everyone ask me what will I name my babies I tell them that my father-n-law will name them (it's tradition) although I knew that what ever names that he came up with would be their middle names...I just let them think that it was the names. The way that I looked at it is...The children will get my husbands last name....his father would give them their traditional names...so it should be my pleasure giving them their 1st names. I actually had 3 names picked out..1 name was a unisex name and the other 2 was 1 boy & 1 girl name...and this was before I knew that I was having twins..I just sealed the deal once I found out the sexes.I went with the unisex name and the boy name. And both of the names have significance..means something that I want them to be.

 

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My best piece of advice, dont share the names you 2 pick out with anyone. Everyone always has a comment and it makes it so much harder. Once your little one arrives and teh name is assigned to them, its a lot harder for people to make negative comments about such a cute little face. You're the parents, name your kids what you want, just like your parents named you what they wanted.

best of luck!



This is sooooo true! Even on forums sharing the names can be heartbreaking b/c people can say the most awful things. We told my step mom that we had like the name Lana with the middle name of Lee and she said 'that sounds like a porn star name' Thanks for ruining that one for us! After that we have learned our lesson! Baby names are hard ..... don't share!!! We have had our baby names picked out for a long time now .... and I love them!

 

We each picked one name, but we had a list of criteria the names had to conform to.

1. The first names had to be pronounced the same or nearly the same in English and Spanish.
2. No name could be "un-pronounciable" to either side of the family.
3. Either parent had absolute veto power if the other choose a name they HATED.
4. The name should have some special significance, we needed to be able to explain what the name meant to us, no names we "just liked the sound of".

 

We aren't finding out the genders, so we're coming up with 4 names. All good on the girl front, but still need ONE more for boys, plus finalizing the male middle names. We also aren't telling people our "finalists" so that we don't get discouraged by snotty remarks. In fact, we tell people our names are "Schroedinger" and "Zaphod" if they do push us on it.

I'm lucky in that I LOVE my mother's name, and it hasn't been in the top 1000 names since the 1910s, and only squeaked in then. It was also her grandmother's name, so it skips generations. I really like that.

 

You're doing better than we did. They didn't have names until they were 2 days old. And only then because we couldn't check out from the hospital without filing the birth certs, which of course required names. In the end, I picked one and he picked the other. We didn't intend this, but the name I picked is my brother's initials and the one DH picked is his sister's initials. So we stressed about it for no good reason.

 

Yes, we've thought of names. No, I'm not telling you what they are.
Don't like the names we've picked out? Good thing they aren't your babies!
I so badly want t-shirts with those sayings!

We chose our fathers names and the names of my husbands mentors. One mentor was a well known athletics coach who passed away. The other is for a catholic priest who coached my husband in another sport as well. Both men made a huge impact since his parents were older and didn't pay much attention to him.

Funny enough I actually picked the mentors names! He hadn't thought of it and was racking his brain for names. Since they are boys I let him choose. I just tossed them out there for his consideration.

I suppose the what are the names question is the second question behind when are you due. I'll share due date, gender, but never ever the names. Ever since my brother lost two children at 6 and 7 months nobody tells names. I guess we just consider it bad luck and my family completely understands. My kids names aren't open to discussion period.

Friday someone kept pestering me about names. I finally told them their names. Baby A and Baby B. Those are their names right now!

 

I agree, don't share the names. This time, I'm tempted to not share the sex either, after my FIL said the last time, "you have to name one Frank" (his name, his dad's name (deceased), and my DH's name, but I really HATE naming kids after their dad!--it is incredibly awkward when they're over and I have to specify which Frank I'm talking to!--you think having the same name as someone in your class is hard!). So I had to say, NO. We hadn't really picked out names for the boys because they were so early, so I named them in the delivery room, and the only other person I told the names to was my sister.

I like your names but I would spell "Micah", not with the Y.

My nephew's name changed in the delivery room because my sister and her husband took one look at him and picked out a new name!

 

Try mommyloves.com.

 

I had always wanted Mason, but then 2 of HER friends had named their son that...arghh!

Then she wanted Maddox, but that reminded me of Angelina Jolie's kid.

We finially settled on Merrick Kingston and Marlee Raedon, although she then wanted to change the spelling to Marleigh. I told her it might be confused with Mar-Lay.

Once we found out it was for sure a boy and a girl, we FINIALLY decided on Marlee Raedon and Merrick Thor(I came to her with Thor AFTER I was for sure we were having a boy). She was happy to agree.

Overall, our process of "picking names" was pretty easy and painless. Glad we didn't argue about it