How can I feel lonely?

So I must be having a bad day but I am feeling incredibly lonely lately. My DH works weekends and I am alone with our almost 2 year olds on those days (actually we do not have a day together as a family right now). Anyways, most everyone I know is busy with their own families on the weekends and I feel like a pain always callig around to see if anyone wants to visit with us. I adore my days off with the kids but on cold days there's really not much we can do to get out and about. Entertaining them all day is hard. So I'm feeling pretty lonely and like a single mom these days. Is there a mommies group on the weekends??!

I'm sure the kids will do something so cute that I won't feel like such a loser soon enough.

 

Can I join your pity party? I am a single mom who is sick this weekend (fever 103 at highest checked), haven't been able to keep food down since Thursday. Trying to keep them entertained, fed and clean has been close to torture for me!

I haven't found any weekend groups although I admit I haven't looked very hard. My problem is working full time the weekdays are not an option leaving just weekends when I always hear the 'family time' thing. I don't begrudge anyone their family time, I totally get it. It just makes outside group events very unlikely.

 

Well, girls, dang. I'm sorry. I've been where you are a thousand times, and I'm betting I will be a thousand more. I don't think you're having a pity party at all. We're women, we get lonely, we get scared, we get hurt. It's all ok. I just wish I could make you a cup of something and ehm, I wish I could help out and take those kids for a day.
I feel for ya both. My best advice? Be in it. Let yourself be lonely. Sit down after the kids are asleep with some soppy movie and some chocolate and have a good long bawl. A really good howl. Always helps me! :hug:

 

I want to come to your pity party too please.
I am also a single mother and its awful to say but being surrounded by family is almost making it worse, I see them with their SO and all happy and it just makes me lonelier.

I think the cold weather and stupid holidays have a LOT to do with it! :hug: Hope you feel better soon!!

 

I'm with Cohlee .. I'm single too and being alone is something that is just a part of my life. But seeing family or OTHER families makes it seem much worse at times. I wish I had someone to go shopping with .. or watch a movie with (that isnt animated) !

 

Thanks! I don't feel as lonely knowing that there are others in the same boat. Now how can we all get together on the weekends, or bring over some chicken noodle soup, or just go shopping together? :huh:

 

Alright ladies, wanna feel better???? I'm married, my husband gets home at 4 in the afternoon and is here all night and all weekend, but I often feel very lonely as well. He's physically here but either he's working his freelance job or I'm cleaning or have to go run errands. In fact just last night when we had dinner, he made us turn off the TV (we usually sit together on the couch with tv trays and talk and watch tv since that's the only time it's on) and sit facing each other to talk. It was really nice and I forgot what that even felt like. In relationships where there's a SAHM, I think many men (my husband included) feel like their job is to go to work and mom's job is to handle everything else. So it never feels like I have a partner in raising the kids or that we're a working team. It just seems like we belong to two separate worlds and it's very lonesome. Things are getting better now that they're older but it was really bad at some point.

I also think the holidays have something to do with it. I get VERY down around this time and every year I come closer and closer to not wanting to celebrate Christmas at all. It's been that way since I was about 10 years old. I hope you guys find something or someone that wil get you out of your funk.

 

My DH is in the military and is gone frequently. He got back last May after being deployed for a year. We've never lived close to family since he's been in (12 years now). I have had some really lonely times and know exactly how you feel. A lot of the times that I felt lonely, I would go somewhere that I knew other people would be. We'd go to a local mall at the play area, a park, fast food place, etc. I'm not incredibly outgoing, but I'm not shy either. I'd strike up a conversation with another mom sitting alone while her kids were playing. It was nice being around other people, even if they were strangers. You might not always make a connection, but at the very least you can talk about just being a mom. Another thing to help get my mind off of being lonely was to get involved in something. A good book or a T.V. series rented on DVD that I've never seen (cuz they kids won't let me) helped me to look forward to when the kids were all in bed. Also, getting on the computer and "talking" to other people helped.