Home bedrest

I have been on home bedrest for a few days since my bp went up on Thursday. DH does not quite understand that I am not supposed to be doing anything. I am hoping the doctors will release me from bedrest once they get all the labs back. I really don't think I have preeclampsia. Anyway, how do I explain to my husband what I can/can not do and why I need to be on bedrest?

 

Well, when I went on bedrest at 28 weeks, I basically told my DH that I was to only get up to use the restroom or get something to drink, could only take the stairs twice per day (once in the am, once in the pm) and could only shower every other day for 3-5 minutes tops. I told him it was Dr.'s orders and that the doctor said she would be happy to talk to my DH if he had any questions. I told him the risks the babies would face if born that soon and that bedrest was my best way to ensure we had healthy babies. Fortunately he was very understanding about it. He did struggle with what I could and couldn't do for a few days- but with polite reminders and good news at subsequent doctor's visits, he began to understand. I stayed on bedrest the entire last nine weeks-
Hang in there and I hope your DH begins to understand and support you. It can be hard, but you can do it !!!

 

You need to tell your DH that you need to be on bedrest, because it is drs. orders and the best thing for the babies right now. If you are still on bedrest after your labs come back and he still does not get it, have him call the dr. or go with you so the dr. can explain it to him. I hope he begins to support you on being on bedrest. :hug99:

 

Call your doctor and tell him/her the situation with DH. Request privately that the doctor meet with you and DH and scare the beejeebers out of your DH about what could happen and why it's important you rest.

I had a friend (who happens to be a L&D nurse) who had to do this with her DH. The doctor set her DH straight. My doctor's have also talked privately with my DH, and in front of both us, said that if I did not feel comfy at home, then they would gladly get me in the hospital to keep me protected from the pressures at home.

My DH has done pretty good, but in the beginning, his attitude was pretty bad! It took him a little bit to realize that this was best. Keep us posted!

 

Thank you for the advice. I think I will give DH a few days to see how he responds to what I have been telling him. I think part of the problem is that I am usually very active and do so much around the house. He is so used to that. Also, part of it is his laziness. I think that he really needs to get a check-up with a doctor to make sure nothing is going on. If things do not get better I will bring her to the doctor with me next week.

 

I just finished my 11th week of bedrest for a shortened cervix (2 more weeks to go!) and have been having similar issues with DH throughout. He can be so great and then when he gets stressed he just can't deal. He's used to me doing the majority of housework so it's been nice that he's starting to realize how much I do around here. I'm sure it's hard on him to have me lying here all day but he's at work anyway so it shouldn't bother him too much. Hopefully your DH will adjust as best he can and keep in mind it's for the sake of the babies. My DH is skeptical that I even needed to be on bedrest so I think that's why he's so annoying sometimes. In the end when the babies arrive healthy and close to term it's going to be worth it and who can argue with that!

Laura

 

my husband has not been too bad. He really is not pulling his weight which does make me mad. My friend that lives with us is doing much more and my sister really helps out. I think I will lose my mind if he does not scrub out our shower tonight. I have been asking him for a week now. It is really nasty. I will use the other shower from now on I guess! At most, I only have 4 more weeks to go because my doctor told me today that I am not going past 34 weeks. With baby A's condition, there is no reason for it. He did tell me he might put me on hospital bed rest if her blood flow gets worse.