In the last couple of days, the babies have discovered hitting. DS will stare at DH while he's holding him and go "eh!" and wack him with his hand. DH will say, "Owen, it's NOT okay to hit Daddy" and he'll do it again...at one point he swiped him hard enough to knock DH's glasses off. DD saw DS doing it and started doing the same thing, though not quite as forcefully. We are both saying, "It's NOT okay to hit" and then we exagerate the pain and how much hitting hurts. When they hit each other, that's a whole other story, I intervene and say the same thing, but I am not sure what they are getting at this age...does any one have any other tips they can suggest trying? Thanks
i would maybe try going much simpler - either take their hand and say "NO hiting" or "gentle please" and repeat ad nauseum. keep your face very serious so they know it's not a game. GL!
I agree with Rachel, more simple wording. "NO hitting" was a big one in our house around that time. I also would put them down as to not give them a chance to do it again immediately. :vava: It'll pass, but until then :hug:
Our boys like to hit too. If it is DH or I or their DCP we say "NO hitting" and put them down or remove ourselves from their reach. When it is each other it is another "NO hitting" and removing the hitter from the situation. When they are removed they sit on the couch or in the chair with no toys for a mini time out before going back to play with their brother. I'm not sure if they really get the time out, but it has started to help with the behavior.
One of my girls has started pulling hair and hitting. No matter what I say to her, she laughs at me. I've tried holding her hand and sternly saying no hitting. She just laughs. I just remove her and ignore her. I can't wait for this phase to pass. It's getting old.
Yah I have a gremlin too. She smacks everybody. She knows she is gonna do it and side swipes her sister when she walks by. Kids learn by repetition and I keep saying no, redirect redirect redirect. She has had one time out. She smacked me and then dug her nails in a drew blood on my face and laufghed hysterically, I cried. And sat her down in front of me for one minute and repeated not nice hurt mom. And she knew I was sad and upset and she cried and when 1 minute passed i had her say sorry, which equates a hug for mom. I make the girls apologize to each other also when they cause each other tears. But you can find my girls tackling each other across teh living room and rolling around the floor wrestling and laughing soo.... kiddos and just learning creatures. good luck
Both of ours were big hitters, it was so frustrating. Thankfully it is phase that they will get out of. We would tell them "no hitting" and "that hurts" . When they got a little older (15-16 months), we started doing TO's in our laps for hitting. They'd have to sit there for a minute. The one thing I would suggest is be consistent and as others said keep your face stern so that they know you aren't kidding and it's not a game.
When this happens here, I will grab hand and stroke my face (or whatever he was hitting) and say "be gentle' or something like that. I say "no hit" right away and then the gentle. GOod luck. It does work!
