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After 2 yrs together my husband just walked out on me and our 3 children I am so heartbroken i don't know what to do with myself how am i going to do this I need some strength help me please

 

WOW! :hug:

These first several months have been much harder on our marriage that I ever anticipated. Is DH interested in any type of counseling?

:hug:

 

I'm so so sorry. You're probably a bit in shock right now, but I wanted to tell you that you have the strength and wisdom inside of you to get through this and come out of it even stronger and wiser. For right now, I hope you have some family that can offer support as you'll need a tremendous amount of it. Do you have someone you can talk to...a friend, counselor? Again, I'm so sorry.

 

I am so sorry. I also hope you have family that can help you. Hopefully, he'll come to his senses and realize what beautiful children he will be missing out on. Those first few years are tough..especially with kids. But if he doesn't, then you don't need that kind of a person in your life anyway that is willing to walk out on 3 babies. Those children will be your strength. When the times are tough, just look at all your babies and know how much joy they bring you (maybe the twins bring mostly stress right now, but you know that will eventually turn to laughs and giggles). God wouldn't give you more than you can handle, and you will be able to do this. Definitely rely on friends and family and keep communication open. If you need to cry, do it. If you need a break, ask for help. You and your babies will be in my prayers.

 

OMG, I'm so sorry. I don't want to bud into your business, but is the main reason why he walked out is because of the stress of having three children (two of them being twins)? I know the first 4 - 6 months were so hard on our marriage. BUT -- things are WONDERFUL now. It just takes time for the family to acclimate to one another -- and of course for the new babies to get used ot the new world around them.

If there's any support that I can give you I am here for you. I'm so sorry. You need to be strong for your little ones.

 

:hug: :hug: :hug: I am so sorry to hear this. Having infant twins is hard enough but to have to deal with something of this magnitude is horrible. I hope that you have some friends and family that can help you through this time. :grouphug:

 

:hug: I'm sorry. Is he still communicating with you? Is he willing to go to counseling? I hope you have friends and family nearby. Saying 'this has to be hard for you' is probably the understatement of the year. :hug:

 

I'm so sorry, but you can do it!!!

 

:grouphug: I'm so sorry, I hope you have family and friends nearby that you can rely on to help you out and be good shoulders to cry on. Thinking good thoughts for you :grouphug:

 

:hug: I am so sorry.

 

I'm sorry you are going through this! I agree with some of the pp about the stress of newborn twins on a marriage, and also about counseling. And if he is not willing, then also like a pp said, you don't need someone like that in your life. For me the first 3-4months were the hardest. Everything is so much easier right now - so if that has anything to do with him leaving, maybe things will change? You can get through this - no matter what the outcome turns out to be. :hug:

 

I'm so sorry. I cannot imagine how hard this is on you. Hopefully there is a way you two can work it out. I agree with the other ladies that you should go to counseling if he is willing to go. Our twins are now 13 weeks and I know how much strain it puts on your marriage. I hope you can work things out. Hugs to you. :hug:

 

:grouphug: I'm so so sorry! Just remember, you are a mom of twins, you can do anything!

 

Wow, I am SO SORRY!!! :hug:

 

I really am so sorry. You can do it and will do it because of your boys. Praying for you sweetie...
Do you have any help? friends, family???

 

:grouphug: Please lean on those around you and talk to someone about this too (clergy, counselor, your OB, anyone). :hug:

 

:hug: I'm so sorry.

 

I am so sorry for you. Know that you can do it. About 2 years ago my DH and I almost got a divorce. It was the stress of a newborn for us. He came to his senses, we went to counseling and we are doing great now and have 4 week old twin boys. I hope things work out for you but, if they don't know you can do it.

 

:hug: :hug: :hug: That is horrible, I´m so sorry this has happened to you. I dont know you but I really feel for you...

Have you got family and friends nearby who can support/help you? The first few months were tough on my marriage too, is there any hope he will come back? Please KUP.

 

:grouphug: I am so sorry. Please let us know if we can do anything, even if it's just listen to venting!

 

I am so sorry. It is very difficult when the twins are newborns. My dh and I were so sleep deprived and stressed out that we almost didn't make it and at times I didn't want to. We had a lot of arguments, a lot. We are so much happier now, we still have out moments though. Finances are tight and we have the stress of a 13 year old. I raised my older two by myself from the time I was pregnant with my second as well as mainly raising my oldest by myself. It is not the same as twins but they were very close in age. I will not kid you and say it was easy, but in some ways it was. It was so much easier than living with someone who was miserable and then made me miserable. You will be able to do it because you have to. You are strong enough, you are a mom and you will do what you need to for your kids. I hope you have help, if you don't- find it. There is a lot of help out there and here. You can pm me anytime. If he is willing try to get him to go to counseling, if not then we are here for you.

Jen

 

I am so sorry. :hug:

 

i know there are a lot of other pp that say 'i'm sorry', but i can't even begin to imagine how horrible you feel. it's so hard to have twins, much less lose the support of your partner! i know that many people on this forum are here for you....get help if you can locally, but also, please write back and keep us up to date on how you're doing. some days, i would not be able to make it without the support of this forum. :hug:

 

i'm so sorry you're going through this. just know you're not alone in this experience. so many of us on this forum have posted about marital problems and feeling like it was the end. DH and i discussed divorce around the 4 month mark. there were days when i wished he would leave because i just couldn't take the stress anymore. it's such a difficult situation and i don't think people without twins realize what a strain it puts on a marriage. i say all of this to let you know that you're not the only one who has hit this brick wall. many many many of us have hit it, too.

just try to keep communicating. keep talking to each other. if you can have someone babysit for a while and have some uninterrupted one-on-one talking time with him it may help. it's so hard and probably feels impossible to overcome now but don't give up. you'll get through this.