he is so aggressive!

Is this just a boy personality? Ds is very physical.......he doesn't often give real hugs (rarely), instead he'll kind of whack my cheeks. If we do the "where's you eye" game, I almost lose an eye. He gets excited and pinches my neck. All the time he'll lose his temper and pinch or hit his sister.

I think part of it comes from frustration b/c he isn't talking very well & has a hard time communicating. But it seems like no matter how many times I remind him to be "gentle", it just doesn't take! Is there anything else I can do to discourage him from being so violent??

 

This sounds just like my Jonah. Goodness he is a strong BRUTE!! I'm constantly saying gentle and showing him what I mean and this weekend, we started doing timeouts this weekend because he just would not stop. It's ridiculous really. He knows what he's doing now and after the 1st time of me saying no, all of the next times are mostly showing out to get my attention. Like I'll say No Biting and then he starts opening his mouth going for Morgan over and over and over again and looking at me when he does it. I guess we'll just keep doing the no biting and gentle thing. I really don't know what else to do. I have spanked him a few times but that only seems to encourage the hitting back.

Hopefully you'll get some better answers here!! I need the help too. Shannon

 

Ha ha! Not just a boy thing. Lauren is my aggressor. Sheesh, she can be brutal!! :hug99: I feel your pain.

 

Definitely not a boy thing! My Mia is such a bully. She is downright mean sometimes. I don't know what to do with her and end up just pulling out my hair!!!! I hope she grows out of it soon.

 

My son is very aggressive, he's 18mths. He hits constantly and with objects. He loves to hold onto his sisters necks and try to pull them down (he is tall). I don't remember my girls being as bad as he is but I might have blocked it out too. We try time outs (one day he spent most of the day in time out) but it doesn't seem to really work right now. Hopefully he will get it and stop the hitting. He also doesn't speak yet either so we are also hoping when he does start talking he will stop.

 

My DS is the EXACT same as the other boys mentioned above. He wants what everyone else has, does NOT want to share, and will bite or hit (tap) the other kid on the head if he doesn't get what he wants. I was told by 2 child experts that this is totally normal behavior at 18 months. But of course it's not ok. We do time outs in a corner, or crib. So far it's not working......... but I'll keep trying!

 

Jacob is my hitter. Right now that is what he goes into time out for. Also since he started throwing balls, he's learned it is fun to throw anything which can be lethal!

 

ah.....you know what? Just this week I've noticed a softer side. In the store the other day, all of a sudden he reached up to me & said "ug!" and hugged me super hard. Then yesterday he was sitting on my lap and turned around & kissed me, right on the lips! :wub: He's also been giving his sister more hugs, too. On the other hand, I saw stars this morning when he poked my eye. Maybe it's just a phase, but at least I'm starting to see the love, too.