Having fears about my c-section

I delivered my DS in 2005 with an emergency C-section due to HELLP syndrome. I was a very sick person, and wasn't even able to meet him or hold him until two days post-delivery.

For whatever reason, I am starting to have a great deal of anxiety about my upcoming delivery, which will be another c-section. I don't know why really. I think part of it, is I have this fear of widowing my DH, and leaving my DS with no mother. I know this is just absurd. But it plagues me night and day right now - I'm having nightmares about it. I guess I just keep worrying I'll either get really sick again, or I'll have some sort of freak problem on the operating table, like bleeding or something.

What can I do to put some of this fear aside? I'm afraid to even mention it to one of my peri's - I might just lose it right there in the exam room. My eyes well up with tears every time I think of this. DH tells me to stop thinking this way, and I want to - but I can't!

Perhaps a scheduled c-section date would help, but I won't really get one until we're sure.

 

:hug: I wish I knew to tell you what to do to help calm these fears. :hug: From my POV, I can see why you are having these fears. I'm sorry you were so sick the first time around. I was afraid (same fears) before my c/s and I had no prior experiences, so I can see why this is making you so emotional. I'm sorry. :hug: :hug: I think you should definitely talk to your doctors and see what they recommend. Please try as much as you can (and I know it's much easier said then done) to stay positive and enjoy your pregnancy.


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I would definitely bring it up to your OB and/or peri. It's never good to go into a c-section feeling anxious - as it does weird things with the meds.

I've had 2 and both were completely different experiences... one was an "emergency" and the other was "urgent".

What ever you do don't hold it in. Definitely find someone to talk to, medical to go over your concerns, spiritual to help you come to terms and anyone else you feel would help you

I hope you find some peace about the situation

 

I'm sorry you are worrying about this. :hug: I would definitely bring it up with your OB/peri. I know it won't be easy, but it might make you feel better to talk about it. :hug: And maybe they can help reassure you. Maybe you can mention scheduling a c/s, if they know you are having this anxiety over it, maybe they would do that.

 

I'd talk about it with your ob. A scheduled cs is much less stressful than an emergency cs and you get to stay awake