Having Another?

How many of you feel like you had to "persuade" DH to have another "Talk him into it" or "make him realize"

Whatever you call it at your house. Here, I called it realize. I wanted him to realize how even if it was twins again, we could do it again, how we would financially survive, and how I was going to reget it later if we didn't try again. We have 8 yr old Frat twins and I am so ready to try again. it is scary but I just feel like I have to!

I just wondered what other women went through b/c I felt guilty when we first started discussing it, b/c I didn't want to have to "talk him into it", but I wanted him to know what I was dealing with-emotionally. It's been a bumpy roller coaster of feelings.

We are to the point now where we are going to start trying in summer. I still pray it's the right choice for our family. I know God will only give us what we can handle.

Thanks for listening!
Tesha

 

Our twins are only 2ish, but I know what you mean. I just don't feel done. My kids are a handful, and after a disaster night at the diner - my DS would not sit the whole time, I question it myself. My DH doesn't seem to be on board, I'm fine waiting a while a longer, I just don't think I'll feel done until *one* more, though sometimes, I think I must be crazy for wanting to start again with a newborn. 2 is such nice a number also..hmm.. DH said tonight, he would go crazy if we had twins again - doesn't want to risk it. but of course if it happened I'm sure we'd be fine.

 

I know that this is it, but it does hurt to hear dh tell EVERYONE that we will not be having any more. Good luck!

 

I think I had to nudge DH a little but I didnt have to persuade him. I know he wants to have a son, but was afraid of a difficult pregnancy again and the financial aspect of having another baby. I was scared too but in the end our fears were over looked by our longing for another baby and the joy it would bring us and our daughters.

 

My dh is so not like that...if anything I'm the one who has to be persuaded...I was sooooo nervous about #4. But the insane thing is that now I think we might eventually have a #5. I'm comfortable with that, but a little nervous that dh won't ever want to stop!! LOL...make that a very nervous LOL.... eeeekkk...

 

It took me about 1.5 years to convince DH for another. He always said he only wanted 2 kids, but after twins, I never felt like I was done having children. It's not that he was against another baby, I think he was just scared it would be twins again and financially taht would be really, really hard. Finally, after the girls turned 2, we decided to start trying and I got pregnant the 2nd month. DH is so in love with his 3 girls! But, he's pretty much deadset on no more But, at this point, I finally feel like I would be ok if Olivia was our last. I would gladly welcome another, but I think that's pretty much out of the uqestion.

 

I had to pursuade him on the timing of #3. But, I'll definitely have to pursuade him on #4. I'd be ready by this time next year. I doubt he'll feel the same way. We shall see. We agreed on 4 before we were married and I think the twins scared him to death LOL.

 

I had to just keep him aware of how I was feeling...I just had such a desire to have another one after the twins, I couldn't imagine not being pregnanat again, and I wanted a "normal" birth and pg (little did I know that doesn't exist for most!) Finally when the boys were about 19 months, he came home one day and said "lets go for it!" I'm still not really sure what changed his mind..he just says "what else is there to leave behind when I'm gone". And #4, well, God decided that one for us..kind of ironic, isn't it??

 

OUrs wasn't planned but he was NOT on board in the beginning - tough couple of weeks. But we are both excited now and now that he knows its a boy he's excited about all the help he'll get with yard work when they are older - LOL!

 

My boys are only 6 months old, but I already can't wait to be pregnant. Before the boys, I was a preschool teacher. My husband is an accountant-that might answer all the questions! :lol:

Anyways...He said he wanted to be done having children at 30...That's next year. I want the boys to be 2 when baby #3 comes along. That means-by the end of this year, we need to start trying(we did IVF-we have 10 frozen, so we will be doing FET's first). Some days he will mention doing things next year, but I would be pregnant. Other times he says two is enough, he loves the boys and we should be thankful we have two healthy happy baby boys. So....We'll see what he thinks at the end of the summer when I get in contact with the RE's office again!

I just know in my heart, I am not done. I get sad thinking I'll only be pregnant twice! :lol: I loved being pregnant and I can't wait to be again. I also want to at least try for a girl. If it's another boy-that's totally fine with me too. As long as they are happy and healthy-that's what's important.

 

I'm blessed in that my DH loves children and we've both decided to let them come as they may. Sometimes he'll want a longer spacing between kids and while I don't think he was thrilled about the closeness this past time (21 months apart), he never said a word about it and just is thrilled about a baby.

Admittedly, I'm always more eager and excited about another than he is, but he is wonderfully supportive.

 

He's the one that has to persuade me! (not now...in a few years)

 

My DH had to persuade me to try! But I'm the one who spent 15 weeks on bedrest, 4+ of those in the hospital. And we've not decided to try any procedures yet, we're just seeing what happens for now. Our twins are IVF babies.