Having a bad day....

I am so overwhelmed. I feel like I really can't handle the twins and then I have 3 other kids to take care of. My mom is coming over most days during the week to help out and it's still not enough. I feel like a bad mom b/c there are times when I wish I didn't have the twins and I want my life to go back to how it was before they were born. I keep thinking that I can't do this!

 

:hug: You can do it! It is so difficult the first few weeks but it really does get easier. Just hang in there. I'm sorry you are having a bad day today. :hug:

 

Oh, gosh. I know you must be really overwhelmed! I'm sorry. They are so young and so needy right now. Please don't feel guilty about your feelings. I had the same thoughts when my twins were newborns (and I don't have any other kids-yikes!).
Can you get some other help besides your Mom for a while? You must be exhausted.
hugs, Beth

 

Big :hug: coming your way! I'm sorry you're feeling so overwhelmed. This twin biz IS really tough stuff, and you're in the thick of it right now especially with other little ones to care for. Please know that you're not a bad mom -- these are the same emotions that all of us have had (or are having). You totally CAN do this, and you WILL! :hug:

 

:hug: I promise it gets easier. I think we all had moments where we wanted to go back to life before twins, even for a second. You really are in the hardest part right now. Accept all the help and don't feel bad about it. You are a good Mommy.

 

it is ok to have those thoughts/feelings. they will pass and before you know it you will be looking back at the first few months and thinking "WOW! i made it!!" it is so hard when they are so little and are not much more than very demanding bumps on a log, as soon as you get those first smiles all the hardships will melt away!

 

I am very sorry for your hard day (and in general...times right now.) You are a great, spectacular, hard-working, ever-loving, fabulous mommy....hugs! :bow2:

 

:grouphug: The first month is SO hard! What you are feeling is totally normal. Is there any way your Mom could watch all the kids so you can sleep for an hour? Sometimes just an hour can give you your sanity back. Hang in there sweetie!

 

Lisa, being a mom of 5 is no easy task! I have a feeling you are probably not giving yourself the credit you deserve, and are doing a much better job than you think you are!!

As for your feelings, they might be normal, or they could be partly PPD. Talk to your doctor if you suspect it could be. :hug:

 

I'm so sorry. I only have 2 other kids to take care of--I can't imagine 3! Huge :hug: to you.

 

I'm so sorry! I feel the same way sometimes. :hug:

 

Big :hug: coming your way!! Take care x

 

Hang in there! Like pp's have mentioned, it does get easier! You can do this, I know it must be hard to adjust to life with two new babies when you already have three older children but you will find your routine and settle into before you know it. In the beginning I always looked at it like "ok, here's what I learned yesterday to make today easier." Good for you for asking for help when you need it, do whatever you need to to make the newborn stage easier.

 

You can do this!!! And dont worry, I still have days where I dont want kids. :hug: It does get better. I agree with Becky, could be some PPD talking.

 

I remember feeling like that at 3 weeks, and I didn't even have other kids to take care of! I'm so sorry you're feeling under it. But I believe it will get better as you start to settle into your new routine, and you all adjust! Post-pregnancy hormones and lack of sleep probably aren't helping either!

Hang in there - you've already made it 3 weeks! Just take it one day - OK, maybe one hour - at a time. :clapping:

Congratulations on your babies! You will have so much fun with them, and so will your older kids!

 

Thanks, everyone.

It could definitely be PPD. I am already on meds for it but I might need a higher dose. I see my doc next Friday. I'm sure he'll have something to say about how I'm feeling.

 

:hug: Having PPD makes dealing with even the smallest tasks seem overwhelming, and you are taking care of 5 kids! I also had PPD immediately after the twins, so I know how hard it is! I'm glad you are seeing your doctor on Friday. Maybe you could put a call into him and see if you can up your dose before your appointment? It might get you feeling better sooner. :hug:

 

Those first months are so hard, it is easy to get frustrated! And dealing with PPD makes it even more difficult. I agree with Becky, maybe you should check & see if you doctor will up your dose before you go in so you don't have to wait another whole week. :hug: