Have you ever raised your voice when the babies were crying?

I yelled at poor Juliet last night and today to "STOP CRYING!!!!!"
I feel so bad. She's just a little thing and that's all she knows how to do if she's upset.

I've been a little on edge lately and the crying really gets to me sometimes. I feel bad. :-(

 

I yelled at poor Juliet last night and today to "STOP CRYING!!!!!"
I feel so bad. She's just a little thing and that's all she knows how to do if she's upset.

I've been a little on edge lately and the crying really gets to me sometimes. I feel bad. :-(

 

That has definitely slipped out a couple times... I think it's just human nature when someone is "yelling" to yell back. I try hard to not do it, since clearly it's uncalled for and unacceptable... but we all just lose our coolness sometimes. Don't beat yourself up over a slip. I'm sure she won't be scarred for life! Hehhe... I think it would be more of an issue if you did it all the time.

 

Don't beat yourself up-you're human....

 

How could you not say that atleast once??? I do it in another room when I am on my way to the rescue. I know they don't know what we say yet, but I think they pick up on emotion and tone.

 

I end up yelling with them. Some times I yell "at" them. I feel bad too and to be honest, it makes them cry harder and louder. Don't beat yourself up, sometimes things happen. Sometimes we all loose our cool.

 

yup - btdt...and felt HORRIBLE afterward....hugs mom!

 

OMG! Yes! I feel bad too, but sometimes it just drives you up the wall. Don't be too hard on yourself. As they get older, you can explain that Mommy's lose their tempers too just like little ones and you're sorry. Everyone is human.

 

Guilty here! I have screamed at the top of my lungs both away from them and right in front of them and they got scared and cried even harder. I felt like crapola afterwards and just hugged them really tight and told them how sorry I was. My friend told me not to feel too bad about it, that pretty much every mom loses their cool at some point in the newborn stage (let alone with twins) and that they really won't remember it. When they're a little bit older maybe but now things are much easier and I'm getting more sleep at night and so I have more patience. I KNOW it was the sleep deprivation that was making me unable to control myself. I am also quite guilty of telling them to "shut up" (actually, I may have yelled it), only to feel like an idiot when I came to find that they were crying because they were hungry or tired or needed diaper change. I just was so lost in the beginning and I had to keep reminding myself that crying was their ONLY way to communicate and that it must be very frustrating for them when we are not meeting the need they require. Wish that lady that was on Oprah had been on Oprah several months earlier. Perhaps there would have been a lot less crying going on.

 

I agree with D-O-N! I have definitely lost it not just on my twins, but on my older son too and he is very normal. So don't feel to bad about it. Its not your fault that you yell when you lose your cool. I think it would be far worse if we hit them. So cheer up, we are not bad mommies!

 

Yeah, it is the worst feeling ever. A few days ago Lilly was crying downstairs with my Mom, and it woke Kate (who had fallen asleep in my arms) up just as I was slipping her into the crib. I was dirty, tired, and hungry and I just lost it. I left Kate in the crib, shut the door to the nursery and stood on the stairs yelling "Would you peole just shut up!!" Then I burst into tears and sat on the steps crying for a few minutes.

It happens. You pick yourself up. You hug your babies. And you try not to yell again.

 

Yup i am quilty of this . I felt so bad after it and i have to agree it made their crying worse but sometimes it just gets too much when the both of them are crying. I now try and get them settled and then go into another room and scream it out!!! Works for me! x

 

I too have done this! I feel horrible afterwards. Like PP we are all human and we need to blow off steam too.

 

Don't feel guilty I've done it.