Have you ever had a day...

I've had a hard few days with the babies. James has always been our cheerful, happy go lucky baby, but lately he's changing. The last few days he has been unhappy with everything. He doesn't want to play, he doesn't want to be held, he doesn't want anything I can think of. He's crying through all of his feedings (reflux is back?) and I just can't figure out what to do with him. Evan has a diaper rash and had a major melt down at bedtime tonight. I know that James is teething (two bottom teeth already in) but even Tylenol couldn't cheer him up.

I'm also stressing because the boys are 6 months old now and we have to decide whether or not to put them in helmets for their positional plagiocephaly - they both have poor head shape. My husband and I talk about it every single night before bed (and I think about it all day) but we just don't know what to do. Will time and nature take care of it? Or will we have two boys with poor head shape who can't get dates as teenagers and are mad at us for not fixing the problem when we had the chance? Or should we do helmets? I'm torn up about it.

The babies are waking up SO early in the mornings and it's throwing everything off. I don't know how to help them sleep longer.

Here I am giving tips to my friend with three-week-old twin girls when I feel like such a mess of a mum myself!

Anyway, sorry this has turned into such a complaint session! I know I am blessed to have my babies and I try my best...but I'm just wondering if anyone else has days/weeks like this! I find myself wishing the days away...I know that's bad...but I just think life will be easier when they're older.

 

:hug99: We've all had days (or weeks!) like that; don't feel bad. No parent has ever said it's easy all the time. My girls tend to switch back and forth between who's crabby. In a way I'm glad; it keeps me from labeling them. Just when I start to think, HmmmAinsley is the sullen baby, voila! they pull a change and Anni will be cranky for a couple days.

Love 'em while they're little as this too shall pass.

As for the helmets, there are many twinkies on this board who've worn them; perhaps you should post it as a seperate topic or edit this post? I'm sure you'll get some great advise.

 

Yes, I have those days here and there. My inner struggle is spending quality time with each child. I have an almost 3 year old as well as the twins. Some days I am just treading water keeping babies clean, out of trouble, food, bottles, etc...that I feel like I feed my kids and put them down for a nap and nothing in between. So I say tomorrow I will do "x" and then I dont get to it either. Some days I am better at multitasking and others not so much. But we are only one person caring for multiple children and we do the best we can and make the best decisions we can with the information that we have. Hang in there.

Rachel

 

My sisters son had a helmet and she is so glad she made that decision. She was so nervous prior to him wearing it but then once he had it it was not a big issue anymore. Good luck.

 

Kids have their bad days too, if James is teething that maybe part of his reason for being so inconsolable. As PP said some days I am lucky I can keep all 3 clean fed and down for their naps and nothing else, other days I get more done. who says you have to put them helmets by 6mo? I know sooner is better but you still have time to make that choice. really the helmets are not a big deal, just a big expense, I think us as parents have a harder time w/ them then the kids who actually have to wear them for some reason. a good friend of ours son had one and he did great w/ it. she joked it also doubled as a safety device when he was crawling and learning to pull up and would fall
anyway, I hope you have a better day tomorrow!
Alyson

 

Oh man I have so had days like that sometimes a week.... Sometimes the crabby swtiches back and forth but once I am crabby it is hard to get past it. But eventually it gets better

 

Feel free to vent here anytime. Sending you some (((hugs)))

Just to let you know, our babies have helmets. It was a really tough decision for us as well. It has been about 3 weeks and we see a huge difference already. And it was not as bad as I thought with them. They get upset when you first put them on but then they forget about it and are interested in something else. Not that I am an expert or anything, but if there are any questions that I can answer for you, feel free to pm me.

 

I think that if you are a good mom, you will occasionally feel like a bad mom. There's no way around it because we are not perfect as much as we want to be.

To be candid, I had a TERRIBLE day yesterday. Both of my babies were SCREAMING (not crying), they weren't hungry (had just been fed) and weren't tired (had recently woken up from a nap). Neither one had a dirty diaper or a fever of any sort. I needed to get my 3-year-old some lunch (and myself too -not that I matter any lol). I could barely handle fixing my child's lunch while the babies screamed, plus then trying to eat lunch. As you all know, you can't eat lunch and hold TWO babies. I was about to HAVE IT. So, I put both of the babies into their cribs until I got lunch made for my oldest and till I scarfed a few bites for myself. No, it doesn't make me feel like a good mom, but I was seriously about to lose it and putting them in their cribs for 15 minutes didn't harm them at all. It was the best thing I could do for that time.

All we can do is the best we can do for any given day.