Have a question about confrontation....or not?

Hi, our twins (b/g) just turned 1 today and we had a bday party for them. Well, at the bday party my oldest son (who is almost 3) was bouncing around with his daddy and another friend (who is 3 yr old) and the my son's friend hit my husband in the face, like completely out of the blue just clenched his fist and hit him. My husband was shocked and said, "no, we don't hit, that's not nice" and then he hit him again. My husband again said, "that's not nice, we don't hit." And the little boy said never mind and walked away. Well, a few minutes later my husband had a talk with him and asked him why he hit him and was explaining to him that it's not nice to hit, etc. I asked my husband if he told his mom (who is one of my good friends) and he said no. I just brushed it off. Well, I'm kinda bummed out and I know that kids do these things but I'm still in shock that he would hit an adult. He comes off very well mannered and not aggressive at all. So not sure where this came from. I'm not sure if I should confront her about?? I don't want to stir up any problems or for her to feel like I'm attacking her. Also, her husband and my husband work together and her husband happens to be the boss of my husband, so I really don't want to say something that could upset him either.



Should I just blow it off to save problems for later?? And if I did bring it up, how would i go about it?? I don't want to bring it up a week later, and say you know your son socked my dh in the face twice. Don't want any hard feelings or for my dh to loose his job....lol.

Thanks! But overall the party was sooo much fun, and can't believe our twins are 1?!?! Where does the time go?? I remember delivering them like it was yesterday. Sigh, the time just flies..

 

My first thought is that if you have never seen him act this way then maybe it was just the excitement of the party. I don't know if I would confront her if that is the first time it has ever happened. It sounds like you DH has already handled it. If it happens again, I would definitely talk to her b/c she may not know that it's happening.

 

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It sounds like you DH has already handled it. If it happens again, I would definitely talk to her b/c she may not know that it's happening.

I agree. I don't think there would have been anything wrong with finding your friend at the party and just letting her know that there had been an incident and your husband had talked with her son. However I wouldn't say anything to her now because it seems a bit odd (to me) to bring it up days after it happened. I mean it's not like she can really do anything about it now, so it would probably just make her feel bad.
If something similar does happen again and you have to talk to her about it, I'd just do it in a calm manner. Something like "Just to let you know, when we were playing child's name hit other person. I talked to him about that not being ok and got him to apologise, but I thought you would like to know." That way you are conveying the facts without sounding accusing.


ETA: Forgot to say :birthday: to your twins! I'm glad you had a good party.

 

I agree that this has been handled this time. If anything like this happens again, definitely go to the parents about it. And this is a great opportunity to talk to your own child about hitting, if he witnessed it.

Happy Birthday to your 1 year olds!!

 

Thanks guys! I was still thinking about it this morning and how still bothers me, but I really agree that it's not right to bring it up days later. There is nothing she can do about it now, but if it does happen again I will def say something.

 

:birthday: to your sweet babies!!

I agree with everyone else. I hope it doesn't happen again. :hug:

 

It would take a lot, but I would suck it up and not say anything unless it happens again. At the time, I would have put the child in time out. (I have a few good friends I could do that with, but not all!)

ALARMING!!! It's a control thing! If she mentions it's a problem at home, you might say something about it in a very non-aggressive way.

 

In my mind it's not worth mentioning, especially so far after the fact. Sounds like an exciting party made this child act out of character. I'd just hope for the best next time and if it seems to be a recurring problem, then it might be worth chatting to his mom (although she's probably aware of it if it's a constant thing).