Has anyone ever lied to you about having twins?

When you are out with your babies how many times has someone stopped...asked if your babies were twins, then told you they had twins, when more than likely they haven't? Sometimes I can tell by the questions they ask and then they give an "oh yeah I have twins" like it is a thought that just popped into their head. Last night we were out buying Christmas stuff. A bell ringer at a store asked if the boys were twins...I say yes. He asked if they were ID. I said yes(easier at this point than saying that I don't know and it gets people off my back so I can get on with my day LOL), then he said he had two sets of twins at home. I smiled and said that is wonderful. Once we got in the store, Chad was laughing. He had just two days before been in line at Dunkin Donuts with this guy, sees him often, they talked...two days before the man had NO children...zero,zip, zilch, none, nada.....and now he has two sets of twins LOL I don't get it. Why lie? Anyone experience this. Love other's stories

Dianna

 

Why would anyone bother lying about that especially to a stranger who has twins? I dont get why he would :umm:

 

Shortly after I got pregnant, someone I knew got pregnant and kept saying that the doctors werent sure if she was having twins. She had her first ultrasound around 6-10wks then didnt have her second u/s until 20wks.
If they thought you were pregnant with twins they would have done another u/s sooner, not waited 10+ wks!

The things some people will do for attention!

 

lol thats too funny. i dont pay attention to people but the other day an older man looks at my stroller and says, twins? i said yes, and he said in this superior voice, my daughter just had triplets. lol okay, and i care why...? im much nicer to actualy mothers/fathers i see in the store with multiples than i am to people who talk about it with no proof.

 

I have no experience of this, thankfully! I don't know why people seem to have the need to lie about things like this. I do remember when I was working, one of my co-worker cousin's supposedly was having quads (naturally while I was pregnant with twins)...this cousin lived in North Carolina but was going to travel to Delaware near the end of her quad pregnancy and deliver so she could be closer to her family. I never heard what happened with this cousin and her quads but I did find it strange that she was having quads and was going to be allowed to travel to Delaware towards the end of her pregnancy. I was never sure if the story was true or not.

 

I've only had one questionable person, a lady, that said she had twins after inquiring about mine. She was a stranger, and something about the way the conversation went made me question it.

Otherwise, I'm astounded by the number of people who do have twins or multiples now. I never noticed it before. It seems like everyone has multiples now. I think I just never paid attention.

Sadly, Cohlee, there's a lot of docs (including mine) who treat a twin pregnancy the same way they treat a singleton pregnancy. . . I had an u/s at about 10 weeks that showed there were twins, and the doc said they wouldn't do another one until about 20 weeks. We had TTTS too and found it at that 20 week u/s.

 

EVERY person who stops to talk to us, "knows" someone with twins or triplets. They could be a cousin, neighbor, daughter, etc, but I don't pay them much attention. I KNOW a multiple mom when they pass by without making me stop and they'll say "it get's better" or "you'll survive, I did". I tell my mom to leave other twin mommies alone b/c it's annoying, but she just loves bragging that she's a twin Grandma. UGH. Sorry to any of you that my mom has encountered! :laughing:

 

I've never experienced anyone lying about how many kids they have. I do get some people telling me about twins but they're honest. Once a couple who looked like they were in their 60s walked by and the wife said to her husband "That brings back memories."
Then she looked in the stroller and told me "We had boy/girl twins too. They're grown up now."
Another time I was in a grocery store and the cashier told me her niece just had triplets and I know she was sincere because she asked "Are you happy ? " with a worried look on her face as if she thought her niece would never be happy again.
There are a lot of twins out there. Even before fertility treatments became common there were quite a few. Now with so many people taking fertility drugs and having IVF there are even more.

 

I'm usually the victim of someone whose brother's cousin's milkman's sister has twins, if you know what I mean. It's amazing how fascinated people are with twins.

 

What I hate is when they tell me their horror stories.

For example - a man stopped me in WalMart and told me that he had twin boys.. we talked for a while about their names and how old they are now, and then he told me that one of them died when they were 7!!! Thanks!

Then another lady told me she had twins and one of hers died 6 days after he was born.

I get those type of stories a lot!!!

 

QUOTE(Emily@Home @ Dec 5 2008, 09:32 AM) [snapback]1098563[/snapback]
Otherwise, I'm astounded by the number of people who do have twins or multiples now. I never noticed it before. It seems like everyone has multiples now. I think I just never paid attention.

the rate has been increasing for years now. it's partly due to the success rate of fertility treatments, but a larger factor is that as a society women are waiting longer and longer to have children, and over the age of 30 you're more likely to ovulate more than once per cycle. additionally carrying extra weight makes you more likely to ovulate more than once, and as a whole our population is getting heavier. add all those factors together and you've got more and more people birthing multiples every year.

 

I don't think anyone has ever lied to me about having twins. I don't see why anyone would. It's not like they're trying to "keep up with the Jones'" or anything!

Spivey- I don't get horror stories but I get the "oh you poor mom" comments and stories. It irritates me to no end. I am always out with all 3 of my girls and no DH in sight. I get tired of people saying how crazy I am to get out. Even other twin moms make comments to me about going out. I don't get it. Don't people get tired of staying at home?

And a teacher at my school had twin girls 20or so years ago. One died a few days after birth and one died at 5 months of SIDS. She comes to look at pictures of my girls all the time. She said they remind her of her angels. It makes me so sad for her.

 

QUOTE(spiveyplustwins @ Dec 5 2008, 12:52 PM) [snapback]1098861[/snapback]
What I hate is when they tell me their horror stories.

For example - a man stopped me in WalMart and told me that he had twin boys.. we talked for a while about their names and how old they are now, and then he told me that one of them died when they were 7!!! Thanks!

Then another lady told me she had twins and one of hers died 6 days after he was born.

I get those type of stories a lot!!!


When I was pregnant I got those alot. When I went to the dentist the assistent asked how far along I was and I told her 4 months with twins. She then said "oh that's great. I was pregnant with twins last year, but they died when I was 6 month pregnant & had to deliver two dead babies". I said I was sorry, but couldn't believe she said that to me. I know that must have been difficult for her, but I would never tell a pregnant woman a horror story like that. I had two similar situations later in my pregnancy where women told me about babies dying. I was so worried from that point on til I delivered them.

On another note, we have noticed that when we take Max to his cardiologist appointments no one says anything, but maybe smiles at him. However the minute we take Max & Lily out together we are bombarded with comments and questions. I guess there is just a fancination with multiples.

 

I havent experienced anyone telling me that they have multiples, I just get the regular ol "you must have your hands full" ..etc etc etc..

I wanted to chime in the comment about there being a lot more multiples out there nowadays.. I am an appointment specialist, scheduling the DRS appts for the military people in VA and I have had ALOT of moms call for appt for twins!! I have been shocked lately how many there are. I really wish I could ask them questions, but since we are a professional business it would be 'inappropriate' to inquire about the beneficiaries personal lives. I've noticed a lot that are the same age as mine (2) and just a couple that are like 7 or 10yrs. .

 

I don't think I've had anyone lie to me about having twins themself - why on earth would you? It makes no sense to me at all...what's the point?

I have encountered more people that do have twins, or know someone with twins.
My opinion is that is largely due to fertility treatments.
Yes, there are other factors that may contribute, but I think a large number of parents with multiples used some sort of IF treatment whether it be clomid, IVF or anything in between.
They just don't talk about it. <_<

 

wOOOw! how weird

 

I have thought it. Many times. I do not "know" for sure but I have my doubts.

I am usually out w/ the boys for a few hours a day and everyone stops me. I guess I'm different tho cuz I don't mind it. I sit and talk to them as long as they'll let me. I'm bored! I like learning about other peoples' lives and I like sharing my boys. I am just intrigued by how many people have had twins. I don't care when someone says "My nephew's cousin has id twin boys.." or something long like that, but last weekend a woman from England sat with me for 30 minutes at a restaurant and told me all about when she had them 40 years ago in Europe and it was just fascinating. Of course, when the older women tell me it's just amazing cuz they didn't know they were having TWO until they came out! That is just amazing!

But, yes, to answer your question D, I do think people have lied to me about it. I KNOW someone I met 2 days ago at the park was lying when she said "Oh, when I had him (pointing to her 4 yr old) I WAS carrying twins but lost one..." It wasn't true and I could tell by the way she told me. I don't know why people make stuff up but it's okay if it makes them feel better I guess maybe she wanted something to talk about.

For the most part, I do think it's all true. I mean, fertility drugs are everywhere now and people are using them

Also, I mean, if you think about your own family (before fertility treatments) there are twins there, right?

My grandpa had twin sisters (Id who died of pneumonia by 2 months old ), I have 35 yr old ID cousins, my husbands father is a twin, I have twin brothers... My husband's mom had twins who did not make it..

So, none of those had any fertility help YET I have a ton in "my" family... It's really very common plus as we all know it's like when you get a new car and you start seeing "sooo many" of that car?? It's just cuz you're aware of it now

 

No I have never experienced this. But I always get "Oh my two are 14 months apart and they are just like twins." Ugh.

 

no, not about twins, but I do have a SIL who is 46 weeks pregnant right now! :shok:

 

I have found that people will lie about just about anything to feel inlcluded in something. I had one "friend" (I now use the term loosely, obviously) who, whenever I would get pregnant, she would too. Mysteriously. And when I'd miscarry, she would too. Mysteriously.

People are pack animals I guess. :umm:

 

QUOTE(ckreh @ Dec 5 2008, 06:05 PM) [snapback]1098888[/snapback]
When I was pregnant I got those alot. When I went to the dentist the assistent asked how far along I was and I told her 4 months with twins. She then said "oh that's great. I was pregnant with twins last year, but they died when I was 6 month pregnant & had to deliver two dead babies". I said I was sorry, but couldn't believe she said that to me. I know that must have been difficult for her, but I would never tell a pregnant woman a horror story like that. I had two similar situations later in my pregnancy where women told me about babies dying. I was so worried from that point on til I delivered them.

On another note, we have noticed that when we take Max to his cardiologist appointments no one says anything, but maybe smiles at him. However the minute we take Max & Lily out together we are bombarded with comments and questions. I guess there is just a fancination with multiples.

wow...i can't believe she said that so matter of a fact to you. It almost makes me think that she might be lying because when i talk about my daughter...i always say she "passed away". "Two dead babies" is so blunt and almost like there is a disconnect if you get what i'm saying. I don't know...doesn't sound right. As far as the fascination...multiples are double, triple, etc that blessing of one baby. It's just a special thing to experience. I never really was one of those people that went gah gah over them until i became pregnant with ours. But the minute i lost my daughter i swear they are everywhere. Everytime i turn a corner anywhere i go...there they are! Reminds me what i am missing out on.

 

i'm not aware of anyone lying to me about twins, but i had a number of people tell me about losing one or both twins while i was pregnant. on more than one occasion i asked the person, "why would you tell me that?"

 

QUOTE(Gordana @ Dec 5 2008, 02:56 PM) [snapback]1098962[/snapback]
No I have never experienced this. But I always get "Oh my two are 14 months apart and they are just like twins." Ugh.


My brothers are 14 months apart, and my mom says she would have rather had twins - because at least with twins they are doing the same thing. My brothers were both still dependent but with two totally different set of needs.

 

Some people are just liars- period.

Maybe this guy does in fact have two sets of twins at home but there is a woman working behind the counter at the Dunkin Donuts that he has the hots for and has been lying to her about being married, no less having 4 children.

I can see some loser doing that!

Some people are just sick and lie about everything.