HARD Day...Very Overwhelmed (Vent..kinda long)

I think it all hit me today. When the babies first came home, if went really well. We got into a good routine and my other two kids were great about the whole thing. Then lately it has been getting harder! Nursing is starting to get old, and my two year old has now entered his two year old stage. He has been very diffucult. Then put on top of that two fussy babies (I think I have been having issuses with not having enough milk the 2nd half of the day. I had a mingrain headach today, and I know that it is because I am so stress out. I was at church today and I couldn't even hold a conversation. I have no memory whatsoever. I am thinking about being done with nursing. The whole scheduling everything around their feeding times has been hard, and it is a lot of pressure being the only one being able to feed them. I don't konw. Anyway, sorry to be so negitive today. I just needed a good vent. I know that you guys understand.

 

i don't really have any advice to offer, but wanted to send you some ((hugs))... If stopping nursing is going to make for a happier mom, then it'll make for a happier everyone.. You can always continue to nurse some times while also formula feeding so others can help..

 

I'm sorry Stacy! Hang in there. Try to get some rest tonight and see how you feel in the morning. One of my girlfriends gave me some good advice...keep doing what you're doing for one more week, then decide if you need to make a change. That gives you a chance to get past making a fast decision that you'll regret, but also gives you time to consider if what you are doing isn't working.

(((HUGS))) It has got to be tough with two other kids. I only have the twins and am barely managing.

Shannon

 

Stacey...

It sounds like you needed a good vent.

 

Stacey, I think you need to do what makes you happier right now and I am sorry you had a bad day. We have been there and I know its really hard with other children in the house too. We are here for ya!

 

Ijust wanted to send you hugs! It sounda like it has been a hard day!I agree with the other post about doing what mommy needs to be happy and maybe that might include for you cutting down on nursing them and having them take formula a couple times a day. Many hugs to you! I have a toddler(who is in those awful twos as well) and have an idea of what your day must be like.

 

Don't be so hard on yourself. You are doing a great job. I totally understand not being to carry on a conversation. I feel like I have nothing stimulating to say. Breastfeeding does NOT make you a good mom. Don't get me wrong - I support breastfeeding wholeheartedly but it isn't easy (especially when you have other children to care for). I decided to bottle-feed my 2nd set and I think it was the best decision for my whole family. My older children have been able to help with feedings, my husband helps with night-feedings and if a friend pops by, I can hand her a baby and a bottle. Not only does it ease the load for me but I think my kids and husband have had an excellent opportunity to bond with the babies. I think my friends enjoy feeding babies, too. Maybe give it a few more days but please know that you are not alone and it isn't for everyone. Hugs!

 

I'm sorry your day was so bad. I know how hard it is having other kids to look after. You've been able to breastfeed for 4 months. I wouldn't make a rash decision, but don't feel bad if you decide not to do it anymore. I was so stressed out trying to keep up with BF that I finally gave up. But there is some excellent help here at TS if you decide to continue. I will say things started to get so much easier after around 4 months. You sound so tired. Can someone spell you just to get in an extra nap? Things look 100% better after some sleep. We'll be thinking about you! Hang in there.

 

I agree with the PP, do what works for your family. Are you drinking enough water...that could be the cause of your headaches. Vent away anytime.

 

I've had moments where I wanted to quit and dh said to wait until the end of the week and then decide. I never made it past the first day!! I hope you can do it because then on top of feeling stressed you may feel guilty too.

Remember the first few months are the hardest and the clearing is just up ahead. I know things are 10x easier for me now!

 

Hi,
don't feel guilty about stopping breastfeeding if you think that would be best for you. Remember that "if mommy isn't happy, nobody is happy" I had to stop at 6 months because I needed to sleep. I stuggled with the decision because I felt I had to do it even though it was soo hard. I held on as long as I could which for me was 6 months. Good luck