Had a new doctor today...

So I had an ultrasound and dr. appt today, everything with the babies went great, but I really didn't like my doctor. My usual doctor is very modern and comforting, but she wasn't available today so I had to see this old man doctor. The ultrasound went great and the babies are very active! When the doctor came into the room he introduced himself and immediately said no more sex, I am only 20 weeks! He just said that he wanted me to carry the babies full term, but nothing is wrong with me. He measured me and said that I am measuring 25 weeks, which I assume is if I was pregnant with a singleton? Also he briefly mentioned something about iron and I am pumping a lot of blood for the babies. I believe he said that I need to be careful that about taking a vitamin with iron, but I am only taking a prenatal vitamin. We were out of the office before I could process everything, because he ran through everything so fast. Has anyone else been told that they couldn't have sex after 20 weeks, but no complications or problems yet? I don't know if he is just old fashioned, but I am going to talk to a new doctor about that in 3 weeks since we are moving from where we currently live. <_<

 

I was told at my 8 weeks appointment with my OB that I am allowed to have sex only until 24 weeks. ( after that NO SEX). and I don't have any complications so far.

 

Sorry to hear about your bad experience. I was also ordered to have no intercourse after 20 weeks - sex was not forbidden, just no intercourse, but that was because my OB saw evidence of funneling on the ultrasound. As far as iron goes, my OB had me taking an iron supplement in the morning (in addition to my evening prenatal vitamin). I think what this new doctor was trying to tell you about pumping blood is that during pregnancy a woman's body is pumping 45-55% more blood than usual, one of the reasons why we are so exhausted all the time. Hope this helps! Sounds like this doctor's bedside manner leaves a lot to be desired - hope you are back with your usual doc soon.

 

I have never been told no sex unless I I was having some lady issue... even now I am still allowed, mr dr said go as long as i can tolerate it...

 

[SIZE=12pt]Hi there, sorry you didn't have a great experience today,
my ob also told me early on to stop intercourse at 20 weeks, even though i am sailing through the pregnancy with no complications whatsoever It is just a precaution.
Some doctors can be like that, especially older ones i wouldn't worry about it too much though, hopefully next time you will get to see your usual doctor.[/SIZE]

 

Not offer TMI, but we had intercourse until the bitter end of my pregnancy. My OB said there was no reason at all to avoid intercourse unless there are issues such as pain during sex, uncomfortable contractions after sex, bleeding or a shortened cervix. Of course there are other complcations that will call for "pelvic rest", in a normal, healthy pregnany with twins, sex is not usually forbidden. I did ask the question several times to both my OB's and my perinatologist and they all said the same thing-enjoy it while you can. You absolutely have to ask your OB for clearance though. If you feel you can't wait the 3 weeks until your next appontment, call your regular OB's office and ask him about it. Some Dr's are more strict than others and some are more cautious. Every pregnancy is different and you must listen to your doctors and to your own body. Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy.

Kelly

 

You've gotten good responses on the sex thing. I just wanted to add that the only pregnancy I've been anemic with was the twins. They just took so much more out of me, I guess. My OB had me start taking supplements, and my iron kept dropping. Then she asked me if she'd ever told me that I should take it with a Vit C. She hadn't. Once I started taking the pills w/ orange juice and a Vit. C it went back up. Oh, and you should avoid milk or other dairy within an hour of taking your prenatal or iron pills as that interferes w/ absorbtion.

 

My ob never told me No sex inless it was uncomfortable, we were still dtd till almost 30 weeks
talk to your normal Dr.

 

I asked my midwife that question at my first appointment after we knew it was twins and she said that we should stop having sex after 30 weeks because sex is one of the things they can use to twigger labour towards the end, (remember Ross and Rachel in friends?!) and we obviously want to keep the twins cooking for as long as possible... but to be honest i'm getting so huge and tired that if darling husband wants any then he'll have to catch me first thing in the morning!!!

 

I'm sorry you didn't have a good experience with this doctor. :hug: I think drs have varying opinions on the no sex thing. I hadn't hear from my OB not to have sex until I went into PTL at 24w. But others I know have been told at 20w to stop.