Gross kisses

How do you politely ask someone not to kiss your cute snuggly loving baby???????

One of our friends kissed Elly right on the mouth... and then family members kiss not stop on them...not just like on their heads but slobering all over there cheecks and neck..... to me and my fiance it is gross.... yes we kiss them, but we make sure that we are clean and as germ free as we possibly can help..... but the human mouth is so dirty... and we don't know what people where doing before they kissed our babies...... We don't mind so much when the girls' grandparents give them little kisses... but everyone else....

Are we just being rude and overprotective????

 

Fortunately, there aren't many in my family that go crazy overboard like that. It's a good thing because I too would be completely grossed out. Sweet little kisses are all that's necessary.

ETA: What realllly bothers me is when someone other than family picks up the girls' hands and starts munching on it! I mean, seriously! I have come right out and said "Um, we don't do that". Not to be rude, but yuck!

 

oh man!! let me get on my soapbox! I can not stand that!! my babies came out of my body, I breastfeed them and of course I kiss them! but they are mine - we are going to share germs -but other people??? YUK!! I am glad that I am not the only one who feels this way! I was beginning to feel like I was just a freak because I back away from everyone at the grocery store (or family reunion) that comes up to us with puckered lips!

 

I make a joke of it if its someone we know, like I am a "germaphobe" and that freaks me out. They usually get the hint. If its a stranger, I don't mind being rude!

 

*pushes Heather off my soapbox*

We are CONSTANTLY reminding my Granny to not kiss Wesley too close to his mouth. She knows the rule. Although Wesley is himself starting to give kisses and sometimes aims for the mouth. We tell people that they need to present their cheek to him. That they need to be in control or he's not going to be allowed to kiss them. And we have to constantly tell people that Wesley is not allowed to put his hands in people's mouths.

Sometimes I am rude. I don't care.

 

/me steps on the germ soapbox.

Man, this happened to me just this week. My mom came over because she needed to see her grandbabies. I needed a little break since DD had been a pill all day, so I say "YES, come over!".

She shows up and picks up DD and sticks her hand in her mouth to check for new teeth!!!! SERIOUSLY!!! I said "Um, Mom, you haven't washed your hands, please don't stick your fingers in her mouth". Get this, she actually told me that her hands were clean. So, I asked when she washed them last. She says right before she left work. Then I said that she touched every door knob and handle on the way out.....ugh - then I just gave up. She took her hands out but did NOT wash them!!!!! She decided to start kissing all over her. I didn't say anything because I figured she'd get offended after the railing she just got about hand washing. :angry:

It's nasty folks. Please don't kiss all over our kids with your germy parts. That's reserved for mommies and daddies.

/me steps off the germ soapbox.

 

say we have a kissing rule.. top of head only.. as they are washing their germy hands before holding your baby

 

QUOTE(****mws**** @ Jun 14 2007, 12:10 PM) [snapback]292055[/snapback]
say we have a kissing rule.. top of head only.. as they are washing their germy hands before holding your baby



Hey I wonder if there is a nifty ryhme for top of head kissing only.... kind of like the "If you tinkle when you sprinkle....." one for the bathroom.... or

"A kiss on the head is better instead than a kiss on the mouth where things head south..." I don't know I am so afraid of being rude.... but I guess i would perfer then to not kiss my baby so...... I feel much better now that others have this issue.....

 

I guess I'm in the minority here. To me its one thing if its a stranger or if someone is clearly sick. Its also a different story if we are talking about preemies who may have health issues. For a full term otherwise health infant though, I just can't imagine telling my mother that she can't kiss the baby.

I may have a skewed view though. I grew up with a large extended family. My parents have 8 and 9 living siblings and I have about 50 first cousins. Babies are always being passed around when we gather and everybody helps take care of them as needed. No doubt colds and the like have been passed around...but its not as much as some might think...and IMHO its worth the closeness my family has.

Just offering a POV from the other side of the fence.

 

that just happened to us while we were out 2 days ago! not 1 but 2 people felt the need to grab their feet and kiss them and their hands as well!!...that's what I get for not putting shoes on them for 1 day....as soon as they walked away I pulled out the wipes and washed them down with them...I did not let them put their hands in their mouths until I washed them ...Why do people do that without asking??? not that I would say yes but they did it so quickly I didn't even get a chance to say stop. I have no problem with family..its the strangers that drive me crazy..our family knows better anyway.

 

Don't know if you are the same but we generally do not allow shoes in our house. I just think it is disgusting to be walking in the street or sidewalk where people spit and dogs pee and poop and then walk all over our carpet...YUCK! So, perhaps you could put a sign on your door

PLEASE REMOVE YOUR SHOES

and

KISSES FOR BABIES ON FOREHEAD ONLY

or something to that effect.

 

I'm in the minority also - I've never had a stranger in a store say come up and kiss my baby but family? I'd never DREAM of telling someone in my family not to kiss my babies....I'm also not a germaphobe either - I've never told anyone to wash their hands first...it wouldn't even cross my mind probably...

 

I go to my kid's school alot the kids swarm the babies and want to kiss them and tough them on the face.

I usually just ask that people not touch or kiss the babies face. Hands are okay.

 

QUOTE(double-or-nothing @ Jun 14 2007, 02:37 PM) [snapback]292292[/snapback]
Don't know if you are the same but we generally do not allow shoes in our house. I just think it is disgusting to be walking in the street or sidewalk where people spit and dogs pee and poop and then walk all over our carpet...YUCK! So, perhaps you could put a sign on your door

PLEASE REMOVE YOUR SHOES

and

KISSES FOR BABIES ON FOREHEAD ONLY

or something to that effect.



That is a GREAT idea!!!!!!!!!! We don't allow shoes in the house either...... my fiance loved it!!!!!!!!!!
It so cute and clever..... I will post a pic when we make this sign!!!!!!

We are having friends stay with us all weekend so I must have it done before then..... Thank you so much!!

 

I'm am glad you posted this bc I thought I was the only one who felt this way. I'm kind of a clean freak but I hate when people kiss my kids....HATE IT!!!!! Thanks for the kissing rule...I might have to borrow that!

 

I allow only a few people to kiss my girls, other then DH and myself, my mother and SIL. We are the closest people to my girls. Otherwise, I have no problem telling people to wash their hands and kiss the girls on the cheek only. These are my children and to protect them, I do not mind being rude. JMO