I worked up my nerve to make a complaint about the rough nurse I mention in anxious's "soooooo quiet" thread today. I talked to the Assistant Director of nursing. I tried to be diplomatic about it, and she, at first, acted defensive of the nurse. I explained specific examples that had been hard on me, and I even cried when I told her that I dreaded weekends when this particular nurse could be heard laughing early on Sat. morns. . . how she wakes me up and makes me want to spend the day crying because I know it's going to be a bad day. Etc. I felt so desperate at first talking to this lady because not only was she defensive, but she tried to put it on me that I had not communicated any of this to the nurse and that I made the nurse feel like she had a bond with me. Once I shed some tears and she saw my frustration, she backed down. Still, it was a bit more traumatic than it should've been. Should a woman on bedrest have to worry with this kind of confrontation?!
That's really hard. :hug99: I hope somebody there comes to their senses and puts patients interest before everything else. Just a thought, will talking with your doctors do any help.
I learned from a nurse here who has given me great care that I can actually request a specific nurse. So this morning, before shift change, I requested her. She is going to help me by letting me know which nurses are on duty at certain times so I can start making requests. It seems like the longer I'm here, the more stability I need with my schedule and such to keep my sanity. . .
You can request not to have that nurse anymore. Sounds like she needs to find a different career. She's burnt out! There is no need to make a patient feel like that. I would always try to do something nice for my long term patients to make their day better. Now that I know kinda what they went through, I'm glad I did. I sure do hope you don't have to deal with that anymore. That's stress you just don't need right now and they should understand that.
You can request not to have that nurse look after you. I did it with one midwife when I was in hospital. And once it was done I felt much better and not at all uncomfortable. You deserve to have an easy ride from now and it sounds like it's unsolvable with this nurse. Good luck
I'm glad you spoke up and glad that a nicer nurse is helping you by letting you know who's on. You're right, you shouldn't have this kind of stress on top of everything else. :hug99:
Good for you!! I'm so glad that you were able to stand up for yourself. It it so hard to do long term hospital stays, especially with staff that doesn't respect your space and time. Sure we're in bed all day, but that doesn't mean that we necessarily want to hang out with them! I've had to remind people that I live in this room and can't leave or lock the door. A little respect goes a long way. I wish that the head nurse hadn't given you such a hard time about it, but glad you were able to say something. Hopefully it get's better!!!
