Going back to work.....

I'm going back to work in 5 weeks. I'm dreading it. My dh is self employed so I have to work due to the insurance. I like to work and want to work. I spent 15 weeks on bedrest before the babies arrived. So by the time I go back to work, I won't have worked in 6 months!

I'm dreading how I'm going to manage with the lack of sleep and managing daily life with 4 kids.

I know with my previous maternity leaves, the anticipation of going back was so much worse than the reality. With my older DS, I spent the last week of my matnerity leave holding him and crying.

Other words of encouragment for other working moms?

Thanks!

 

I'm with you! *hugs* I go back to work in three weeks and I am sooooooooo sad and dreading it! I can't imagine the fatigue and missing my babies. We'll make it through though. One day at a time!

 

I go back this week after not working for a year and a half. I'm dreading it too.
I think you're right when you said the anticipation is worse than actually doing it.

:hug:

 

I'm not a working mom but will be one probably by September. I just wanted to send a :hug: to all of you ladies!

 

I am a working mom and it's hard but you are right the anticipation is way worse than the actual experience. Once you get there you will have 6 months of gossip to catch up on and will be busy getting back in the swing of things. Will you miss your babies, of course, but you will have plenty to do to keep your mind occupied. :hug: to you - you can do it!

 

I hope everything goes really well for you! I'm sure it'll be a smooth transition :hug:.

 

I give everyone this advice, and to my knowledge no one has ever taken it!! But it worked for me. I think I read it in a Dr. Sears book.

When you start back, try to start on a Wed or Thursday, and schedule the next Wednesday off, too. You will work 2 days, have one off, work 2 days, have a weekend, etc. This gives you time to adjust to going back and helps you make it through those first very hard days apart. I did do this and I think it made it easier for me.

My sweet and wise sister sent me a card the week I started back. I kept it on my desk and read it daily for months. She said that working was taking care of my babies, since I was providing their health insurance and ensuring income for myself for retirement (not a burden to them one day). She also said that being their mother would make me better at my job (that has been true!) and learning things at work would make we a better mother (I hope that's true).

It was very hard to leave them at just 14 weeks, so I feel your pain. But I knew I would have to work during their childhood years and I thought this way was easier for them, if not me, because it would seem normal and they wouldn't have some huge adjustment issues down the road. But like you, DH was self-employed and I didn't have too much choice.

Good luck to you!