Getting depressed...

This is going to sound so silly but honestly I don't know what to do or how to handle this?. My ds has reflux and we are going to a specialist on the 15th...his eating has been decreasing from day to day. A few weeks ago he was eating up to 30 oz, this was while his meds were working. Then we it {reflux} started getting worse we went to the doc and they said 24oz is okay if that's what I could get in him...well I have been lucky, very lucky if I could get 15 oz in him! He is not acting any different...not more tired. He is still peeing okay. It is getting me very depressed. I am obsessed with it all and really hate feeding time. I get irritated at him when I KNOW he isn't doing it on purpose. I don't want him to be under nurished {sp??} I feel like I am over my head with all of this, all of it. This is just one thing on a long list that has been making me feel like a failure at this mothering thing...oh gosh, this could get long. Sorry...how do I get over this hump so I don't ruin days to come?? Is 15oz going to hurt him in the long run, brain development wise.

 

This is going to sound so silly but honestly I don't know what to do or how to handle this?. My ds has reflux and we are going to a specialist on the 15th...his eating has been decreasing from day to day. A few weeks ago he was eating up to 30 oz, this was while his meds were working. Then we it {reflux} started getting worse we went to the doc and they said 24oz is okay if that's what I could get in him...well I have been lucky, very lucky if I could get 15 oz in him! He is not acting any different...not more tired. He is still peeing okay. It is getting me very depressed. I am obsessed with it all and really hate feeding time. I get irritated at him when I KNOW he isn't doing it on purpose. I don't want him to be under nurished {sp??} I feel like I am over my head with all of this, all of it. This is just one thing on a long list that has been making me feel like a failure at this mothering thing...oh gosh, this could get long. Sorry...how do I get over this hump so I don't ruin days to come?? Is 15oz going to hurt him in the long run, brain development wise.

 

Hang in there and big hugs! Both of my kids have reflux too and it can be very difficult. I'd take him back to the doctor and see about getting in with a specialist first thing tomorrow. Offer lots of hugs and affection even when you are frustrated...they can't talk or I am sure he would tell you he is frustrated (and probably hungry/not feeling well). Keep pressing to see a GI specialist if this continues.

 

Hang in there love. Reflux is so hard. My pedi said one thing that I won't forget. "he's not going to starve himself" and if mom thinks something needs to be done, those maternal insticts kick in so that we know how to take care of them. That's all that is happening now. Rather than think of it as overwhelming (which it is) just know that you are a good mommy for taking the time to be so concerned for your little one. I personally think that on those days when they seem a little low, a little sick or don't really or can't really eat well, that a little more love and attention will still make it a bit better. There are so many babies that don't have someone to care after and dwell on their very well being. Consider you and your children blessed. Take it one step at a time, things will change soon. Breathe, breathe. Pick those little one's up and smile and laugh with them if it even makes you forget for just a bit, it is all worth it.

 

He might not need quite as much food right now....they sorta ebb and flow with quantity. The one thing my pedi told me was to not force them. You don't want to create issues.

Good luck at the specialist! I hope he gets some relief!!

 

, I know EXACTLY what you are going through. My twins were doing this between 2 and 4 months old. It was miserable, I hated/dreaded feeding time. I was depressed, frustrated, and hopeless. Feeding times were a nightmare, them screaming after 2oz, and pushing the bottle out, this was after 4-5 hours, NOT normal. I would stay awake at night, obsessing about how much they ate that day, and contemplating if I should wake them to try to get a couple of extra ozs in them. I don't think anyone truly understands what you are going through until they have been there themselves. People would tell me that "they will eat when they are hungry", but I don't think that is true when it comes to reflux...it HURTS to eat, why would they want to??? They were already on Axid, but it wasn't enough. I finally ended up taking them to a different pediatrician after one told me that he "couldn't help me" and "how fat did I want them to be?" Bottom line is YOU know when something is not right with your babies and docs should listen more than they do. The new ped we are seeing put the babies on Reglan, which has been a godsend. They eat like normal babies, seem hungry, and don't scream through feedings. Hang in there, and get them back to the doc ASAP. The only other things I can think of are cereal in the bottle, which you may already be doing, or giving Mylanta before feeds. PM me if you want, I know exactly how you feel...miserable!

 

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He might not need quite as much food right now....they sorta ebb and flow with quantity.


I agree. Maybe he doesn't need as much formula right now. Try giving more solids to instead of forcing formula