Frustrated!

This is coming off one of the worst holiday weekends ever- two Thanksgivings in which my boys were total messes- constant fighting over toys, screaming, not sitting to eat or eating nothing, running/ climbing around and playing with everything that is NOT a toy- other relatives perplexed... other cousins around the same age looking MUCH EASIER TO HANDLE. My boys are almost two and it is just not getting easier. They don't listen, they have been slow to talk (which I am totally stressing about!), and they are just wearing me out. I am planning on talking to the pediatrican about all of this, but it is just the age, or that they are twins, or that they are boys, or a combination of all of it? I can honestly say I am so relieved that the second year is ending, I feel like it has to get better from here??? Help! Can anyone relate?

 

i don't have any advice but just wanted to give you some big :hug: s. toddlers are tough. two toddlers at once is tougher. hang in there!

 

:hug: I agree with discussing your concerns with your pediatrician. It could be the age, they are boys, they are twins...who knows? I am sorry that this Thanksgiving was rough :hug:

 

:hug: Sorry you're having a hard time. I'd say the age and the communication issues are probably the biggest factors, being twins is probably not helping (in the way that they can play off each other) and the excitement and change of routine for the holiday likely added to the problem too.
It might be worth getting them evaluated for speech (as well as talking to the pedi in general) if you feel that's a problem. I think the best thing to do is establish firm boundries, decide which discipline method is best for you and be super consistent. Hopefully you'll have a breakthrough soon.

 

We haven't gotten to all of that craziness yet, but I feel it coming soon. Just wanted to suggest something that has really given us some hope for when they do get more into the toddler stage and controlling them will be more difficult. We take a class at our church called Growing Kids God's Way. It's a great course and they teach a lot about how to discipline your children and capturing their heart when they are young so that they are obedient to the authority in their lives, which would be you. If you are interested, let me know and I'll see if I can find a church near you that's giving the class. Just an idea!

 

I'm sorry you had a rough weekend. My boys are about the same age and I just started reading (and usuing) 1-2-3 Magic. The main thing they stress is to remain calm but firm. When they are doing something you don't approve of, you raise one finger up and say 1, wait 5 seconds and say 2, after another 5 seconds if they still don't stop, they go into timeout and you don't say a word. After timeout is over, you again don't say a word and continue what you were doing before the timeout.

I've only been using it for about a week and I must say it's working. Many times I only need to get to 2 before they stop.

BTW: Mine also have a speech delay which makes things much more difficult. We are in speech and developmental therapy weekly.