found out sexes - What?

Well, we did IVF and got preggo with twins!! Yay! Now my hubby is a redneck farmer and is one of 4 boys. We always assumed (don't know why) that it would be 2 boys! the further along i got I thought maybe a boy and a girl. Well guess what? Yep, 2 girls. We are happy of course, but i feel just as shocked as when i found out it was twins! I have a 13 DD and she hoped boys too. We have all been imagining these little boys all this time. Well I guess it goes to show you that you can't plan with babies! They will throw a wrench into it every time! I feel bad for being a little dissappointed, I know we will love these little girls just as much. Any others out there who can make me feel not alone in these feelings? I feel like a bad mom for my emotions!

 

I know how you feel. I always pictured us having a boy. Now we have 2 girls and I wouldn't change a thing! I know not all boys are loud and crazy but my friend had a boy 2.5 months after me and he is a maniac!!! I couldn't imagine having two of him crawling around!

I love having girls - they are sweet and calm and I LOVE buying them clothes

 

Well I'm glad I'm not the only one. I have 2 boys and I am expecting 2 more. I thought for sure that atleast one would be a girl. I keep asking the sex at u/s to see if they made a mistake. I love my boys and would not trade them for the would, but I would like a girl to do girl things with. They are heathly and developing great so I am thankfull for that.

It has been over a month since I found out and I have come to accept that I will be surrounded by boys. My poor husband (who's fault it is, but have no way to change it) had to listen to me all the way to the car and home from the ultrasound appt. I told him never to touch me again. We still laugh about it. Congrats! You will get over it fast when you see 2 heathly babies.

 

We felt that way before DS2 was born. We swore he was a girl...had a name picked out and everything. I was disappointed, but it really worked out and the feelings were gone in a few weeks after the u/s. The second you meet them, you'll forget all about it and be so excited! Just think of all the fun things you'll get to do!

 

i thought for sure i was going to have one boy and one girl but nope i was proven wrong with two girls. don't feel bad i think we all go thru it at one point and time.

 

I was shocked to find out that we were having 2 girls also - I secretly wanted at least one more boy - but let me tell you -
these little princesses are SO incredibly wonderful - and to watch them together is the sweetest thing ever!!! I am so completely in love and the disappointment has totally faded!! just wait til you see those sweet girls!!


CONGRATULATIONS!!!!

 

Before I had my first son...i had always dreamed of girls. When we had my u/s and the lady told me that it was a boy it was so hard to hide my dissapointment from everyone (it was a 3d scan with the WHOLE family!!). I just said "great...a boy." I felt really bad also for these feelings, but I just couldn't help it.

Now, that I have THREE boys...I am so in love with them and so glad that I never got a girl!! Boys are fun.

So don't feel bad for the way you feel. It is normal and a lot of us do it. And as time goes on, you will be so in love with your girls that this will be a distant memory and a funny story

 

I think you are totally normal. I really never expect to have children at all. Then the hubby and I realized we were getting to an age to where we had better make up our minds once and for all. So, we stopped trying not to get pg and whammo! I came up with twins. I thought "oh how efficient of me!" Then I thought it would be perfect to have a boy and a girl. I found out one was a boy very early on and then only after an amnio I found out both were boys. I was very upset....I remember crying that I did not know anything about boys and how could I pass on any of my "wisdom" to them? They don't want what I have to teach...they want bugs and tools and to see who can eat the most mud. Now that my boys are here...of course I can not even imagine our family being any different....you get over the feelings and enjoy them. Good luck to you.

 

I think your feelings are totally normal. I think everyone, at some point or the other, secretly wants/hopes for one sex or the other, or both. I never dreamed we would have a boy and a girl, but can't imagine my life any other way. It may take some time to sink in for all of you, but I bet once they are born you won't want it any other way!

 

I am so glad to hear that there are mommies out there that feel that way. we are hoping to find out the genders at my next u/s which is on July 5th and I am trying so hard not to get my heart set on one thing so I won't be disappointed. I'm failing though and just admitted to dh today that "my heart" would love to have 2 girls and "my head" would love to have one of each. I guess my last "choice" would be 2 boys. And I feel really horrible about that. I guess this is probably the primary reason I want to find out now and not keep it as a surprise. Who wants to be disappointed at the birth? Now that would be horrible.

 

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Now my hubby is a redneck farmer


Ok, first of all, that cracked me up!! :laughing:

I felt the SAME way during my u/s. I grew up around boys and have three brothers, dh has one, so I figured we had to have a boy in there. When said said Baby A is a....GIRL! We were like "Aaawwwwww!". Then she said Baby B is a.....GIRL! We were like "HUH?!!" and then we cried - good tears. Not that I had my heart set on a boy but I have always wanted one and I was slightly disappointed - like only for the first day. And then I was so excited about two girls that I made her recheck four times (during the next couple of months).

So you are definitelly not alone in these feelings.

 

Throughout my first 20 weeks I swore I was having two boys. During *that* ultrasound we found out the gender of Clayton first. Then I noticed that the 2nd baby was missing something! I was secretly hoping for an even split! Your girls will be the apple in everyone's eyes!

 

I had the same feelings as you. I have two big girls and I was sure my twins would be at least one boy. Then I found out I was having identical twins and I thought forsure two boys. When I found out I had mixed feelings. I was excited, but I so wanted a boy for DH and DD's. I know I will be dodging comments from family and friends, but at this point I couldnt be happier. As my hubby says health is the main thing and he will be our king. I just tell him to save up money for cosmetics and clothing. Good Luck.

 

I would have been disapointed if i didnt get my boy. It would have been all girls in the family... and no boys for the Grandparents.. I REALLY wanted a boy and i got one..

 

Congratulations on your girls x

 

I was totally shocked when we found out we were having 2 boys. I just imagined myself having little girls ever since I was a little girl. I really wanted to buy little dresses and girlie stuff.

Since their birth I have since changed my sentiments; I love having little boys and couldn't imagine my life being any different other than winning the Mega Millions Lottery. :lol:

Congratulations!

 

I find out the gender of my twins in about 9 days at my next u/s. I am praying that I have one of each, and I know they are fraternal coz they have seperate placentas, so it is a possibility. I know I will be fine with 2 boys but am afraid I might be a little disappointed if I have 2 girls, mainly for their Daddy's sake. But as everyone keeps saying I think whatever they are I will be fine with it and once they are born any preferences will fly out the window. Fingers crossed 2 healthy babies of any sort.

 

You sound just like me!

I had IVF w/ a 5 day blast transfer. I read somewhere that you have a greater chance of boys with this type of transfer so I was SO convinced we were having 2 boys. I even bought a boyish crib set before we found out.

DH thought it was one of each and almost had me believing it too. We were SHOCKED when the u/s tech said it was 2 girls. And yes, I would say disappointed too because I had really convinced myself that boys would be "easier."

What's funny is that when I told people that it was two girls, everyone told me that it made more sense since I'm so into girly things. DH couldn't have been more excited to have girls...he was the one that picked out their pink bedding set, bought them pink carseats and wore a pink shirt for our father's day outing so he would match them!

I said just yesterday that I'm so glad we have 2 girls!!!

 

I think this is so normal. I would love to have a boy/girl combo and I am guessing it will be both boys. That is kind of what my instinct is telling me.

I know if we have two boys, I will feel a little upset since I don't think we will have any more children.

I know if we have two girls, my DH will be sad. I think he needs a boy, and the loss of our son at 22 weeks will always be extra bittersweet for both of us.


...and like most people...we really do just want two babies to love, but we are human and have our hopes and dreams already in place.

 

Thank you all so much for your comments, we are getting used to the idea of girls, as I knew we would. It's funny because when I was pregnant with my DD I was terrified to have a boy and wanted a girl so bad! I know we will love them to pieces! As I said, mostly I was hoping for DH's sake. thanks again for telling me I'm not the only one!!

 

You are not a bad mom at all, you're just human. When you find out, it's like a door closing, but what you find behind the door you opened will be every bit as wonderful.

I was rooting for 2 girls for me, and I have 2 boys--and I cannot imagine anything better than them now.

 

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I know EXACTLY how you feel. My husband and I were really hoping for girls so when we found out I was having two boys we were shocked. I must admit that I was a little disappointed and sad b/c I really wanted twin girls. My sister has twin girls and they are so stinking cute and fun. Now that I have had a month to let the reality settle of having two man babies in my belly I am more and more excited for the little guys to arrive. I still have my moments when I wish I were having girls and those thoughts make me feel like a wretched mom but the more I feel those boys moving around the more I am so freaking excited to meet them and the less I have those 'if only they were girls' thoughts.

 

I completely understand what you are going through...DH thought all his life he would be the one in his family to have twins...(LOL) and to have girls, there are 11 boys and no girls.....and now, we had two boys. I dunno what this baby is now but....when we found out that the twins were boys, he told the ultrasound lady that she was wrong and then yelled at my mom and I and didnt talk to anyone that day. he actually cried. On down the road, we wouldnt take it back for the wrold, these boys are awesome. Love them to death and if we have another boy it will be so much more fun.

Amanda

 

I felt that way with my son, but wouldn't have it any other way. This time I was really hoping for girls to balance us... and I got them.

 

I didn't read the other responses but there are alot of them so hopefully you aren't feeling so alone. I was convinced we were having 2 boys or at least 1 boy, too. Heck, I had even purchased some blue pants and onsies! I'm not generally a "girly-girl" and have always enjoyed the company of the boys over the girls. Sports, cars, politics, mouth like a sailor usually doesn't help you feel too much in common with the other girls who love to shop, make-up, etc. I didn't have any idea what I would even do with girls. I hated pink. I hated dresses.

Imagine my shock - and, yes, disappointment - when we heard two girls. I felt terrible for feeling that way and, truthfully, it didn't last long. Like I said - I just didn't know what to do with girls. It's funny though. I wouldn't have it any other way and I secretly hope this one will be a girl too so we can continue with our "sorority" here in this house. Although I'd be just as thrilled with a boy this time too. BTW - I really LOVE pink now. LOL!

Congrats on your twin girls!

 

I desperately wanted a girl. When I found out it was twins I was hoping for at least one girl. We got 2 girls of course so I was delighted. However, I would have been disappointed if we had got 2 boys.

 

You are so normal!! We have an older DD and when we found out that we were having twins I just knew it was one of each. Twins run in our family, both of my grandmothers had twin brothers so I knew I was destined to have the same. There are also 7 grandaughters so it was time for a boy. DH is such a man's man so I really wanted a boy for him too.

At our u/s she scanned over to Baby A and I said "great, that's the girl!" (I secretly feared 2 boys!) and when she scaned Baby B and she said "and that's the other girl". I about fell off the table! It did take a little while to get use too. I felt so guilty about it, I just never dreamed we would have 3 girls.

I have to say that I cannot imagine not having all girls. It is so fabulous! They are all so close and I hope they continue to be that way. It is so much fun and I'm anxious for all the girl trips, shopping, spa days, and all the fun things I have done with my mother and sister. You will love it!!!

BTW - mine were suppose to be fraternal, but it now looks like they may be ID.

 

I am so appreciative of all of you replying and not critisizing! (sp) I myself have 3 sisters and a brother. All us girls are so close I can't imagine it any other way either. I know this will be great. Besides, girls can drive tractors too!!! We have picked names, Kiera Elizabeth and Kamryn Ann. MNs are after both our mothers. thanks again!!