? for those with kids fussier about clothes

Sarah is definitely picker about what she wears. She has her own way of doing girly. While I have figured out most of what she'll like, I do get some suprises. Here's my dilemma. Right now Children's Place has sweaters, hoodies, fleece, etc. marked down to $6.99 and $8.49 for most of it. I would really like to buy ahead for next winter. They will be going to school next year and I want some heavier clothes for recess and bus stop. And at that price it's hard to beat. Sarah has vetoed all of the clothes. She wants none of them. We came to an agreement on one sweater. I would really like her to have more, but at the same time, she really will not wear something she hates. And I don't feel it's worth turning clothes into a battle.

So do I buy ahead and hope she's happy when they come out next winter? She's told me that aren't pretty or cute. Do I buy them, hide them, and keep the receipt in case I have total rebellion?

I really don't want clothes to be a battle, but on the other hand, I try and help the budget in any way possible.

Marissa

 

It's just not worth the money or aggravation for me to buy clothes without Sam there to try them on and tell me if he'll wear them. Fortunately, he's ok about jackets, but they are about the only thing I bother buying without him. In order to save $, I end up taking him to Children's Orchard or the other consignment store in town. He understands that that the lack of choice there is a consequence of being so picky.

I hope that your Tim is like my Kiko -- easy going about clothes. At least one of them is!

 

If a kid is picky about clothes, buying stuff without asking them or buying stuff they say they won't wear is a waste of time and money, in my experience. And my four older kids are ALL picky, so I have some experience, lol.

 

Maybe you could buy a couple of the sweater she's said she will wear and then keep an eye out for other bargains.

 

Children's Place will take returns for 6 months with a reciept. I would buy the stuff, put it away, and pull it out again just before the 6 months is up and see if she's changed her mind. If not, you can take the stuff back and not be out anything.

 

Thanks guys. I just thought of a new tactic that might work. My parents are coming next week to visit for their bdays. Perhaps a shopping with grandma to tell her how cute everything is might be the trick. I've noticed that usually she's pretty ok with anything that comes out of the stash that's hidden up high in her closet. Somehow, having something new that she can wear without going to the store, usually makes her pretty happy. That always happens with hand-me-downs from other people. It doesn't matter what it looks like and that she didn't get to pick it. It's that someone gave it to her and she'll wear it to death.

Timothy, thankfully, is a lot more laid back. He has somehow grasped that it truly is much harder to find boys clothes that are special in some way and he's just thrilled with whatever I can find that is special for him. I got him some guitar flip-flops off of the Children's Place website and he was so happy and appreciative.

Marissa

 

Your the parent, buy it. She'll wear it. Letting her become this picky now will cost you thousands later.

 

I have one picky and one not, so with them both being the same sex, I have one child with way more clothes lol. Its not worth specifically buying her clothes ahead as it would just be a waste of money most of the time (well would be if her sister wouldn't wear them).

 

Breakthrough this morning. Sarah is an absolutely logical child who just really needs a good reason to go with the program. It's absolutely bitter cold today. About 8 degrees at the moment. I started by telling her that my mom is coming next week and my mom really wants to go shopping and help her pick some sweaters (I did clear this with my mom). Then I pointed out that we weren't playing outside today because it's too cold, but next year, she would still have to go to school and ride the bus on days this cold. And all I wanted was to make sure that she was warm enough. I saw the wheel s turning and a lightbulb going off. She smiled, giggled and agreed. Then she told me she didn't understand, but now she does.

So now we have a fun shopping trip to the mall planned followed up by a trip to the new indoor play area that the mall just put in. She can be picky sometimes, but this irrational prejudice against sweaters and hoodes was a little hard to figure out. Usually her pickiness runs to wanting another color of shirt than the one I'm holding and wanting a skirt if possible instead of pants. But I guess I did have to let her get pretty cold in a skirt a few times to see that she might want some jeans or corduroys. I guess that goes for sweaters also.

Marissa

 

QUOTE(CapeBretoner_123 @ Jan 15 2009, 11:50 AM) [snapback]1148012[/snapback]
Your the parent, buy it. She'll wear it. Letting her become this picky now will cost you thousands later.

Force them to wear clothes they don't want to wear and you'll pay thousands later for therapy. I guess it's a toss-up as to which is ultimately more expensive, but I'm glad to hear that taking the time to talk respectfully with your daughter yielded results you can both be happy with!

 

Kelly is more picky than Kyle, when it comes to clothes. Kelly is definitely like your Sarah, in this way: QUOTE
Usually her pickiness runs to wanting another color of shirt than the one I'm holding and wanting a skirt if possible instead of pants.

Kelly will choose a skirt over pants any time, so I have gotten leggings in a number of colors; she wears them with her skirts and dresses, when it's cold. She will also occasionally complain about a shirt I put out for her; I usually let her pick out another one, and then she'll wear the one she refused a few days later. She doesn't like stiff denim (she calls those jeans "pokey pants"); I buy soft jeans and stretch pants.

I am glad you had such a positive discussion with Sarah this morning. You will have to report back on the shopping trip and let us know what she got.

 

QUOTE(rissakaye @ Jan 12 2009, 11:33 PM) [snapback]1144019[/snapback]
Sarah is definitely picker about what she wears. She has her own way of doing girly. While I have figured out most of what she'll like, I do get some suprises. Here's my dilemma. Right now Children's Place has sweaters, hoodies, fleece, etc. marked down to $6.99 and $8.49 for most of it. I would really like to buy ahead for next winter. They will be going to school next year and I want some heavier clothes for recess and bus stop. And at that price it's hard to beat. Sarah has vetoed all of the clothes. She wants none of them. We came to an agreement on one sweater. I would really like her to have more, but at the same time, she really will not wear something she hates. And I don't feel it's worth turning clothes into a battle.

So do I buy ahead and hope she's happy when they come out next winter? She's told me that aren't pretty or cute. Do I buy them, hide them, and keep the receipt in case I have total rebellion?

I really don't want clothes to be a battle, but on the other hand, I try and help the budget in any way possible.

Marissa


Sounds like everyone is happy. My dd is the very picky about her clothes more so about they way they fit (even her underwear and socks). I pretty much take her with me and have her try everything on before we buy it. Then when she gives me a hassle about wearing it I just tell her, you liked it, tried it on and it fit, now you are going to wear it. It has worked so far but I know which outfits are her favorite and which ones she does not prefer so most days I prefer the easier softer way. But when she picks out her clothes for school at night and startes whining about how they fit in the morning she is pretty much stuck with her decision. Only because it takes her forever to get ready for school some days 45 minutes just to get dressed not even her hair and teeth. On the flip side Nicholas will wear anything and is dressed in about 2 minutes. Gotta love there indivualism