For those who already have kids

When did you tell them that you were expecting again?

We never told the girls that we were expecting last year. So, they have no idea that I m/c'd. I was just wondering when you shared the news with your kids and how they took it.

 

We told our son as soon as we found out. He's only 2 1/2 though, but still very excited.

 

i told my children right away. some people have a problem with that but i figure that surprising them with two babies is even worse. they are part of the family, too. why should they not know why i am so sick and moody?

 

I was about 6-7 weeks into my pregnancies when we told the other kids. I wanted to make sure we told them before someone else made a comment, they were still pretty little and I didn't want to confuse them. They were pretty excited. With my last pregnancy, the boys had been through another pregnancy so they knew what to expect so they were even more excited. The bad thing is now they think babies only come in "2's" :laughing:

 

I have also had miscarriages. I told my boys about the new babies. They are very excited. I think my almost 5 yr old needed the extra time getting used to the idea of not being the youngest. They also know about the siblings that I lost. HTH

 

We told the girls that we were going to have a baby just before the 12 week mark. After that we told the rest of the family. A week later, we had to tell everyone it was 2 babies! It wasn't until the babies started moving more at around 22 weeks did they start asking questions. Even now I think it is just starting to become more of a realization, although I don't think they will completly get it until they see them, mainly because most people have 1 baby at a time.

Juli

 

good question... my older dd was only 13 months when I found out I was expecting again... so I didn't say anything to her until later... don't know if she fully grasped it until my belly got big. I haven't told my kids yet. The twins are too young to really get the significance anyway... DD might understand more, but I still don't know if it would be "real" to her until my belly starts showing. Plus I've had some bleeding issues and haven't wanted to say anything yet. I don't think any of my kids will be sympathetic over me not feeling well or being tired...they are too young to empathize well... :cray:

 

I told my daughter right away.. she seems pretty excited that there are two babies in mommys tummy...

 

My son was 2 when I became pregnant with the twins. When I started getting a big belly we started talking about our new babies in the belly and reading big brother books. I'm pregnant again now and we told our son around 9 weeks. I wanted to wait until 12 weeks because I've had a miscarriage as well but we wanted to tell him first and for various reasons decided to tell our family earlier than 12 weeks. He is so excited! The baby is due the day before his birthday and he's telling everyone it's his birthday present. The girls are still pretty clueless. We've talked about it with them, but they just looked at my belly and said "no way!" I think when I look more pregnant, which should be any day now as I'm 23 weeks, they'll start to understand and believe it.

 

your girls are adorable

 

We told ours after I was about 8 weeks I think. My youngest who is 3 needed to know so he knew that jumping on mama's lap may hurt the baby, so that made him extra careful.

Netty

 

We have told the kids right away with all of the pregnancies.

 

I've had a m/c so I understand your concern here. Honestly, we told our girls right away and we talk about the baby alot but they are 2 and have no clue what it all really means. LOL!

I guess it would just depend on how much you feel your kids can comprehend and how they would cope with a loss if, God forbid, that should happen. My cousin found out her baby had trisomy 18 at approximately 19wks and lost the baby. By that point, her 2.5-3yo DS had already started really liking the idea of the new baby and had become somewhat emotionally invested. It was really difficult to explain to him in terms that he could understand that there wasn't going to be a new baby w/o totally freaking him out, kwim? It's such a fine line to walk and I honestly don't know how I would handle telling them if they were older.

 

we told our dd when we had our u/s at 7 weeks. She was there with us and we told her that there were babies in mommies tummy and then we told her there were two. She is excited and tells everyone that she is going to be a big sister. The best part is that lately she has a baby sister in her tummy and her name is Rosie. We are currently throwing that name around just because is so cute that she has a baby inher tummy and that she named her! She also tells me that she is feeling sick too. Especially this week since I have been so sick! It is really cute.

Basically once we saw the heartbeats we told her. I know that anything can happen but the chances of a m/c go down significantly so we thought it was time to prepare her.

 

I told all of the kids as soon as we found out that I was surely pregnant. Jill was (and is) extatic, Brandon seems not to care much, and my other three... they're not as happy...

With Brandon I told them all around 8 weeks, the trips were pretty happy, but still, they didn't like the age gap between Renee and Jill, so they thought it was crazy to have another one. Renee was very very happy. Jill didn't really care, but since everyone else was happy, she was too.

With Jill I told all of them right away. They were 6 and 8 if I remember correctly, and pretty happy.

And with Renee I told the trips as soon as we got an ultasound (but they were too young to care).

 

We told our DD as soon as we found out with the baby that we lost. We didn't tell her that we m/c'd that baby, but we did get pregnant with the twins 6 weeks later. We told her when we were 8 weeks pregnant with them when we found out it was twins. She thought it was just one long pregnancy I think.

 

We told my son (who was two at that time) I was pg when I was big enough to show.

For this time around - Gabe was six and Evie was 3-4 (turned four half way through). Gabe found out at our first appointment. He remebered going there when I was pg with Evie and he just asked me (he is a smart kid) I was 8 weeks - but I told him that just because I was pg didn't mean there would be a baby. It is kind of funny because he looked at me and said, "There will be two babies." He was right (we didn't know we were having twins until 11 weeks)

For Evelyn, she found out at that 11 week ultrasound. When we saw twins - both with heartbeats- the ultrasongoropher called my husband and the kids in to see. That was when she found out.


Angel

 

We waited until 15 or 16 weeks, because there was some uncertainty in the beginning of my pregnancy -- I was actually pregnant with triplets, and one baby wasn't expected to make it (and didn't). So, we wanted to be sure we told our daughter the right thing....

Also, she turned 3 right around the time we told her, so we were able to combine the news with putting together a new "big girl" bedroom for her with new furniture, etc. It worked pretty well, and she was nothing but excited (and impatient) during the whole pregnancy. So, I think it depends on the age of your kiddos, too...

 

We told our son as soon as the h/bs were seen on the u/s.