For moms with singletons after twins

I am now starting to panic...

Not because of the baby thing...I can do that...esp with one? Nop problem!

Its my boys...Im in a panic for them...for my bond with them...I know it will change and I am so scared.

Please tell me it all works out and managable.

 

Hmmmm... I did not have 2 to start with, but I did have 1. She was just about your boys ages. I felt the very same way that you do right now. But we made it a point to let her continue to have mommy or daddy dates without the babies. THis really helped. We actually have continued those up until about 2 weeks ago. When Skylar got to join us for the first time!!!! Boy was that a transition!!!!! But we survived!!! You will do fine. Just make sure that you have some sort of special time doing things y'all already love doing so that new memories are made both with the new baby and without!!
Hope this helps a little.

 

You know what the great thing about having that second baby is? You realize how much you're able to love. Your relationship with your boys will definitely change. You'll see them through different eyes and realize they aren't babies anymore, and I think that's the hardest AND the most amazing part....just to see what they're really capable of, and yourself too.

Some things we did for our oldest...
-One on one time with us
-Bought a few "big brother" gifts (especially since he was 6 years old!) throughout the pregnancy
-Included him in the planning...decorating the nursery, going to one or two doctor's appointments, ect.

I know it's easier with one to do those things than it is with two, but it really helped us a lot. I know I don't fully understand the twin thing yet, but I *can* tell you that it'll work out. You'll be amazed at just how much your heart can grow.

 

They will love the new baby!! They will still love you and everything will be great! The worst part is the worrying that you put yourself through!! :hug99:

 

Mandy, I went through the same thing. I found myself sobbing on the couch one night worrying about it. How would they feel? How can I love all 3 of them with all my heart? Will they think I don't love them as much? All for nothing. My twins love their little brother, he adores them. And I have enough love to go around......