First Two Months of Twinfant At Home

Hi,

I'm from the expecting forum (obviously, by the ticker ). I wanted to ask experienced twin moms what can I do to prepare myself for the first two months of twins at home?

Thanks for your help!

 

We have a really neat sticky with some stories of members on 'Surviving Twinfants' here is the link, enjoy!

http://www.twinstuff.invisionzone.com/wiki...iving_Twinfants

 

You may also want to check out the First Year Handbook. The sticky at the top as the links to the individual links in Wiki.

And congrats on your pregnancy! Not much can REALLY prepare you... but if you know it is going to be hard, then at least you might be pleasantly surprised if it ends up being easier than you anticipated.

 

be flexible and take each day as it comes.

 

My boys are 6 weeks now, so this is what I would say, based on my experience:

Try to keep perspective and realize that no matter how tough one hour, day, week, or month is, it will pass and things will get better.

Take as much help as you can, and get as much sleep as you can, whenever that may be.

For me, learning to feed them together (even if that means waking one to eat) has freed up a lot of time and made my life so much better.

If you breastfeed, be patient, but don't be afraid to seek help and support.

And be sure to enjoy all of the wonderful moments, too... they grow so fast!!!


Best of luck to you... congrats!!

 

You will probably have absolutely no sleep (at least we didn't). That was probably the worst thing..for a good 4-6 months, we had no sleep. But you will survive and just know it gets better.

Also, for me looking back now.....try to take time and really enjoy each baby and just eat them up! My DH has always been a HUGE help and I still feel like I missed out on my two when they were newborns because we were so busy and no sleep. I was always hurrying to feed one to get to the other (when DH was working) and now that they are running around being toddlers, I wish I could just hold each for a while and feed them and smell them and cuddle, etc. I feel like I missed out on that.

 

I planned on things being worse case scenario...up every hour, etc so I was pleasantly surprised. Just take it one hour, one day at a time. It will get better and it will get easier, I promise! Just hang in there and do whatever it takes to get through it.

 

Get rest now!!! You will crave it! My advice is to have everything within reach. You do not want to have to be runnind all around the house just to find a diaper or a wipe. We live in a small condo so everything was within reach. I could not imagine having to hike up stairs!!

 

My twins are 1month old, so I am in the middle of the craziness now. I would say the best things I have done are getting as many prepared meals as possible before the twins came - tell friends to bring food when they ask what you need, buy diapers - newborn and size 1 and sensitive wipes in bulk, have everything ready to go before you hit 36-37 weeks pregnant, and be willing to ask for help(I have lots of issues with this one still) GOod luck and know the time goes fast so enjoy them.

 

Firstly, don't be afraid! One of my girls was a colic baby and I'm still here!

When I was gearing up at the end of my pregnancy, I was almost having panic attacks I was so anxious for what the future held. Thing is, when you're "in it" as I say (meaning, at the exact moment when things are get a little hairy), just b-r-e-a-t-h-e. Honestly, that worked for me. Sometimes, I noticed I held my breath a lot trying to get through those moments. But consciously reminding myself to breath slowly and deep helped me relax and just hang in there.

Oh, and not counting the days. As in, "5 more days and they'll be 6 weeks old". It's tempting to do because as they get older, things start to resemble normalcy, so you just want the time to pass. The more I looked at the calendar, the longer it seemed to be. Not that I was wishing their lives away, but I just wanted PEACE! And ya' know what....it's here. They're crazy, but in a fun way. Not in a is-this-ever-going-to-end way.

And like pp's...sleep whenever and wherever you can and TAKE THE HELP OFFERED!!! Honestly. It's amazing what someone folding your laundry will do for your sanity. Most importantly, it's so normal to be a little freaked out right now, but just remember that all the people on here are either going through it too or have been through it. You're going to be just fine.

 

Thanks everyone! All of these comments are wonderfully helpful .

 

Everything will be wonderful. It will be hard but you will make it through. You may not think so but you will. Especially when they are both crying for a diaper change or a bottle or for no reason at all and you are by yourself. We are at 9 weeks and i have survived so far. Oh and from my experience so far things change daily. Just when you think you have it figured out it will all change. But then you look at their sweet little faces and hands and feet and everything about them is wonderful. And do not be afraid to let them cry a little, it is more than likely going to happen with two. I know that this may sound bad but I have gotten kind of used to the cries and I get to them as fast as I can. And if you are like me the worst thing is asking for help that everyone says we need. I want them to be my babies and be able to do it all by myself. But I do have help most of the time from their big sis & daddy. oh yeah make sure you have 2 bouncy seats. we use ours all the time.
Good luck
Missy