First Time venting on here!

I'm mad, nervous, and upset..all of the emotions that have described me throughout this pregnancy!! My mother-in-law was supposed to be here last week.. She's driving down to GA from NJ..but then the tropical storm stopped her from leaving..Then she was supposed to leave yesterday morning. We called her n she said she was going to leave in the afternoon.ok whatever..then I call her this morning to find out that she still hasn't left yet!! WTF!! I don't want to sound like a crazy person but I need help..My son is hard to take care of when I'm feeling like crap all day and my hubby's @ work..It's tough chasing a 21 month old around when you feel like a whale! Now there is something wrong with the car she is supposed to take down here and they had to put it in the shop..to find out that it's the fuel light censor that tells you when u need gas. And this is the second time that it has been in the shop since she was supposed to leave..To top it all off my loser brother-in-law is making her feel guilty about leaving him, his loser wife, and their son..That is just wrong and unfair..I mean if I knew it was going to be such a big problem I would've had my mom come down instead! People are just selfish and it really ticks me off!

 

I am so sorry to hear that she isn't there for you. Here are two ideas.

Is is still possible for your mom to come instead? You really need someone you can count on and who will take some of the load off of you and not burden you.

Another idea I have is from my local mothers of multiples club. Some moms will have a teen come over for a few hours in the afternoon just to play with the child and give the mom a break to put her feet up or get something done or whatever. They talk about this being a fairly inexpensive solution because you are home and the girl has fewer responsibilities that if she were babysitting.

I also understand your need to just vent.

 

:hug: I'm so sorry she is turning out to be unreliable. Is this normal for her? I hope she follows through and comes to help you out!! Or, I'd have to say, like the pp said, call your mom and see if she is able/willing to come. :hug:

 

Oh that totally sucks! I know how it feels to have to rely on someone who is totally unreliable. My mom is supposed to come down when I go into labor. She is only 3 hours away, but is the type that takes a full day to pack for a trip, so I have 2 back up plans for my 2 year old because I can't rely on my mom. I'd say forget about your MIL and get your mom down there ASAP. Just tell your MIL that you can have these babies at any minute and you need someone there and since she can't make it immediately, you'll have to ask your mom to come.

 

I agree with pp about contacting a local multiples group. They will help you out a lot!

 

So sorry to hear that you are going through this! I'm lucky enough to be able to put my nearly 3 year old in daycare during the day so that I can rest (I'm on short term disability/modified bedrest now). Just the few hours a day that I have him wear me out! She has no idea of what you are going through. I would count her as someone that would be nice to have around if she shows up, but always have other plans in line so that you don't count on her. I know that doesn't help now, but I hope that you will get some help soon!

 

Hey, I can totally sympathize. I'm 37 weeks chasing my 17 mo. old around all day and it's exhausting at this stage. I've been letting her watch TV on my bed so I can cat nap beside her... after swearing I'd never let the TV babysit my kids.

If you've got anyone you can call for even a few hours of help, definitely do it. You're so close now...

Or, could your hubby maybe call your mom and increase the urgency (in a nice way of course)? It's quite possible that your MIL just doesn't "get it." I know most of my family is pretty clueless about how exhausting this last stage of the pregnancy has been. I'm still getting requests from people to do things for them. LOL. Hello? Can you say about to pop TWO babies????

Thinking of you...

 

:hug: Sorry ablut your inlaws--mine can usually tick me off way before anyone can

April

 

I'm sorry you have to worry about this. :hug: