Fighting?

Ok, I don't know if I would call it "fighting" exactly but couldn't think of a better word. Hailey, who has always been a little ahead of Hannah and little more dominant, has begun to snatch toys away from Hannah. This results in Hannah screaming/whining until she gets the toy back and we have given Hailey a different toy. Well, just a few minutes ago they were on the floor playing with a big mat that plays music when you hit the piano keys. Apparently Hailey thought Hannah was in the way and they were both kind of fussing and then Hailey slapped/hit Hannah in the head like three times in a row!!! All I could do was say NO! and separated them quickly. They're about to be 11 months old but their adjusted age is just over 8 months. Are they too young for this?? How do I get them to "play nice" and not fuss and whine at each other? Or am I just in for it?

BTW: it doesn't help that they are both trying to get some more teeth and have been SO cranky anyways!

 

not sure this answers any of your post...

i have a snagger… but the other twin doesn’t mind, so I let ride its course… but I have noticed the twin who usually gets the toys snagged from will occasionally grab a toy back and lift it in the air far away and laugh… its almost comical… no take that back, it is comical… I’m not sure they know what nice and gentle is yet…. I try to say "nice" and touch them soft and slow to show them… but I think MINE are too young to understand that concept… but it wont stop me from trying to drill it in their heads…

 

e maura, that's kind of how it used to be. One would grab something from the other and she would just grab it back. Now Hannah often gets pretty upset if Hailey takes something from her. I think that they were also both pretty tired/cranky when this incident happened. I'm like you, I try and say things like that. I hear so many good things of twins playing together, I just hope they will!

 

There will be little moments of hope when they share nicely and play together amongst lots of little fights and tantrums for the same toy. For us, it started right around a year old when they were both very mobile and still pretty much continues to this day.

ETA: spelling

 

Yup. Mine started doing this around 6 months. Now that they are mobile they are even worse. i thought for sure that they hated each other but just recently I have seen a few times that they actually seem to be playing nicely with one another which gives me hope.

 

No, they are not too young :hug:. It is totally normal. Just keep redirecting, like you did.

 

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There will be little moments of hope when they share nicely and play together amongst lots of little fights and tantrums for the same toy. \

Rachel your put it so beautifully!! I couldn't agree more. My girls started this around 10months old or so.

 

Oh yes, the infamous fights. That has been around at our house. Usually it is Sophia who steals toys and Luke used to shrug it off, now he lets off this ear piercing squeal that I swear can burst an ear drum and must have all dogs cringing, it does work because she will give him the toy back. If they are physically getting into it, I redirect and verbally discuss why we share nicely. It's no fun seeing them fight

 

Our two started stealing the pacifiers while we were down in Seattle visiting a friend. They weren't in their usual sleeping habits, so I would bring them both into bed in the early morning and then they would wake up together. They both had pacifiers in their mouths and would then steal each others. At one point DD had her own, her brother's in one hand, and an extra in the other.

 

yikes...mine do this too! sorry, don't have any suggestions...