Fighting!

Hope and Grace turned 2 in May and well the fights have began. I really had no clue this was going to happen. I guess I have been living in a shell thinking that my little twins would never fight with each other. Boy was I wrong. I think they fight over everything now. If Grace even looks at Hope wrong then Hope starts yelling "NO NO GRACE" and then Hope will raise her hand like she is going to hit her. It is not just Hope because Grace does the same thing. Last night Hope was cleaning the back door and Grace just wanted to stand there and watch and I guess Hope thought Grace was in her way and started pushing her back and saying "NO ME CLEAN GRACE NO NO GRACE". Then Grace starts yelling "NO HOPIE". I guess my point in all this is I am hoping it is just a phase RIGHT? Please tell me it is only a phase. So much for my idea of having perfect little twins that love everything their sister does. LOL. Thanks.

 

Mine are 4+, and just yesterday, DS punched DD in the stomach because he didn't want her to sit next to him on the couch. This is not acceptable behavior in this house, they are not allowed to hit for any reason. We've gone over and over rules, the golden rule in toddler speak, etc. for years now. It's a phase, but a LONG one. Sorry, not what you wanted to hear. On the plus side, they do learn to play together better as they get older, but the occasional fighting doesn't seem to go away when they get in a snit. Ugh.

 

Welcome to my world. Everything you wrote could be about my daughters. Piper and Cricket are normally the best of friends, but at times they just fight and fight and fight. They'll argue over who gets to hold the stuffed frog, or who gets to wrap up the stuffed lamb, or who can hold Daddy's hand, or who sits on which side of the car. So far there have been no real physical signs of the fights, just lots of 'no, me do that' and 'no no Piper, you go over there. I no want sit near you.' The only thing I've been able to do that seems to have any affect is talk a lot about the fact that they're allowed to get angry, but they can't hit or throw things at people. I have explained that it's ok to hit a pillow or kick the floor, just not your sister. And it seems to work. Piper is really great at running up to me and saying "I want hit something. I go hit my chair".

So, all that to say that I don't know if it's a stage. It's been about two months here. Fortunately, it hasn't gotten too much worse over those two months.

 

We are just starting to fight more! :cry: It's SO SAD!! But it's a phase!

 

Since a little past age 2, mine have been fighting quite a bit - over stupid things like whether the other one is singing or sitting in a particular position or doing something else harmless that annoys the first one. It's especially fun in the car!

 

Yes it is... a long phase! Happens most here when they are bored.

 

Yes and no about the phase...they fight forever, it just changes. Right now they are in that immediate, frustration phase of fighting. It does lesson, although it still goes through spurts of way too often.

 

I can't believe it just started for you! My girls have been like this since 18 months and no end in sight. I try to teach a good example and tell them what they can/cann not do...I'm so tired of saying "play nice!!!"

 

We have been fighting for a while now. It is crazy. One day all they have to do is look at each other and it starts.

 

I am dealing with the same issue. Everytime E hits G, I ask her why and she would say.."because I want to" :gah: I keep telling them it is not ok to hit.

 

Thanks ladies for all the replies. Yeah they got in a fight in the car the other day about who's house we was going to. It is crazy. It is almost like they are already contradicting what the other does just to get their sister mad on purpose. I guess probably not a phase either because I am sure they are always going to fight about something. Thanks again.

 

:hug: You'll make it through this!!

Mine fought recently over "lake" and "water". One was saying...No, it's a lake!! And the other would say...No, it's water!! :crazy: