Feeling guilty...

Sooooo, we have lived here for almost 2 years. But we are self employed and only meet people like our contractors, hair stylist, and a few casual friends. Nobody I know well enough to invite to the boys first birthday. Friends and family all live far away. I feel so bad that they will look at the video and there will only be the 4 of us!
Anyone e;se out there want to make me feel better LOL? Are you planning something just hte 4 of you?

 

Im sorry that you dont really know anyone well enough to invite! :hug: Maybe you could travel to your family?

They are just one years old. They will not remember what kind of party they had when they turned one. Just remember that whatever you decide to do will be the best decision for your family. and not everyone has to have a HUGE first bday party.

 

Good gosh, don't wory.

We have lots of friends and didn't invite anyone or have a big party for their 1st birthday. We would have had immediate family, if they lived close.

I cannot imagine inviting a bunch of people and I would have hated to have all of these people bring gifts. We had a wonderful day and so did they.

 

This is no help for this year...but maybe for next year, you could get involved with a play group in your area. That way your boys could make some "friends" my guys love their group that we go to!

Happy 1st Birthday!

 

Aw! I'm sorry you are feeling bad about this. The first birthday is special for mom and dad, so if you have any friends of your own that you want to have over for cake and icecream, feel free to invite. You can tell them they are not obligated to bring a gift if you are uncomfortable with that. Since my daughters' birthday is Christmas Eve, we never have a big gathering, but always do something special with just the immediate family -- which on many years has just been the 4 of us. My daughters are older so they like to go out to dinner, but for your little guys, maybe you could find some baby friendly place to take them for a few hours just to make the day feel more special? Otherwise, I am a strong supporter of quiet birthdays spent at home. Let them explore their cake, take lots of pictures, video, have a good time, feel blessed and enjoy!

 

We have the same problem. Don't know many ppl with kids..I know like 2. Even then it will probably be just a family/grandparents thing.

 

I agree with the pp, a 1st birthday with their parents, presents, cake, love & laughter sounds AMAZING :wub:

 

I just had a good idea! :good: How about sending out invites to a Web Birthday party to your family that is far away? Set up a web cam and let your family watch the boys party! even if it is just the 4 of you there. they could open gifts and eveyone could watch them also could watch them play in their cake!

 

I know exactly what you mean. I have lost touch with most of my good friends over the years, and I am more of a couple of friends, tons of acquaintances person anyway. Most of my current friends are through work, or people I am just getting to know because we have had babies around the same time. I would feel really akward inviting any of them to a party even with a no gift policy.

If I could get away with it I would do something just the 4 of us. They aren't going to remember whether it was just us or 100 people. Not to mention they aren't really accustomed to being around huge crowds all that often so I think it might be a bit overwhelming.

So you are not alone, and don't feel bad. Their two favorite and most important people will be there and that's all they care about! I do like the idea of maybe doing something special (like going somewhere you wouldn't normally go to make it even more so).

 

For my first birthday my parents had just moved out of state so there was no one there except the three of them. My mom said it was still a nice birthday. I think it's all in how you think about it. You can still decorate and do all the things you would do if you had alot of people there. I sometimes wish I could have a small birthday with my kids. I have the opposite problem and I have to many people to invite...and all I want to have is a small party with close family.

 

For DS1, it was just us for his birthday as all my family lives far away. He was so happy to have all the attention focused on him, no sharing toys or food with others - he loved it! Get a cake and presents, decorate and the kids will have a blast!

 

We only had one couple and their 1 y/o and immediate family. Our friends didn't have a party when their dd turned one. Other friends threw a huge party for their dd's 1st birthday. It was insane and way over the top, almost one hundred people there. It made us really glad that we did it small.

Don't feel bad about it, just doing something small and intimate is still a celebration!

 

I don't think we'll have anyone over for their first birthday either!

 

Yay! Not only do I feel better, I feel downright enthusiastic. I guess attitude really IS everything! I can still have a great party, jus tthe 4 of us.
Thanks ladies.

 

Glad you posted this - I have been feeling a little stressed about this myself. We just moved and don't really know anyone either, and I feel kind of silly inviting aquaintances to our twins 1st birthday party. So, I think it will just be a quiet birthday party, with the 4 of us, cake, presents and decorations. I think whatever you decide to do, it will be special because mom and dad are there!

 

For my oldest sons first birthday we went to the zoo he loved it and it didnt matter how many people we had come. For the twins I had our youngest 1 week before their birthday and our baby was still in the nicu on their day so I was back and forward to the hospital for feeds. So they had the food they loved a big sponge cake and heaps of presents with my mum, DH,myself and our oldest they had a great time. I took lots of photos of them with cake all over their cute little faces. You will make it special whoever is there.

 

Oh no, don't worry!! :hug: Why not plan something to do that day that you will think is extra special, and then you have some great memories, rather than a crowd, to look back on. :hug:

 

You are not alone.... US too or Us two.... how about a picnic or a swim at the pool, or a birthday breakfast out somewhere nice for mom and dad. Some restaurants have a nice deck or outdoor area if it is warm. I have no idea what we will do, likely cake, balloons and pictures. It is all about pictures. What about professional pictures taken ?

Heather

 

It will be even more special if its just the 4 of you. Very intimate--For my ds1 1st bday we invited tons of peole. the day turned out to be about our guests and really not about him. Make their day special. they will love it b/c you are there