Feeling Guilty...

We dreamfed the babies last night at 9pm, then they woke to eat at 1:30am. I have mixed emotions this morning, the babies have been waking up at like 445am for the past 5 days, and they fuss/cry/talk on and off until I get them at around 645am. But, this morning after listening to 45min of this, I got so fed up (as no one was sleeping in the house), that I just went and shut both of the doors to their rooms, then I shut my door! And, I slept until almost 7am, at which point I checked on the babies, dd was awake and fussing and ds was asleep, not sure how long dd was awake for, but she didn't have tears in her eyes so I am guessing maybe it wasn't that long...I am hoping.

Has anyone else done this, shut the doors or turn off the baby monitors just to get a little more sleep, or am I just a neglectful mommy?

 

:hug99: You are so not a bad mommy!!!!!!

We stopped using a monitor around 11 months, and always close their doors when we put them down, so we can only hear them if they are CRYING. if I take a nap with them and they wake too soon into the nap I shut the monitor off until nap time is over.
The only reason to listen is if it will change your response, as long as you could hear if they were really worked up your fine!!!!!!

 

I do the same thing sometimes. DS has started waking up and talking to himself. He usually only does it for 30 minutes or so and then he goes back to sleep until it's time to wake up. I just turn the monitor down or off. If either start to really cry, I can still hear them from their room (even with their door shut- ours is open) so I don't feel about it.

 

Wow, am I ever glad you posted this, I just did that last week when DS was up for most of the night for no apparent reason (tried gripe water, oragel, then finally gave in and gave him advil, but still that didn't work). Anyways at about 6 in the morning I just put him in his crib cause I couldn't handle it anymore. I shut the door and fell asleep on the couch outside their room, I woke a couple hours later when he started fussing. I'm not actually sure if he had just started going again or if I slept through some of it, but either way I felt a bit better. So anyways, you are great, you are not neglectful! We do what we gotta do to get through the day sometimes.

 

You did what you needed to do. And guess what most of us I think have done that or will do that. Fussing is totally different that screaming and crying. Don't be so hard on yourself. you are doing great!!!!

Dianna

 

You are far from a bad mommy! We have all been there!

 

:hug99: for questioning and feeling guilty. I've done the same thing, and still do sometimes. There are times when they wake up too early, and if they get up then, everyone will be tired and grumpy all day. Don't be guilty. Think of it as helping to save your sanity or something. They won't remember you did it for long, I promise. :hug99:

 

Don't feel guilty!! When my little guys wake up too early, I leave them in their cribs talking, happy yelling, and a little bit of fussing - once they start crying, I go get them. But I also turn the monitor down. Usually my one little guy will wake up around 6:00 and happily talk for 30-45 minutes. We need our sleep, too, in order to be the best moms we can be. I think everyone does this at times - I know both my mom and MIL did this as I asked them both b/c I felt guilty at first!

 

I do this every morning! Daniel normally wakes around 4 am for a bottle. After I put him back to bed, I close his door (Ben's is already closed since he's STTN) and then close my own. We don't hear anyone unless they are really crying. We're even thinking that we may have to start setting our alarm clock since I like for us all to be up by no later than 6:30.

Don't feel guilty!

 

I always do this! I set my alarm for 5:30, DH gets up for work at 4:30 so he has to shut our door and their door so that he can turn the lights on and not wake us. When he leaves he doesn't re-open the doors. Some mornings my girls are crying at 5:30 and some they are still sleeping. I'm not letting them get up before 5:30, it's just too early! I don't blame you at all, I do it too.

 

I dont let my babies get up before 6:30am-so if that means they are crying then so be it. I know they have been fed, changed and they arent cold then they can work it out on their own. Most of them time this isnt even a problem for us.
You are not a bad mom what so ever! We got to get some sleep some time!!!!

 

No, I never did it.

If it works for you and it is not hurting them, do what you feel is right.

They will be fine.

 

You're not a bad mom!! Unless I am too I turn off the monitors & shut the doors when I know I need some more sleep. I can hear them if they cry loudly, but I don't want to hear them fussing. They'll be fine & you did what you needed to in order to get some sleep!