Feeling guilty . . .

[SIZE=12pt]Am I the only one who feels guilty about not being able to do all the stuff that I usually do around the house? I took a nap earlier today after having taken the youngest to the eye doctor, picking my oldest up from school and before picking up my middle son from a friend's house. I came home and made dinner and after eating was just exhausted! I told my DH that I felt guilty for not helping to clean up since I'd taken a nap earlier so should be able to, but honestly, I think the nap gave me just enough energy to get through making dinner and getting ready for bed. I know my job right now is growing these babies but at this point in my previous pregnancies I was still going at full steam and I just don't have it in me this time around and, I don't know, I just feel like I should still be doing most of my usual SAHM stuff.

If you've read this far, thanks for letting me vent a little.[/SIZE]

 

Don't feel guilty. I know easier said than done. I feel guilty occassionally, but I just do not have the energy or the ability to even bend or reach anything anymore. I am sure that DH understands and doesn't hold it against you. Just take care of you and the babies. Take care.

Jen

 

These are my first and I work FT, but I am in the same boat, I can barely do anything when I get home, so far DH has been very supportive, hopefully that will hold out for the duration

 

I did a little bit. but then when I was put on modified bed rest, I saw that my dh was finally getting a clue how hard it was to get everything done in a day. now it's about 3 weeks later and he's just beat at the end of the day. and- he's not even touching the "cleaning", he's done suppers, and wash, and getting our son to & from his sister's for childcare-- so he's not even getting the floors swept or anything-- I'm hoping he keeps this in mind after the twins are here.

as far as energy goes- I am lying or sitting down nearly all day and I am still so tired I need a nap & get to bed fairly early- about to turn in now. so it's no wonder if you're still up and around and trying to get things done that you're so exhausted. you are growing 2 remember.

try to lay that guilt aside. there'll be plenty to do after the twins come

sending a big hug, from one SAHM to another.

 

as you can see by my ticker my twins are almost 15 months old. All I can say is....

REST NOW WHILE YOU CAN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! do not feel guilty - take advantage of it!!!!!

 

I have kind of been at the same point.. I have really good days where I seem to be able to get things done.. and then very bad days where I have just enough energy for the things that MUST get done and then I crash.

 

I'm right there too. Lately I have to take a nap every day or I am useless in the afternoon/evening.

I feel so bad because DH works 10 hours a day at least and I don't feel like I'm doing my share. But between the exhaustion of being pg with twins and chasing around a 2 year old I am beat.

 

I completely understand feeling guilty. It's hard to being able to do the stuff we normally do. I ended up getting a house cleaner to come in every week because I just wasn't able to keep up anymore and the messy house drove me nuts! Hang in there, just keep telling your self that this isn't forever :hug99:

 

Don't feel guilty it is alot to handle. Growing babies like you said but TWO is harder than one (not for everyone but some). Just do what you can and I am sure your kids know that and your DH.

 

I did feel guilty for a little bit, but then realized I need to do what was best for my babies, and that meant resting and taking it easy. Definitely take advantage of it.

 

[SIZE=12pt]Thanks everyone for your responses. It does help to know I'm not alone in these feelings. It's funny right after I posted that my feelings of guilt were changed to feelings of annoyance at DH, who had decided his fatigue was greater and more imporant than mine went to bed and left me to clean up after dinner!! :angry: This after he'd told me he would clean up and I should go to bed. Imagine my surprise and shock to find him snoring in bed!!!! GRRRRR!! I ended up having to clean up the kitchen and get a bottle for Christopher and not going to sleep until about 12:30 because I was so angry about his lack of consideration. Yeah def. NOT feeling so guilty about being so tired!! [/SIZE]

 

Don't feel guilty. This twin pregnancy stuff is hard work!

 

I say don't feel guilty. Your job is to make those babies. I felt horribly guilt when I was on bed rest. My husband would come home, make dinner, do a load of laundry (mostly his) then take care of all the animals ( I run a rescue in my basment and there is about 35 animals all together) and by the time he got to sit down he was so exhausted. I did what I could when I felt up to it. The laundry baskets have not been empty since Jan 9th the day I was put on bed rest. In the last week I have cleaned the whole house, and done all the laundry, but that is also helping me tak my mind off things. When I am to exhausted my DH will do it for me.

 

I know that feeling. I am only 12/14 weeks pregnant and I have been tired and feeling useless from the get go. I worked 3-4 days a week up until recently. I do 1 load of laundry a day, and a few dishes. I only have one 7 year old daughter who is very self sufficient, but I still can't seem to get more done. Don't worry. I think we all need someone to tell us it is okay and normal to feel this way. Keep cooking!