feeling a bit overwhelmed

I posted once about the mono mono diagnosis my OB told me. I have yet to hear when my appt with the perinatologist is. I know there's still a chance that a better u/s machine will find the membrane, but if the diagnosis stays there is so much to think about. The first problem is how do I approach this with my 4 year old. She already asks me if it's time for the baby to come out yet. (She doesn't know about there being 2.) I can't help thinking about how to explain it because she's been telling everyone since February that she's going to have a baby sister. If they die then what do I say?
Then there's the idea of all that time in the hospital away from my kids. I've left the 4 year old twice. For 2 nights. My 2 year old I've never left more than a few hours. How will I stay away from them that long? And what about all the stuff I'll miss? No one here can quite understand what I'm feeling.
My husband hasn't taken care of both children for more than a few hours. He's great around the house and he's great playing with them. But I've always taken care of meals and getting them dressed and all the more practical stuff. It's so much to think about and I know I shouldn't be worrying, but how can I not? My world has been turned upside down in the last 2 weeks and I'm not sure how to handle it. Last night I had a minor meltdown watching my husband put dress-up clothes on my daughter and thinking how I wouldn't see her dancing and playing princess through all that time in the hospital. I just wanted to cry and cry.

 

:hug99: I am sorry that you are feeling so overwhelmed. I know its really hard right now, but the best thing you can do for you and your babies is to take it one day at a time. How far along are you? They did not find the dividing membrane in my girls until I was almost 15 weeks pregnant, and even then it was really thin and really hard to see. Let us know how everything is going, and take it easy! GL! :hug99:

 

I'm 15 weeks. They did the u/s last Friday so it was 14 weeks. At 7 weeks they did an u/s and they only found one baby then. I was a bit surprised to find out it was twins later.
I think I would feel better if I knew when I was going to the specialist. The lady who does the referrals is out of the office right now.

 

hey hun
i cant help you with the preg but i can with your older kids
my husband sounds alot like ours.
i got mine to start doing bed times well i did dish's. my reason i was gettin very tired and could do both. it took a few days but he know my boys have a bath
than they get out of the bath dry off & brush there teeth than go get jammies on, than they get into bed for a story. let me tell you this actually helps.
i am alot more relaxed knowing he know what there rotine is and sticks to it, but know he can help me when the babies come home, he ask what ceareal they want, no fightung imagine that,
try to rest, get your husband to do small things like this with the kids, they are more able to do everythign as we are.

 

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I'm 15 weeks. They did the u/s last Friday so it was 14 weeks. At 7 weeks they did an u/s and they only found one baby then. I was a bit surprised to find out it was twins later.
I think I would feel better if I knew when I was going to the specialist. The lady who does the referrals is out of the office right now.


I found out just about the same way. At 7 weeks, they told found one baby, at 18 weeks, they found two!! It was a huge shock.. They didn't see a membrane until 20 weeks on a level 2 ultrasound. Good luck.

 

big :hug99: to you ~
I know it all probably seems overwhelming right now ~ but I am sure that with time & with seeing the Peri soon some of your fears/questions will be answered.
I found the longer that I was pregnant & let things 'sink in' the easier all my fears were to deal with.
Please keep us posted on what is going on & how you are doing

 

I'm sorry you are so overwhelmed. I think it would be a great idea to do what the previous post mentioned and get your husband used to doing things while you are there to support him. Even if they find the membrane, you will need all of the help you will get later (trust me I have a 10 month old and I am hurting for any help I can get right now!! I have mono/di boys and I think I told you in your other post that they had a heck of a time initially finding the membrane. it is so thin that whenever my OB sees it she takes a bunch of pics for proof that it is there. I have gone into labor and delivery a few times for evaluations etc. and everytime they do the u/s on the older machine the resident clams up and says "did you know your babies are in the same sack". They still get freaked out. Let us know what happens when you see the specialist and know you are in our thoughts :hug99: