feeding time

My Boy Girl twins are 7 weeks old, I have 2 older girls 3 and 2. I have not been feeding the twins at the same time I do the feeding separately. I am doing a combinaton of nursing and bottle feeding. I am not a scheduled person and having had single babies before, I have not mastered doing 2 babies at once, I also feed on demand. I was doing really well things were going great, I started reading a twin book and talking to other twin moms and now I feel like I am doing it all wrong? Has anyone else done it this way or am I just making more work for myself?

 

The only thing we did early on was feed them both at the same time at night to maximize sleep. We bottle fed so if one woke up we woke the other one up and DH and I each took a baby. Other than that they would eat on demand duringthe day and USUALLY it was close together, but not always and naps were the same way, not always at the same time. You just have to do what's best for you. I don't really think there's a right or wrong way as long as they are cared for. It is easier if you can get them on the same schedule but sometimes that isn't always realistic with other children. Eventually ours fell into their own routine and we are not strict about it. For us it just became a matter of reading their signals of tired or hungry. Good luck!

 

We always fed our boys at the same time, but if on-demand works for you, that is great. We would never have gotten any sleep if we did it that way, so when one was hungry, we also fed the other one.

 

On demand works for us and still does. I rarely feed them at the same time. I started demand feeding because my DD always wants to eat more and my DS was spitting up a ton...probably because he was over full. It quit doing it as soon as I went to on demand feeding.

I wouldn't pay too much mind what other parents of twins or books say. Do what works best for you and your kiddos. Know one knows them better than you! All babies, parents, and situations are different.

 

Just chiming in to say I think this (the bolded) is the most important part of what you wrote. If you and your babies are happy and healthy then there is not a problem. It doesn't matter what other people do, you should do what works for your family.

 

I agree with others. If it works for you-then keep at it! For me, I would need some sort of a schedule/downtime with feeding them simultaneously. But that's what works for *me*, whereas what you are doing is what works for *you*. And that my friend, is what is most important!

Your kids are healthy, happy, thriving....if it isn't broke, don't try and go to fix it!

 

If feed on demand works for your family, then keep it. I remember our Pedi said feed them on demand. But later on she asked if we had some sort of routine/schedule. And at 15 months well check, we got info for feeding, development. And it said they should have a schedule

We have been on schedule since day 1. I can't imagine how our life could be Wo one. I guess it's because I'm a working mom. We are in SY. So far we have so much fun and no big mental meltdown though lol. Its all about schedule though. I cane imagine my toldders growing healthy and happy with a schedule. Gl!

 

My boys are 7 weeks also...and I have a 3 year old and a 2 year old.(what are your kiddos birth dates?) I do everything on demand...I always have with my other kids so I don't feel like I need to do any different with the boys. I love being able to cuddle and feed each baby seperatly...they get one on one time with momma(we are formula feeding)...The times I have to feed at once I feel like we all 3 miss out on that closeness.

Don't think you are doing anything wrong...you are doing everything right for your family that is all that matters.

And no I don't think you are making more work for yourself...I couldn't imagion having to deal with a schedule...that for me would be way more work. Oh and I get plenty of downtime between feeds(If you can call it downtime...I am doing something every second of the day it seems)...It works out really well actually...both babies usually nap and sleep at night at the same time...but they stager their wake up times.

 

Don't worry about what the books or other twin mommas say. If what you are doing works for you then DO IT! LOL Mine were on a strict schedule but they came home that way due to 2 weeks nicu time. Feeding at the same time was a must for me because my husband once he went back to work couldn't help with night time feedings and Momma needs some sleep lol. If I had fed on demand I wouldn't have ever slept. Do what works for your family and forget the rest