FEARS (venting)

This is not my first pregnancy, in fact it is my 3rd. But lately I have the most awfull fears setting in, like will everything be ok with the babies, I am scared of the birth, I am afraid of a c-section and epidural. Will dh be able to cope with two babies... will our marriage survive (which is a silly fear as we have a strong relationship) and even silly fears like what if they got the babies sex wrong, because everything is girly and pink!!!! My dreams are terrible too. I know it is normal but it doesnt help this mild depression.

 

I had a lot of anxiety during this pregnancy too. I had a breast cancer scare two months ago. I was so stressed I went to a psychiatrist who said most women during pregnancy will have a generalized anxiety disorder, especially women pregnant with twins! You have a lot of extra hormones and a lot to think about. I've found that reading the bible and prayer have helped me feel peaceAlso, try not to read too much info. on the internet! I did that and wished I never did because most of the "bad" stuff happens to a few people and its not the norm. God is good!

Jen

 

granted i am only 8 weeks in, but i have so much anxiety this pregnancy. (it's my third) i have a book about twin pregnancy and it is scaring the crap out of me. i know that there are risks involved in any pregnancy, it just seems as if there is so much more that can go wrong with a twin pregnancy and birth. i am afraid for the babies and myself...but i have to pray that God will take care of us. that's the hard part, i think. trusting that a God you can't see will take care of you. guess that's where faith and positive thinking come in...

 

I think it's perfectly 'normal' (whatever that means) to have these fears, especially w/twins.

I found that early on in this pg. i did a lot of reading about what COULD go wrong, especially as i'm carrying mono/di twins. I made myself crazy for a few days, crying over my keyboard at 4 am as i read about horrible complications.

Then I decided that I couldnt control ANY of that, and that it made no sense for me to dwell in that negative space. So - i would control what I could, and the rest of it -well, we would deal with whatever came up when we came up, but i didn't want to spend my entire pregnancy worrying myself ill about things that i didn't control and that mostl likely wouldn't happen.

That helped a LOT. Try and focus on the positive and think about two healthy babies -that's a good image for your body/mind to have.

 

Hey Boni, this sounds so much like me in the beginning

I had all the same fears when I heard I was having twins - it was also my 2nd pregnancy, with two girls before, and now we have two boys

This board is a great to calm down - you can compare yourself and your situation two the people here, and you can read so many birthstories...

I remember I loved reading birthstories, when I was early in pregnancy I used to tell my husband "Hey, I read about this women, she was only some weeks ahead us, and her twins survived!" and later I could say "Hey, I read a birthstory of someone being as far as I am and her babies needed no NICU!" It might be hard, but now, as my twins are born, I almost miss the unique and wonderfull feeling of having two tiny living human beings inside me.

Twin pregnancy is, all in all, a great experience.