Family vent...

Dh, the girls and I live with our grandmother. It works out really well in that I am able to stay home and we are able to help her out.

HOWEVER. Her house has been and seems to always be Grand Central Station. Our family lives close so they come over when ever they want, and just walk in. One has an 18 month old so you'd think they would respect the nap thing but no (they woke him up after sleeping for 20 mins. to go somewhere).

I know they think "jeez, whats her deal" because I get crazy woman for people to be quiet. The girls only nap twice a day and if the nap is shot then that makes my whole day crappy. Do they stay and help? Nope, they leave. Thankfully the girls fell back asleep but I don't know why they don't respect MY time and be quiet!!!!!

 

Have you had a talk with your grandmother at a time outside of the situation to explain your feelings? Maybe this will help. Sorry you're dealing with this :hug:.

 

:hug: I think a lot of people with singletons don't realize how important nap time is b/c one fussy baby is not that big of a deal b/c it's still a 1:1 parent to cranky baby ratio but 2 over-tired babies is too much for 1 parent to deal with!

 

QUOTE(aimeethomp @ Dec 19 2008, 08:04 AM) [snapback]1115730[/snapback]
:hug: I think a lot of people with singletons don't realize how important nap time is b/c one fussy baby is not that big of a deal b/c it's still a 1:1 parent to cranky baby ratio but 2 over-tired babies is too much for 1 parent to deal with!


I totally agree with that, ppl have no idea.

 

QUOTE(aimeethomp @ Dec 18 2008, 05:04 PM) [snapback]1115730[/snapback]
:hug: I think a lot of people with singletons don't realize how important nap time is b/c one fussy baby is not that big of a deal b/c it's still a 1:1 parent to cranky baby ratio but 2 over-tired babies is too much for 1 parent to deal with!


I have to agree with this! Is there anyway you can talk to your Grandma about this, maybe the family could call first before stopping by? I know that babies who nap poorly do not make for a happy Momma, that has happened plenty of times at our home.

 

Can you leave a note on the door- "We are napping right now. Please visit at at differnet time. " Personally, if it we me, O would just speak up and say what time naps are and can they please visit when the babies are not slepping.

It makes me crazy when people wake up the baby!

 

Is it your grandmothers house? Was it like this before you lived there? Are they coming to see you or her? These are all things that play into it. If its her house, you cant turn people away... During nap time I would put a note on the door saying they are sleeping and noises need to be kept to a minimum. Also, are you living their temporarily? Unless your grandmother fully agrees that they should go by your rulkes in her house, I dont think there is much you can do.

And I disagree about it being so different if you only have one. A cranky baby is a cranky baby... its rude either way.