Expecting twins and have a two year old

Hi. I am new to this site, and am impressed with how helpful it seems. I am expecting twins in the fall (Nov.1) and I currently have a two year old little boy. When I first found out that I am carrying twins I panicked. Since then I have relaxed a bit but an still nervous about managing all three. Does anyone have any helpful advice for my situation?

 

i cant offer much advice as these twinkies will be my first babies, but there are LOTS of gals here that can give you great advice.

welcome and good luck

sandra

 

No advice, but I am right there with you. My twins are due in Sept, and my son turns 3 in August. xoxoxoxoxo

 

My twins are due in December and talk about panic I have a 1 year old, 3 year old and 6 year old. All boys, so everyone is telling me at least one of these angels is a girl. But I panicked and then I realized I have time to panick later. After there here. Congratulations on your babies to be!

 

Hello. I found out that I was expecting my twins when my son was 15 months old. I FREAKED out! Since the twins have been born though, it has been just fine!! They are 20 months apart, my twins just turned 1 and my 2yo is about 2 1/2 now. It's great having them so close because they play well together. But I won't kid you - it's tough. But totally doable. Check out our Big Sister/Little Sister Program and maybe you could get hooked up with someone in a similar situation.

good luck!!

 

Congrats and welcome to TS!

I had 3 kids when I found out I was pregnant with the twins! It is doable! My advice is to get them on a schedule as soon as possible, at least with the feeding, so you know "what's next" so to speak! Plan meals and activities(even if its just reading him a story!) for the 2 yo in between those feeding times. Josh was not quite 2.5 when I had the twins, and he had a couple of rough weeks in the beginning, but we all did! He is so good with the babies now!

 

I'm there with you as well. My twins are due Oct. 11 and my ds turns two on Oct. 23.

 

I'm the midst of trying to figure that question out right now. My twins are almost a month old, and my little man is 2. I won't lie, it's been a rough time with him. He really likes the babies--and doesn't have any animosity towards them--he just knows he doesn't have "all" of us anymore. There has been a major increase in tantrums and meltdowns since they arrived, but we're trying to keeping everything normal for him. Same schedule and same discipline routine--so he knows what to expect from us. We each try to give him special time whenever we can, and we're following some good advice we got: If the babies are crying, and your toddler needs help--help the toddler first. That way he doesn't learn that crying gets you what you want faster.

I think no matter what there is going to be an adjustment--I'm just holding on to the fact that lots of people have added siblings to their family-and they lived through it.....so we will too. Good luck!

Reyna

 

Geez, there are quite a few of you who have the same situation....and some with even heavier loads. Thanks for your advice.

 

Not quite the same but my first two were 21 months apart. My boys are now 5 and 3 1/2. My advice is get as much help as you can from friends/family and from babysitters or preschool as you can afford. I have health problems post-partum and after my second was born I did everything myself w/ no assistance and worked parttime while they napped, so I had no down time. Financially we didn't have much choice at the time, but if I could go back I would have taken my kind friends up on their offers of help. I always said I could manage but it did wear me down. I probably would have stayed healthier if I didn't try to do it all myself.

This time around I am accepting help from all over even though that's against my nature, and paying for a babysitter parttime even though it means I won't be making money for awhile. I learned my lesson!

And don't worry, even in my situation we had a few hard months and then it just got better and better. My health improved and my second started napping and life just kept getting easier and easier!



--Krista

 

Congrats and welcome to TS!!! Since my twins are my only two, I cannot offer you any advice in that regard. But I am sure you will get lots of wonderful advice and support from people in similar situations.

 

These are my firsts, so no help from me, but welcome and I'm sure that you'll get a LOT of advice!

 

These are my firsts aswell so i have no advice, but i wanted to welcome you to TS and i think you will find this site very helpful and supportive. I know i have

 

I'm right here with you. I am new here and I have a two year old as well. My twins are due Oct 13th.


:sign0016:

 

Congrats on the twins, even though it may seem scary, it's such a rewarding experience. My boys are almost a year old and I'm due with a singleton in November. Kinda the other way around but...my suggestions to you would be to get a schedule as soon as possible and become the most organized person that you have ever met. Having two keeps you on your toes so it's easier if you know where everything is and it's there when you need it. Good luck and hope that helps.

 

Well first off congrats and welcome! I freaked too when i found out that i was having twins. I am due in Sept. My daughter will be 4 in October. She is very clingy and needy. So i dont really know what will happen either, but im sure you and i will both survive!

 

Congratulations and :sign0016: !! x

 

As so many have said I am right there with you too. My dd will be three in January after the twins are born. I have many concerns about the whole thing but I think that things will work themselves out, I hope!

Welcome to TS and it is good to "meet" someone else in the same boat!

 

I will have 4 under 4 when the twins come and my baby will be 16 months. My DS and DD are 25 months apart, and when she was born I just spent lots of time with him when she slept. You really don't realize it with your first child, b/c it is all so new, but newborns sleep a lot! Just get yourself mentally prepared that you won't get to rest until your 2 year old takes a nap.

Right now my DD and DS nap at the same time in the afternoon, so I will be pushing the twins into a "schedule" of napping around the same time. Hopefully I will have at least 30 minutes a day when everyone is asleep at the same time!

Also resolve that your primary goal each day is to be happy, enjoy your children and have children who are happy and enjoy you. Don't worry about dinner, laundry, cleaning, etc. until you have attained the first goal. If you and kids are having a rough day, any added activities or chores will only make it go downhill faster!

And hang in there! I won't be long until your son is the ultimate entertainer for your twins. My DD thinks that her brother hung the moon!

Jen

 

Well, I am sorta in the same boat. I have 2.5 yr old twins, and I am expecting a third addition. PM me if you wanna talk

 

My DS is 13 months older than the girls. We have Soooooo much fun. These days he is helping to make sure the babies stay in the driveway while I am loading and unloading the kids out of the car and he holds their hands up to the door of daycare every morning, shares his yogurt, teaching them to climb on their new fort, etc.

Certainly there are the times all 3 re screaming, whining, etc. When it gets too much for me I just put the girls safely in their room to play a while and DS hang out in the living room while I go take a shower to relax, or I feed them...that helps too

You will develop your routine, just trust yourself. We have no family here so other than daycare and the very rare sitters, we are on our own. And I am alone alot of weekends in the summer, totally doable. Remember to breath...

 

I am right there with ya freaking out, pulling out my hair! I have a three year old, expecting twins at the end of Oct (29th). I just found out yesterday that they are boys, so I was/am happy about their findings.