expecting new baby ...

Hi all!

So, very NEWLY expecting baby #3 (like only 5 weeks so if you know me IRL, mums the word). We started trying thinking it would take a few months and BAM just like the first time, pregnant after only one try. We wanted our kids close in age and the girls will be 2 years and 3 mos old when the new baby arrives. So, I really am excited and we really do want this ... BUT now that I am pregnant, I have all these fears! I have never left the girls with a sitter and don't even know any sitters here (we are moving in 4 mos and have only lived here for 8 mos). How do you manage all the OB appointments not to mention juggling all the Pedi appointments once the new baby is here. I fear that the girls will feel like I love them less when I don't have the time to spend with them once the new baby is here. My husband's job is very inflexible and he works like 5:30AM-at least 6 or so at night every day except for the occasional post-call day (he is an MD in training). I don't want to wear out my Mom and MIL since neither are local. I know I need to get over it and find a sitter ... and I will ... but just wondering how you all with 3 under 3 or something similar (or sf, if you are reading this-4 under 2!!!)

I know it will be soooo worth it in a few years when all our kids are close in age and we are past the naps and sippy cups stage but I just fear that the next 18 months or so are going to be too much for me to handle! Do I just harbor these fears b/c the only thing I know is my colic twins? Surely it has to be easier to just have one INFANT right?!

I am looking into Mother's Morning Out programs but with being about to move to another state, I just don't even know where to begin to find them (google was not very helpful so I recently joined the local twins club and I hope that will help) ...

Anyway, thanks for reading all of this and if you have any tips for me please pass them on!

TIA
Traci

 

I know you have a lot of fears, Traci, but I wanted to say a huge...

CONGRATULATIONS!! How exciting!!

I didn't have a little one after my twins, so I don't have any advice, but things always work out--maybe that's not too comforting, but you'll do fine--you're just in shock! Hang in there!! :hug:

 

CONGRATS!!! All I can say is you will and can make it work. Your girls will be a big help. My now two year old (almost 3) is really helpful. He can get diapers and diaper wipes, find the babies their toys. They will be wonderful little mommas. I always remind myself that my kids won't really know any different concerning adding a sibling (at least the little ones won't remember). I am one to have the mindset that this is how it is, women have done it before...so I can too! I actually will have 6 under 6 when this baby arrives plus a teenager. I just stick to a schedule, and work really hard on establishing the same naps times. If you have any more specific questions. Let us know.

Oh and don't forget to check the Pregnant After Twins forum. There's a great bunch of ladies over there.

Will you be having an early u/s to confirm the head count?

 

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CONGRATS!!! All I can say is you will and can make it work. Your girls will be a big help. My now two year old (almost 3) is really helpful. He can get diapers and diaper wipes, find the babies their toys. They will be wonderful little mommas. I always remind myself that my kids won't really know any different concerning adding a sibling (at least the little ones won't remember). I am one to have the mindset that this is how it is, women have done it before...so I can too! I actually will have 6 under 6 when this baby arrives plus a teenager. I just stick to a schedule, and work really hard on establishing the same naps times. If you have any more specific questions. Let us know.

Oh and don't forget to check the Pregnant After Twins forum. There's a great bunch of ladies over there.

Will you be having an early u/s to confirm the head count?



"confirm the headcount" .... that cracks me up! We are having US at 10.5 weeks b/c my Mom will be here then and can take care of the girls ... we have ID girls (no medical assistance and no genetic link) so I am ASSUMING it is only one ... but we all know what assuming does! We'll see! In the meantime, praying for one

Thanks for the advice and holy moly ... 6 under 6 ... WHEW makes me tired thinking of it!

 

Traci, my kids around about the same age difference as yours will be (mine are 2y7m). It has, honestly, worked out so much better than I had anticipated. They ahve been great with her and they are two rather difficult little personalities to deal with. As for appts, I go to a midwives office so they tend to be a bit more "family friendly" than my OBs office was. That being said, if the appt required anything out of the ordinary (such as an u/s or internal exam), than I found a sitter or had hubby stay home. How are are your Mom and MIL? I know you said "not local" but is that like 3 hour drive or 45 mintues drive? For other appts when I couldn't get a sitter, I just packed a bunch of fishies to keep them happy and fed and took them with me. Timing your appts around their schedule will be necessary.

GL!

 

Congratulations!!! I would start calling the local churches to ask about mommy's day out and preschool programs. Some of them have drop off type childcare too (once you register) and you can pay by the hour if you need babysitting to go to OB appts, etc. Is your DH a resident at a University? Maybe you could advertise at the school for babysitters. There might be other students looking to earn extra money (maybe you'll luck out and find a nursing or teaching student!). Mine will all be close together and it is hard sometimes, but it's a lot of fun too!

 

COngratulations

 

Congratulations! My girls were a little older than your twins when I had my 3rd but I just took them with me to appts when I had to. Like a pp, I packed lots of snacks and little toys to try to keep them occupied. If they got antsy, I didn't worry about it because it had to be done. With this most recent baby, I had to take Dax with me to almost every appt and I did the same things. Sometimes, I even had to take all three kids. It all works out. There will be hectic times but your children will make your life full and wonderful. Congrats again!

 

Congrats! Mine will also be about 27-28 months apart. They started going to a one day a week MDO, and it has been SO nice! I always schedule my appts on Tuesdays so I don't ever have to worry about if my inlaws can watch them (but yes I'm lucky to have family close by). I'm sure the twins club will be a great resource to find some type of program. I know around here they fill up fast and registration season is upon us, so you might want to go ahead and get them enrolled in something ASAP.

Or, I'm sure OB's offices are used to having tots come along with mom. I've had to bring my a few times, and while it's not preferable, the office is good sports about it, they can't really be anti-kid, haha!

I know what you mean about the thought of toddlers and a newborn...it's going to be a long, crazy summer, that's for sure, but it will pass!

 

Congrats!

 

Hi there. I am pregnant with a singleton too and my boys will be 2 years and 5 months when the new baby arrives. I totally understand your concerns. I think you should seek a babysitter/mother's helper now. I'd post on Craigslist or ask around, and then hire someone to help you a few hours a week so you can get to know her before you actually have to leave the kids with her. That's what I did and it's working out really well. Everly comes twice a week and helps me with jobs around the house and caring for the boys. They have come to love her and now I trust her to take care of them while I go to an appointment or to take them to the park while I get a few things done at home.

As for medical appointments, you might be surprised how much FEWER you have with a singleton. You'll probably only need 2 ultrasounds - everything is so much simpler with just one baby inside!

You might also consider something like Supperworks (that's the name of the place near me) - where you can go once every month or two and for a really reasonable price you can prepare healthy, balanced, delicious meals to freeze - makes life much easier at dinner time having a good stock pile! I bet you can google somewhere similar near you.

Congratulations and best of luck!

 

:woohoo: Congratulations!!