Ever been bitten by your twins?

During their bath time, dd was trying to flush the toilet (unfortunately toilet is very close to bath). As I was busy trying to bath her, I prevented her from reaching the toilet. She got mad & tried to bite my hand! I immediately told her "Milena you don't bite mommy" I said it in a disciplining voice. It worked, but I was left feeling quite shocked that she wanted to bite me her mother!

Is this normal behavior? Have your twins tried to bite you too? Have they? How did you handle it?

Please share so I'll know how to handle this situation next time..

Thank you!

 

They have playfully tried to chew on my fingers, like they do their own, because they are teething, but so far that's it. I say the same thing when they've tried it, but they usually just laugh and think it's funny that I was "scared"...?!!!! What's with these kids??!! :wacko:

 

Everyday now I'm finding a time in the day when their behaviour may need some correcting. I have two VERY strong willed children who are very determined. When they want to do something they'll put all their energy in to doing what they want to do. I have never realized todders could be so focused. I fully expected them to lose interest after a couple of seconds or even minutes. But if they are determined to get something they want nothing is going to distract them apart from picking them up and taking them somewhere else. ^_^

It's hard not to chuckle or laugh at them sometimes..especially when you are trying to correct them.

 

I haven't had this happen yet, but I've seen lots of threads on here from mom's with kids who bite their siblings. I would suspect it's the same thing - frustration and not knowing how to express herself to let you know she's frustrated. I think the general consensus was to say in a firm voice 'no bite' or something similar. Then just move on. Once they can talk they don't need to lash out by biting or hitting as much because they can express their feelings better.

 

Oh I know she was frustrated for that moment. But I had to stop her from reaching the toilet as she's still too small & could slip and injure herself.
As a mother there are things you're going to do that your kids don't like one bit..but it's for their safety.

I guess I was just shocked as this is the first time one of them has actually 'turned' on me. Dd has reached that stage where her dad is number 1 in her life right now. If he is around she doesnt want to be with me only daddy. Thankfully ds is wanting me more than his dad. If they both wanted daddy I'd feel kind of left out! :mellow:

 

I have biters (getting much better now) that have bitten each other, at daycare, and DH and me. We do a firm "no bite" and sit the child who bit down without attention for about 1 min (mini time out...much longer than that now and they forget what happened). We try to explain that biting is not a very nice thing but mine aren't able to comprehend that right now but they comprehend the stern voice, no bite and timeout.

That's about all I can do at this point...but mine have gotten much better about it lately (started biting around 13 months).

 

My guys when frustrated will sometimes try to bite since they can not verbally express their feelings. I have very stern with them and they have timeout in the corner when they do this. I never use biting back as a means of "teaching" them like some people may tell you to do.

 

My DD will bite out of frustration as well. Poor DS is at the receiving end a lot and she has bitten me a hand full of times. Usually it is when you take something away or try to tell her she can't have/touch something. I tell her "no bite" in a very firm voice and remove her from the situation. I am hoping the consistency will pay off!

 

YES!! My girls have bitten me numerous times. Thankfully I think they are OUT of that stage for the time being. They still bite each other on occasion though!

 

It's totally normal. IMO biting is not that different from any other kind of physical violence (hitting, kicking, shoving, etc.). They do it when they are angry or frustrated or impatient or.... any other time when they feel they aren't getting their way.

At that age, my main defense against biting was to try not to let myself get bitten (similar to the approach I take with my cat!). I kept my hands away from their mouths if possible, and learned to recognize the motion of them going in for the kill, so I could get out of the way. I didn't do timeouts, though I did try to convey through my reaction (if I did get bitten) that it was not OK -- mostly I would go very quiet and emotionless, say "Biting is not OK, biting hurts," and turn away from them for a second. And try not to take it personally.

 

DS is a HUGE biter here. He's been kicked out of the YMCA playgroup for 3 weeks since he bit 9 times in a few months. His biting has literally made my life AWFUL. We can't go anywhere without me following him like a hound dog, protecting other kids.
He also bit my ankle once, and it shocked me & surprised me so badly that I whipped around and kicked him by an accident in the face. his lip bled. It didn't stop a thing. He still is biting.

 

A few weeks ago I was lying down on the sofa and Nicole came up and bit my big toe. I was totally not expecting it so I screamed. Then she started crying and then Auburn got freaked out and started crying. Kind of funny in retrospect Fortunately neither of them have bitten me out of frustration.

 

My boys are a little older, but biting has started all of a sudden here. I have told them NO and have given time outs when it happens.

 

I have one DS that bites out of frustration all the time. He bites me Dh and his brother, he also head butts . I have started sitting him on my lap facing away from me and hugging him so that he is kind of restrained for 1 minute. He won't sit anywhere for a 1 minute so I have to hold him. He is starting to get the point and it seems to be working.

 

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I have biters (getting much better now) that have bitten each other, at daycare, and DH and me. We do a firm "no bite" and sit the child who bit down without attention for about 1 min .


We do the same thing with our biters. Ours is about 2-3 minutes in the same chair. It is a phase and I am pretty sure it will end within the next year or so. :hug99: Sorry she bit you!

 

It's totally normal. Biting happens from time to time around here (much less often these days) due to frustration and even affection (i.e. a kiss ending in a nibble). You did the right thing by addressing it right away (even 30 seconds later is too late) and by taking it seriously. Toddlers are all about testing the limits, including making a few teeth marks!

 

Oh boy. This is what I have to look forward to in the next few months? I have been bit while nursing, but that is different!
Sorry she bit you. It must have been a shock and hurt in more ways than one. :hug99:

 

Thank you for your replies.

To clarify, dd did try to bite my hand but I stopped her before she could. I was just shocked she actually would want to bite me..sound silly?

I also believe in addressing an 'offense' soon as possible if not immediately.