Emotions

Hi im Elle, im new to the site, i am 21, am married to Steve and we have a 2 year old son, Ben, and am expecting the babies in May.

Im not completly sure whether this is normal or not suring pregnancy, i know pregnancy is supposed to affect you emotions but not as much as this. Practically since i became pregnant they have become really changable and really extreme, im literally laughing with my dh one minute and the next im crying and screaming at him over absalutly nothing, i always feel really bad about it and my dh is really good about it but i can see he is getting really fed up, is there anything i can do? I don't want to spend the next 4-5 months arguing otherwise feel i'll be coming home alone with the twins . I've mentioned it to my doctor, but he just keeps telling me its a normal part of pregnancy.

With my DS i never went through anything like this, i was just normal old me, there was just more me than normal.

Thanks

-Elle

 

Hi im Elle, im new to the site, i am 21, am married to Steve and we have a 2 year old son, Ben, and am expecting the babies in May.

Im not completly sure whether this is normal or not suring pregnancy, i know pregnancy is supposed to affect you emotions but not as much as this. Practically since i became pregnant they have become really changable and really extreme, im literally laughing with my dh one minute and the next im crying and screaming at him over absalutly nothing, i always feel really bad about it and my dh is really good about it but i can see he is getting really fed up, is there anything i can do? I don't want to spend the next 4-5 months arguing otherwise feel i'll be coming home alone with the twins . I've mentioned it to my doctor, but he just keeps telling me its a normal part of pregnancy.

With my DS i never went through anything like this, i was just normal old me, there was just more me than normal.

Thanks

-Elle

 

Hi Elle. Dont worry you are not alone. We are about the same time with our pregnancy. Congratulations. I have gone through etreme emotions as well. fortunalty my husband was understanding and still is. I try to keep buys with things that i like and when i feel that i am getting irrational i will get into a bath with a book. My family has learned to leave me alone during these times as I explained to them that I have no control over these hormones and that I too, dont like sounding like tyrant all the time. So far it has worked for me. So try to have "me time" when you are feeling blue or raging.
Hang in there and good lu ck

 

Oh, you are so completely normal and not alone. Twin prego hormones are insane. I cried so much it was ridiculous, sometimes several times a day, to songs, movies, because I dropped a potato, it didn't matter ... my honey would just laugh and give me a hug ... try not to take it too seriously. Find some info on the web on hormones and multiple pregnancies and print it out and leave it around for your DH to read ... might help him understand what you are dealing with. Mine for the most part was understanding but it got to him too, and that is expected - he has to deal with a huge, crabby, crying, demanding eating machine!!! Try to pamper him a little bit too when you are in one of the "good" moods - a mini shoulder massage or foot massage, some cuddling, something, um, to pleasure him (ha, only if he deserves it) ... and make sure you just get some "cuddle time" to yourself too, like the PP said ... I took a lot of baths with a magazine as well, or would go for a short walk, or play with my cat ... little things to cheer me up. Ah, going out for a Starbucks Latte always cheered me up.

Big hugs

 

I think it is completely normal what you are going through. I could pretty much tell ahead of time that a 'mood' was coming and I would tell anyone near me that I needed some time and I would let them know when the 'mood' passed. I know it sounds horrible but it usually only happened with my husband and I much prefered silence to me saying something I didn't really mean and would regret later! It was also usually when I was hungry and/or tired so once I got a snack or took a little snooze I was usually back to being myself.

 

hi and welcome!
I didn't find out I was having twins until I was almost 21 weeks, and the whole time b-4 that I could swear I was twice as moody as with any of my other 3 pregnancies. and when I asked DH he said that he did think I was more moody this time than ever b-4. then we found out it was twins, and it totally explained all the mood swings. there are more hormones to deal with. so I would think it's pretty mormal to be more moody this time around.

I agree with the pp, you could print out some info on twin pregnancies and let your DH see it so that maybe he'll understand a little more. also along with what others have said, take a break for yourself to get away from what's driving you crazy when you can. hopefully that'll help with the arguements?
HTH-good luck!
Michelle

 

Hi and welcome and congrats! ditto on everything pp said: you canNOT control it, it's hormones. My favourite story is that i was walking down the street and saw a twig lying on the ground and starting SOBBING because that poor orphan stick was separated from it's tree mommy.....now THAT'S hormonal craziness!

I would definitely leave some info for DH, and also in a moment when you are lucid and sane, just acknowledge that you know it's difficult and you're not trying to make him crazy, and appreciate all his love and support. And yes, take a bath and some 'me' time when you are at your craziest! Good luck!