Easter, Inlaws And Cards-vent

About a week ago DH dad called and said that they (he and his wife) wanted to get something for the girls for Easter so I thought it would be nice for the girls to send grandpa an Easter card and then I picked up a thank you card for when we got the box to be sent to the 2 of them. I had sent a Easter card to the girls grandpa-DH's dad, even made a special trip to Hallmark to find a cute card.

DH talked to his dad today and his dad informed him that all future correspondence should be addressed to the both of them because his wife wants to be included. Excuse me? I did this to be nice to build a bridge between the girls and their grandpa. I had bought a thank you card for the clothes and was going to send it out on Mon., we only got the box on Thurs. I told DH that my feelings were very hurt. DH and I didn't exchange cards with his dad and his wife, I wanted it to be special between the 3 of them. Now I'm in trouble. I gave DH the thank you card and said here you send the card, don't send the card, all future correspondence with his family would be his job. I am done with this. Holidays and family fun, fun!

Thanks for listening. I'm ready for some warm weather and no contact with the inlaws till their b-day!

 

Awww I can see why you are frustrated but I think you are reading into this. His wife wants to be included, that's all. So include her, no big deal right? It was probably her that picked out all the clothes. You go ahead and send the thank you card like you planned and include her on the card. She is married to grandpa - she should be included.

 

:hug99: s! Dealing with family can be difficult sometimes. :blink:

 

Blended families can be sensitive sometimes. I understand where you're coming from but maybe grandpa was just trying to prevent an uncomfortable situation with his wife? I wish my in-laws would give me such warnings so I don't offend them without intending to.
I usually address holiday and thank you mail to all family members. For holidays I will even include wishes to children from previous marriages who don't live with the family year round just in case they are visiting for the holidays.
I'm sure you didn't intend to hurt his wife's feelings and it doesn't seem that they meant to hurt yours.

 

I am sure you did not intend to hurt anyone's feelings, but I can kind of understand why the wife felt left out...I say send the thank you to both of them, because as the other poster said, she probably helped choose the gifts for the babies anyway! Don't stress.