early pregnancy worries and concerns

ok so i'm just about 11 weeks pregnant and am barely starting to show. i mean, my lower stomach sticks out farther than it ever has in my entire life and it's pretty firm but i'm at that stage now where if you didn't know me you'd just think i was putting on extra weight. and i know that during the beginning part of your pregnancy you tend to worry about silly things but since we tried for so long with no results and i have a mother in law that put the fear of miscarriage into my head right from the get go i have a pretty long list of concerns...

sometimes (because i'm not showing and can't feel them) i feel like i'm no longer pregnant.
i worry constantly about VTS
i think that my babies are dead because of the benadryl i take to help with sleep

bottom line - i constantly think and fear that when i go in for my next u/s that they will have magically disapeared. weird i know.

BUT, if i did loose one or both of them i would know it right? i mean i would have spotting, cramping, something to signify a problem?

or am i just completely nuts and overly paranoid??

 

I've had the same concerns as you. I am 18 weeks now and barely starting to show. Since I found out I was having twins(at 9 wks) I've felt like I should be showing a little since its twins but everyone tells me to quit worrying and before I know it I will be huge and wishing I wouldn't have said anything. I think its normal as a mother to worry about our babies. Everytime I go in for an ultrasound I worry that one of their hearts wont be beating but from a lot of other peoples posts I have realized that is normal! And just so you know.. A lot of people say they can feel them move and they are like 12 weeks. Well I just want to tell you that I'm 18 weeks and STILL haven't felt them kick. I think I've felt maybe 2 flutters. I think its normal when you have no other children so you have nothing to compare it to. HTH!

 

i know just how you feel
i had a great pregnancy with the twins and when we tried again we got pregnant right away. within a week i had major cramps and than started to bleed.
it was a very early miscarrage now we are 15 weeks pregnant again and its always on my mind.
its hard but you have to just relax and believe that everything will be ok.
if a miscarrage is going to happen there is nothing you can do to stop it from happening.
i am sure you will have a great pregnancy with two beautiful babies at the end.
enjoy your pregnancy :grouphug:

 

I've had two miscarriages with absolutely no symptoms. Went in for an ultrasound and found no heartbeat. So I was EXTEMELY worried with this pregnancy. And then to make it twins just doubled it. I did everything to get extra ultrasounds just to make sure they were ok. Even did one at 11 weeks (my last miscarriage was at 10) that I had to pay for just to ease my mind. And now even though I can feel them move I still worry about it. I've just keep telling myself that worrying will just but unneeded stresss on the babies and that won't do them any good and try to keep myself distracted. You should ask at your next ultrasound where the placenta(s) are so you know if you'll be able to feel the kicks sooner or later. If one is positioned in the front of the uterus it will soften the kickes and you can go to 24 weeks before feeling anything and if you know this ahead of time you won't worry when you hit 18 and still haven't felt anything. Your not crazy or alone (even though my husband thinks I am the biggest worrier in the world). Get used to it. My son still sleeps in my room because I'm afraid something will happen I can't get to him. We are working on breaking me of this habit not him. I used to go get him in the middle of the night because I couldn't sleep. I would just stare at the moniter listening for him to breath. And I hear it only gets worse.

 

I am 20 weeks pregnant and still have the same concerns. I don't think i can rest until my girls come out.

 

It seems like with a lot of people, you can go from slightly pudgy looking to totally "popped" in a matter of a week. That's what happened to me. No one could tell (unless they caught me in the bathroom with m/s) that I was pregant until around 16 weeks. I'm 19wks now and just started wearing maternity shirts last week.

All I did the first trimester was worry about vanishing twin syndrome. I worried about it before every u/s, thinking this would be the day that there would only be one heartbeat. I didn't want to buy anything or consider names until I felt like we were out of the woods.

It seems like the worrying never goes away. VTS has been replaced by TTS. I still haven't felt them kick and everyone seems to think I should have by now. But on the u/s, they're just beating the crap out of each other, so obviously they're ok.

Benadryl won't hurt your babies. If you search these forums, you'll find links to medicines that are totally ok to take while pregant. Benadryl's on that list, as is Tylenol PM (which is Tylenol + Benadryl).

I decided after all of the worrying that it wasn't doing me any good. The things I was concerned about weren't even under my control. I made a pact with myself. If I see blood where it shouldn't be, then I'll worry. If I have questions, I'll ask - no matter how silly they might seem. Until someone tells me that something bad has happened to them, I'm going to believe they're totally ok and happy.

I just keep telling myself these things over and over. Control the things you can, and have faith that things will be ok for everything else.

 

I too think negative sometimes, I had to learn that most of it is mental. I decided after my 12 week sono that I would not even think in that direction, but it is hard and I still struggle. STAY POSITIVE AND THINK POSITIVE! The rest should follow!! Good Luck!

 

I know how you feel, for whatever reason, this time around (maybe because they are twins), i just kept freaking out, just like you that something would go wrong, one of them wouldn't survive or that some kind of complication would arise.
However, the further i get along, the more scans i get and the more movement i get, the better i feel. Don't get me wrong, i still worry like crazy before every single appointement, but because i can feel them move around, i feel reassured
I wish you the very best for a happy and healthy pregnancy

 

I am also a worrier, and have worried throughout this pregnancy. My husband tries to get my mind off of it; he even had us start a worry list. The thinking is that you put off worrying about it if you write it down, I didn't find that it worked, but you may want to try it.

On Christmas eve, when I was 13 weeks, I had some significant bleeding and went to the emergency room.... then I really started to worry. Doctors weren't too optimistic either. for a few weeks after, I spotted, but now I am at 19 weeks and everything looks good. I have the anatomy test on friday.

Just hang in there and try to be positive.