Each have the same toy and STILL fight!

Okay, to avoid the constant fighting over toys/books we have resorted to getting two of everything. (my b/g twins turned 2 at the beginning of April) Well now, that isn't even good enough!! They still want the one the other one has. I am so frustrated and tired of the constant screaming & fighting over everything imaginable. I am always on edge waiting for the next meltdown. Any advice??

 

I have the exact same problem...in fact yesterday the thought actually crossed my mind that we should just get 4 of everything so that they could each have TWO! ha ha, crazy thought.

Mine fight over everything too....even if they have the exact same toy in front of them. I hope you get some good responses for this one because the best that we've come up with is distracting them with coloring (which they love) or put on the song "We Are the Dinosaurs" for them to dance to.

 

hA.... mine love to color too, and it is a distraction at first.... then they fight over the crayons and coloring books. They steal them back and forth. (They start out with the exact same thing)

Maybe 10 of each item would do it???? :lol:

 

Mine do this too...it's SO annoying!!!! I todl everyone to quite buying us 2 of everything because it's pointless, they still fight! No advice, it's a twin thing! LOL!

 

My girls just started the constant fighting over toys the past couple of weeks. Thanks for letting me know that buying 2 won't make any difference!

 

my girls do it too. a toy would lie in a corner totally unwanted until it suddenly rouses curiosity of one of them. then they both want it. it is immaterial whether there is 1, 2 or 3 of that particular toy. there are 2 sippers which are exactly the same but they want to drink from the same one at the same time so there would be snatching, pulling and fighting.


but then i guess that's the case with all siblings whether they are twins or not.

 

Oh yeah. Even if they each have the exact same thing, the one their sibling has is better! Wouldn't matter if you had 100 of everything.

 

Same here!! Wish I had some advice to give, but mine do the same thing!!

 

Sorry I can't offer any advice, I can only sympathize...mine do it too.

 

I really feel like this is a symptom of being two. (okay, so it's also a symptom of HAVING two, but you get the point).

We have the same thing here, compounded by the problem that Nick's favorite pastime is taking something from Joe in hopes of getting a reaction.

 

It's bad in our house too, although it's one doing it more than another. I absolutely refuse to buy 2 of everything. We have resorted to putting the toy they are fighting for in time out. I fear two of everything (which we've done in the past) kinda caters to them. I really want them to know that sometimes someone is going to have the better toy ~ and they just need to deal...

 

It is a child thing where one will always want what they other has. We don't buy two of everything. If I see who had the toy first I give it back to the one playing with it first and take the other one away and either put them in time out or give them a different toy on the other side of the room. If I didn't see who had it first the toy gets taken away and put into time out and then when they forgot about it I throw it back in with the other toys when they aren't looking.

 

We never got 2 the same toys because it's not about the toy.....they just want what the other has.
Here it's Keagan who makes the most trouble. Cosmo loves to colour and Keagan throws the crayons aroud the room!!!and them Berber thinks "oh but I can trow much further " and there go all the crayons and I have a sreeming Cosmo
Good to read the problem is international ha ha

 

I either -

-Ignore the fighting and let them figure it out, break it up if they start hurting each other.
-Put the toy in time out, or at least threaten to, this usually gets them to knock it off
-Tell them, it's Bea's turn first, she has one minute, then it's Ainsley's turn

But yes, don't bother buying two of everything. It's pointless.

 

Same thing going on here. Only most of the time it's McKenna. She always wants whatever Macy has even if it is the exact same thing. She does this with everything, not just toys. Macy used to just trade her with a smile, but I think she is sick of it now and won't budge, which I don't blame her, so they fight over everything.

 

When my hubby and I are both home, we split up and each take one. They are totally different kids when they are alone. Almost angel like.

Our motto is 'You can do anything with one'.

 

One thing we've found miraculously helpful is counting. I tell them that Maia (or Tal) can have it for the count of 10 and then it's her sister's turn. I count loudly and slowly, repeating at times that when I get to 10 it's Tal's (or Maia's) turn.

I've been doing this for several months now and it's been amazing. The one without the toy waits happily, the one with the toy hands it over happily. Almost always! AND they've learned to count to 10.

I keep waiting for them to not fall for it, but it seems to work every time.
HTH
lisa