Dr said they need to be seperated?

I went to my 6 mo appt and was telling the Dr laughingly that the twins have had role reversal. Originally Brooke was Ms. Independent and Braelynn was sensitive and needed her sister. Now that they have entered daycare it has switched. His comment? I believe they need to learn to be apart then. You should enroll them in different rooms........ whaaaaaa? He is usually so different! Truly he cant be serious??!!

 

I couldnt imagine doing that!! Mine are also 6 months and since birth have traded roles. The "High matenence new born" in now our laid back paci baby... but she likes her sister way more than her sister likes her!! LOL I am not going to seperate mine until 1st grade (of course that is just my plan... I know it could always change).

 

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Truly he cant be serious??!!


:blink: He can't be, can he? They are just babies!

 

That sounds totally nuts to me! They're babies, for pete's sake!

 

Did you have any response to him saying that? That's so weird. They don't even know they're people yet! Very odd....especially since you say he isn't normally like that...

I think this is one of those "go with your mommy instincts rather than what doc says" sort of things.

 

I find most doctors are great for medical advice and not-so-great for parenting advice. Especially male doctors, since for the most part, they aren't doing the bulk of the parenting. Especially singleton-parent doctors because they have no real experience with multiples. Smile, say thanks for the advice, and do what your mommy instincts tell you to do.

 

I think that's the craziest thing!!

Also on the role reversal thing, my girls have switched a few times back and forth its weird the way it happens.

Back to your doctor though, I think u should go with your gut not his advice.



amanda

 

Follow your instinct.

 

What's the problem with them "switching roles"? They are only 6 months old. They have a lot of developing to go. My boys switch all the time. It's normal. He's seems a little off his rocker, to say the least.

 

My babies haven't even noticed each other yet! Occasionally they stare at each other or smile, but for the most part they each think they're the only baby in the world. I could put them in separate daycares completely and they wouldn't know the difference! I can't wait until they become friends (fingers crossed).

 

That is crazy!! They do not need to be apart!

 

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I find most doctors are great for medical advice and not-so-great for parenting advice. Especially male doctors, since for the most part, they aren't doing the bulk of the parenting. Especially singleton-parent doctors because they have no real experience with multiples. Smile, say thanks for the advice, and do what your mommy instincts tell you to do.


ITA that Dr's aren't always the most knowledgeable about parenting issues...even Peds. Ours is good about incorporating her experiences as a mother so we're pretty lucky. I agree that you should follow your instincts on this one!

 

How silly. My boys are close to 3 and they switch from day to day. People will ask who is most outgoing and I always say it depends on the day. Why shouldn't they be able to have different moods on different days.

 

That's ridiculous! They're 6 months old! It's perfectly normal for them to reverse roles. They'd change like that even if they were singletons although it's interesting how twins do it at the same time. I think that doctor is a little too into the separation of twins. How old is he?

 

Good! Your comments are such a relief! I was so astounded he said that I just stared at him open-mouthed. I cant imagine taking one from the other if they appear to need each other... how could that possibly help them??? They are doing so wonderfully together and have such a sweet bond I smile about it, not frown upon it!!

 

They are just babies! I don't think I would separate them now. K&P have role reversed many many times in the last 14 months. Time for separating is in elementary school not baby day care! I hope he is just kidding.

 

Mine reversed roles too - the fussy one got content and the content one got fussy.
It's normal!

Ignore him. Doctors are trained in treating biology not psychology.

 

That is the craziest thing I have ever heard. I don't think they should be seperated. They are way to young. I would say do what you want to do. My pedi doesn't even ask about things like this.

Missy

 

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What's the problem with them "switching roles"? They are only 6 months old. They have a lot of developing to go. My boys switch all the time. It's normal. He's seems a little off his rocker, to say the least.


Ditto that!

 

That doesn't make any sense, what's the point? I would go with your gut on this one and take the doctor's advice for things he's TRAINED to give advice on.

 

Yeah, whatever about the doctor. The role reversal thing is funny, though. Ours do such switches sometimes, we swear we must have gotten them mixed up! That's just part of the fun of having twins, that singleton parents miss out on without even knowing it. Our babies are special and have a special connection with each other, and I see no need to try to destroy that connection and make them like two singletons instead of twins!!

My favorite switch was when they were first noticing each other. We set them up in the bumbos facing each other, and Porter right away smiled and babbled at Bridger, and Bridger just looked at him like, what are you? That lasted a couple of weeks, and then it completely switched one day. Bridger started smiling and babbling, and Porter looked at him like he was crazy. We told Bridger that Porter was just punishing him for those weeks when he was ignored in the same way. Finally after a couple of weeks of that, they now smile and babble at each other. We really thought for a second we got them mixed up though when the 'wrong' boy was smiling and talking!

 

Mine switched personalities at 6 months too. Sophie went from being laid back to a little madam and Jack went from being a little monster to laid back. I think you should ignore that comment and do what you want to do! x