Does not respond to me at times

Ainsley seems to have selective hearing, and/or be off in her own world, or just plain ignoring me. When we move from one room to another, going to the car, up the stairs, etc, she often does not follow me. I even shout, which I don't like to do. She will look up (maybe) and just keep on with what she is doing. Today I felt like it was the last straw. We were going up the stairs, and Bea ran ahead while Ainsley was dawdling at the bottom, playing with the gate. I was just yelling to Bea to wait for us at the landing, when she came tumbling down the upper half of the stairs. She was fine, but it was scary and I was mad that Bea could have gotten hurt because of Ainsley dorking around. I end up picking Ainsley up half the time so we can get where we are going in a timely manner. I do use the trick of saying Bye to her and we all leave her behind, but I don't like to do that, esp on the stairs. She's still not the most stable walker (only been walking a little over a month now). Anyone else dealing with this? Any ideas? It gets annoying.

 

[SIZE=12pt]I am going through the EXACT same thing with Ryan!!!! It is SO frustrating and by the end of some days I am so ready for my DH to get home!!!! :blink: He does it ALL the time no matter where we are; out for a walk, coming inside, getting in the car, to get dressed, to get shoes on, to come and eat, etc.......

One thing that we have started to do is to say to him he can either walk or be carried........he always prefers to walk so that will get him going. (my DH started doing that trick!)

The other thing I do is count, which has both backfired and worked as when I call him, he will tell me to count and go "1, 2, 3" and when I start to count he will come over.

I have read it is a phase, and definitely one of the most annoying ones!! (IMO!)
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I just came to my computer to post a similar note about my frustration with one of my daughters who ignores both myself and DH when we are speaking to her and she doesn't want to hear what we have to say. We find her very defiant and when we are telling her not to do something she just grins at us (which just gets us more upset). I find that I am raising my voice at her much more than I want to and don't know what to do to get her to start to behave. We have tried time outs in a playpen but that seems to not bother her at all.

Any suggestions on how to curb this behaviour would be most appreciated. Is the just the start to terrible two's???? (My girls are 20 months old).

 

Oh my gosh, I'm so glad it's not just me. She also does the thing of just looking at me or laughing when I tell her to stop doing something. I was starting to wonder if there was something wrong her. By the end of the day I'm so tired of yelling "Ainsley!" over and over.

 

frustration with one of my daughters who ignores both myself and DH when we are speaking to her and she doesn't want to hear what we have to say. We find her very defiant and when we are telling her not to do something she just grins at us (which just gets us more upset). I find that I am raising my voice at her much more than I want to and don't know what to do to get her to start to behave. We have tried time outs in a playpen but that seems to not bother her at all.

ME TOO!!!
Peyton has been doing this same behavior quite often and it can drive me crazy.

 

Oh I am right there with you. I actually got home from work and I asked how things were and he said I think Kaylee is deaf. I then asked her Kaylee are you deaf and of course she ignored me. Oh and she loves time out. I have started this....when they get in trouble I give them a warning and tell them they are going to time-out if they do it again, if they do I stick them in timeout and tell them if they do it again they will get a spanking. When I put Kelby in timeout and he is done she will go and put herself there.

Since our kids were born on the same day, are you going through a whiny phase as well? Please tell me you are. I am at my wits end with Kaylee wanted held all the time.

Good luck if you find something that works let me know.

 

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Oh I am right there with you. I actually got home from work and I asked how things were and he said I think Kaylee is deaf. I then asked her Kaylee are you deaf and of course she ignored me. Oh and she loves time out. I have started this....when they get in trouble I give them a warning and tell them they are going to time-out if they do it again, if they do I stick them in timeout and tell them if they do it again they will get a spanking. When I put Kelby in timeout and he is done she will go and put herself there.

Since our kids were born on the same day, are you going through a whiny phase as well? Please tell me you are. I am at my wits end with Kaylee wanted held all the time.

Good luck if you find something that works let me know.


Oh yeah, whiny here too. Bea has perfected the fake cry/whine when she wants something and can't have it, or I am not giving it to her quick enough. Ainsley acts like the world is coming to an end. Overall, things really are pretty good right now, minus the whining and Ainsley's selective hearing. She's not outright defiant, honestly it's like she goes off in her own world and I have to get in her face. I think when I yell at her to stop doing something, she thinks I'm playing along with her. I haven't started time outs with her because she hasn't really needed it up to this point, but I think I will just so she knows I am being serious. Who knows, she might like it though too. I haven't had to do it with Bea in a while, she hates it.

 

My DD ignores me quite often as well. I was wondering too if something was wrong with her, but everyone's told me she seems fine and of course if you call her name right then she responds... so I guess just not to me! :unknw:

Ugh... I guess it's not going to get any better anytime soon. I'll have tgo chalk it up to her personality and deal.

 

i do two things to get my kids to listen and they both work well..

i say look at my nose.. that way they are looking me in the eyes when i tell them to pick something up or to do something...

i know they heard me..

next.. i tell them what the plan is before we do it.. ie if its bath time.. and we come in from going to the mall .. already had our dinner there..

while sitting in the car.. i say.. shoes and jackets in the clothset.. its time for naked baby and time to shoot..

which means walk in .. stop by the front clothset.. take off shoes and coats.. put them in the clothset.. and strip.. while mommy gets your pjs and diapers.. shoot means put your clothes in the washer.. then go get a bath..

looking them in the eyes really helps..

 

Just wanted to let you know that I am going through the same thing with my son. It is so frustrating. I agree that looking in the eye helps, but that's not always possible. I honestly think it will get better with age.

 

Just wanted you to know that you are not along at all. I am taking it as a phase and the beginning of the two's. Of course, I have heard the 3's are not much better. We get ignored all of the time until they need something. We are just hoping to survive.