Does it get harder to leave them?

When the girls were 13 months old I went on a girls trip to Vegas, I was gone for 4 nights and had a great time!! I missed the girls terribly by the 3rd day but didn't feel guilty for going as I knew it was good for me to have this girls trip after surviving my first year with twins.
Fast forward to now, they are 26 months and I haven't left them overnight since, DH and I have a wedding away next weekend and will be gone for 3 nights, I am having so much guilt about this and feel like I shouldn't be leaving them for that long. They know when mommy and daddy are gone now and I just feel like it's going to be so hard for them and for me. They will be well cared for by my Mom & Dad so that isn't the concern.

Does it just keep getting harder to leave them as they get older??

 

My DS is a little over 3, so he's older than yours, but he loves staying at Grandma's. I miss him terribly (especially if we go somewhere where there are other kids), but he loves it!! He waves "Bye" to me, talks to me on the phone while I'm gone, sometimes doesn't want to leave her house.

The twins, of course, don't really realize what's going on.

Anyway, so he's actually gotten better and loves it!! He loves his grandma's.

 

I think it gets easier! ardon: When they were younger, they really didn't understood where mommy/daddy were. Now that they are older, they know where we are going, or why we are going, etc. And they can communicate their needs/wants better-so it's not a guessing game as to what the issue may be. And they have a lot of fun with their grandparents/aunts when they are watching them. And it's great-they can talk to us on the phone and tell us all about their days!

That said-I still cry as I pull out of the driveway. Never fails. The first 10 minutes is really hard....then it gets easier! LOL! Go and have a great time! The kids will have a wonderful time with their grandparents!

 

I agree with Meaghan. I find it easier now that they're older because I have gotten more laid back about their routine and schedule. I used to be a little bit of a control freak and leave pages of instructions, safety warnings, etc, etc. Now I know they can go with the flow more, they won't freak out and turn into monsters if they skip a nap or go to bed late one day. I also don't worry about their safety as much because they don't do as many crazy things as they used to. It also helps that we have only left them in our house with MIL watching them. They LOVE her, and always have a blast when she watches them.

 

I too think that it gets easier as there are less to worry about as far as schedule and packing all the food and safety, entertainment. Plus since you are sending them to your parents...it's really a special time for your children and the grandparents!

 

I don't think it's easier... It's a bit harder for me because like you said they know I'm not there. I'm going on a Vegas trip without my dh this next month and I'm so excited and I know I'll miss them but I'll be fine. However if it was me going with dh for a weekend, I think I would have a harder time. I love my kids being with their dad and in their home so for me that makes it easier.
:grouphug: I hope you guys have a wonderful time!!

 

Well, I think it gets a bit harder when they go from not realizing you are even gone, to being more aware. But then, as they get older, it actually gets easier because they start to understand time better & can understand when you say that you will be back in x number of sleeps. Then when they get considerably older, like my older kids, it gets a lot easier because they really aren't that dependent on me anymore anyway, at least not for every little thing.

Anyway, I hope you can relax & enjoy your trip!

 

Not for me. But we always leave them with my parents, and my girls have gone so far as to ask why they can't move in to Mimi and Papa's house. I know they have a blast over there and my parents let them get away with murder. It was way harder for me when they were younger.