do yours always fight?

The constant fighting over toys, or crying b/c DS stepped on DD is starting to get to me! I know they play together pretty well, considering their age. But they do fight over toys all the time. Do yours do this, too? Anything to make it easier?

 

LOL, I posted this same question a few months ago. So, yes, they do!

But if it helps, it has gotten somewhat easier from 15 months to now (21 months). Around 18 months they finally grasped the concept of "taking turns," which has been a lifesaver. They still don't do it voluntarily (an adult has to be right there to mediate: "Now it's Amy's turn. Now it's Sarah's turn."), but at least there's less screaming. Also, when they can talk and comprehend more, even a little, it helps a lot. I can say to Amy, "Sarah's playing with the car right now -- why don't you get me a book and I'll read it to you?" and at least some of the time, she will actually do that, and forget that she wanted the car.

One thing that also helps me cope with it is just to remember that it's developmentally normal. I'm not doing anything wrong just because my 1-year-olds can't be in the same room together for 5 minutes without fighting over something. When I posted my question, one person responded that 1-year-olds just are not really ready to share: toys, Mommy, space, anything. Being a twin can be a great gift, but for a baby/toddler it can also be a trial. Try not to expect too much of them, and you won't stress about it as much. :hug99:

 

I would have to agree with PP totally! Within the last couple weeks my girls have started to finally play with each other instead of fighting with each other. Its been really refreshing, and nice to see each other laughing and chasing each other instead of hitting and taking toys. Hang in there, it'll happen. :hug99:

 

My first three singletons have always fought over stuff so I know its normal. Thankfully the twins don't! They are really good friends. They have a few moments of fighting but its rare. I wish I could say hang in there it gets better but my older ones still fight over stuff! GRR

 

I was going to post about this too. Mine have been fighting everyday!!!! It's wearing me out!

 

It gets better


amanda

 

ahhh....today for some reason, DD slept in about 2 hrs past her normal wake up time, so they ended up on opposite napping times today. I didn't realize until this evening when they were both playing together again - there was no fighting today! *sigh* Wouldn't trade it for anything, though......thanks for all the tips!

 

It gets better. (and a little worse, better, same,really good...and that is all by 9:00--just kidding it does get better!) We also introduced the idea of trading. "oh you want that, do you want to ask to trade? What do you want to trade? That sort of thing, if nothing else, it helps to distract them a bit.

Good luck, You are so close to two, I loved two. Yes it was challenging but part of the challenge is also the reason it is fun. They will start to play together, have actually "conversations" with each other and you. They just become so much more of their little selves. Now, at three, they are developing so much more attitude!

 

mine still fight and I feel like I am always tearing them apart. The big thing is DS will bite DD all the time she takes toys and he will bite her and leave huge bruses. I just dont know how to stop either one I hope it gets better.