Do your twins share a bedroom?

My husband is convinced that our twins are the only on the planet that do NOT share a bedroom. We are getting ready to start the "Sleep Lady Shuffle" and wondering how to arrange their bedroom situation. Walker's crib in in "their" bedroom. Jordyn's crib is in our bedroom. DH thinks we should move them both back in to "their" bedroom, I think we should move her crib in to the guest bedroom where the computer is and move the computer in our bedroom. Walker lays perfectly still and needs quiet to go to sleep. Jordyn talks, screeches, rolls around, jumps around, flops around, and on and on and on. That combination doesn't seem to work very well if you ask me but DH thinks that they would eventually get used to each other and use each other as a sleep crutch instead of Mommy. What do you think? What are your experiences?

 

My husband is convinced that our twins are the only on the planet that do NOT share a bedroom. We are getting ready to start the "Sleep Lady Shuffle" and wondering how to arrange their bedroom situation. Walker's crib in in "their" bedroom. Jordyn's crib is in our bedroom. DH thinks we should move them both back in to "their" bedroom, I think we should move her crib in to the guest bedroom where the computer is and move the computer in our bedroom. Walker lays perfectly still and needs quiet to go to sleep. Jordyn talks, screeches, rolls around, jumps around, flops around, and on and on and on. That combination doesn't seem to work very well if you ask me but DH thinks that they would eventually get used to each other and use each other as a sleep crutch instead of Mommy. What do you think? What are your experiences?

 

Mine have shared since they were born-- first in a crib together and then in separate cribs.

I think it would be hard for them to get used to sleeping togther if they have been apart already. But you never know until you try.

 

You would be surprised by what they get used to. Marc used to scream at Jon to wake up, and Jon slept blissfully through it! I would put them together and get your room back

 

Your dh and mine should talk. He also thinks are twins are the only twins that get their own room At the moment we have the 3 older kids sharing a room because the twins can't sleep together. The one that can sleep thru anything also makes the most noise and wakes up his sister. She is a bear when she shares a room with him. So till they can understand how to be quiet they will have their own rooms. Dh thinks they are spoiled but my gosh sleep is important. I figure in another year to a year and a half they'll understand its not ok to scream and giggle when someone is trying to sleep. Then they can either share a room or share with a sibling.

 

Ours share but only because they freak out at night if seperated. I think when they are bit older, they may try their own rooms. I am open to either way.

 

I voted no, not anymore although they are still in the same room but by summer they will have their own rooms.

I decided since they are b/g twins, I want to separate them while they are younger. I think if I wait too long they won't want to. If they were the same sex I wouldn't care. But as they get older I think they should have their own rooms. But it has been great so far, they have shared a room since birth. I kinda like having them together in one room of the house and they like to talk to each other when they fall asleep. But the downfall is they do keep each other awake sometimes and do wake each other up sometimes. Not all the time, I agree with PPs they have gotten used to it since it is all they know. But as they get older and naps get tougher I don't want being in the same room to be more of a problem, especially if I have a choice. Karen

 

THey shared a crib then a room up till 4 months. At this time, we separated them for naps and they shared a room for bedtime. Then around 5-6 months we began moving one of them for naps/bedtime. We wanted to do CIO and this was the perfect situation for us. We eventually moved the crib out and they have been in separate rooms ever since.
I don't know why it is a problem if you have the space. I also think it gives the kids some independence and ownership.
For us this is what worked. I never thought I would separate them but the stress of naps and letting them soothe themselves and CIO was too much for me and I would always run in to fix the matter so the other one wouldn't wake up. They both had, like yours, different sleep habits.
Separating them helped me to not stress about one waking the other. It was the best move for me, especially during the first year.
If they ever want to be in the same room later on, fine. But when they are old enough to decide that they can.
Right now at 3, one is napping and the other one had a poopie and is in her room reading since she couldn't get back to sleep. So I at least have one napping.
I do agree with above that kids can get used to their sleeping situations I just couldn't deal with the stress of it. I would do what works best for you and your stress level. Good luck!

 

I agree with Sharon that most people would be amazed at what kids can get used to if they just gave it a shot. Mine have always slept together. Both in the same room and in the same bed. Gabby is cutting a molar and last night was screaming, really screaming for 15 minutes, Bianca was sound a sleep in the same bed. Of course in our case, we don't have any extra space that they could be in.

My DH grew up one of 5 children in a one room house.

 

My girls have always shared a room even though we have another bedroom that we could have put one of them in. They are used to each other, but I think they are because they don't know any different.

I think since your's are boy/girl and have never been together that you should probably keep them in separate rooms. I think at this age they would have a harder time getting used to each other. Not saying it wouldn't happen, but it would probably take a long time.

 

yes since birth they have shared a room. i also used a modified approach of cio -- modifications I took from the sleep lady shuffle.

Alexis is the one who talks herself to sleep.

If you feel walker needs to have perfect quiet to go to sleep, then I would go ahead and separate them. Eventually you will want to have separate rooms for boy/girl twins anyways.

 

My shared a crib until 6 months (4 months adjusted age). Then we tried different crib configurations in their room (i.e side by side, butted together, L shaped with space between them). When we moved into the house we're in now, the room was such that we could ONLY have them opposite sides of the room (not that the room is very big to begin with). I like it better this way, but I'm happy with them sharing a room. Dh and I figure they can share a room til they get to an age where it's best to give them each her own space....like 10 is what we were thinking...maybe 8. They are just use to each others little quirks noises and habits. They sleep through it all now unless it is morning then it may be likely that one waking up may wake the other but who knows...last weekend they both slept in til 9am. I couldn't be believe it. They usually get up around 7 or 8 on the weekends and between 6 and 6:30 weekdays for "school". I'd say give it a shot. It'll be nice having your space back. Wear ear plugs to bed. I do here lately. If it's loud...I'll hear it through the ear plugs, but otherwise, if it's just a little, brief cry out, there's no need to me to keep killing myself over those...which I have been. Good luck and keep us posted.

 

heck, ours are still in the same crib (surprisingly) and still in our room. We only have a 2bdr till we move hopefully this summer.

 

We have 7 sons and we have 4 bedrooms we have the 14 year old in his own room (9'x10'), the 13 and 10 year olds share a room (10'x10'), the 7 and 4 year olds share a room (10'x10')and then hubby, me and the 15 month old twins share a room (12'x10').

For right now it works for us.

 

Our girls slept together in the crib until seven months. At that time we began putting one in bed with us and one slept in the crib. They switched off every other night. At a year we moved them to their own bedroom in their own cribs. They did fine. Then at about 16 months they learned how to climb out of their crib and we would find them in the same crib sleeping next to each other. Now they share a bottom bunk bed together and are fine with that. I guess whatever works is the way to go.

Good luck with whatever you decide.

Rose

 

Mine have always shared a room(they are 3 1/2yrs old). They shared a crib till they were 4months old. We seperated them in seperate cribs but same bedroom. Then at 18months we had them sleep together in the same bed. Amazingly they slept better sleeping next to eachother. They are 3 1/2yrs old and they still sleep together(by their choice). I tryed to put their toddler beds apart in their room but they both freaked out about it so now they have their beds up against eachother(like one big bed). So..........not only do mine share a room they also choose to sleep together. They look like an old married couple. Its so cute!!

Cherie:mommy to
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I haven't read the rest of the replies but mine are 9mos and we just separated them, it was the best thing!! Mine are just like yours, one is passive and the other not (while going to sleep). I had been wanting to do it for a while (because we hit 8 months and were STILL not sleeping through the night - mostly because one would wake the other and then there'd be a screaming match) but I didn't do it because I assumed it was better for them to be together. They have a blast together all day and don't seem to miss each other a bit at naps or bedtime. I wish I had done this around month 4 or 5! HTH!

 

We only have three bedrooms, so there's no choice but to have them share. I would love to be able separate them just because our rooms (and closets) are very small and it would be nice for each of them to have their own space. But I know they enjoy having each other there. They are able to sleep apart with no problem, but I think they'd choose to continue sharing.

 

We have three bedrooms, but one is now a playroom (previously one of the girls' rooms because they woke each other up). The girls like sharing a room, but we are well aware that this may change in the future. We are planning a major renovation in the future. Our house is not huge, but we have a rather large attic, so we're going to raise the roof, put in dormers and a balcony for our dream master bedroom. The girls will have the two bedrooms on the main floor and the third bedroom will be where the stairs go up to our room. This is far into the future, however. I'm thinking teenage-hood. I shared a room with my brother AND sister when I was growing up. I think a child having her own bedroom is a luxury--definitely not a necessity.

 

Mine had shared since birth and have learned to sleep thru each other crying. Also, when they wake up - they keep each other company so they do not get scared. They love their room and their cribs. We are keeping them together for a long time - until they want their own rooms.

My neighbor has b/g twins and they shared a room well into grade school - maybe 2nd grade?

 

Ours have shared since they were born, first in our room and then in their own room from 5 months on. It's amazing how they can sleep through the other one talking or yelling, but then wake right up if they hear the slight squeak of the door when we sneak in to check on them. That being said, they are moving into their own separate rooms this weekend. They have always slept through the night and taken good naps, but we recently learned that DS needs about 2 hours more sleep each day than DD. She wakes up earlier in the morning and takes shorter naps and DS would wake up when we would go get her up. Plus, they seem to like being alone (away from each other) for a bit each day now after basically being together every minute of the day since birth.

OTOH, my brother's b/g twins shared a room until they started first grade. They asked for their own rooms then.

 

They actually have shared a room with thier big brother since about 6 months...no choiced here.

Most days it works ok...I just can not let them fuss it out very long when they wake up too early or risk waking him up.

 

Just wanted to add that I was a big supporter/promoter of the theory that they'll learn to sleep thru anything yadda yadda yadda! Just like many moms who responded to this post. BUT it doesn't always work permanently. Mine slept together for a long time and learned to sleep thru the other crying. Then their sleep habits changed. My boy gets really loud and my girl plays very quietly. We tried for awhile and finally after WEEKS of two very grouchy babies we gave up. At first we just seperated for naps but it wasn't enough. So now my 3 oldest share a room and the babies get their own. It stinks but until they learn how to not wake another person (which will probably be more than a year) they'll get their own rooms. The 3 oldest have to get up earlier for school anyway so it works out well.