Do your twins fight? Hit each other, pull at each others clothes, smack each other faces?

It's quite funny yet can cause the one being hit to cry and so we try to stop them doing this. One day it will seem like Ashley is more dominant, another day it will be Chloe... Is there anything I should be doing?

 

What we did with our biting issue or roughness issues was to redirect or show appropriate behavior. I'd take the offendings hand and say "gentle" or "nice" and rub the 'victim.' It shows what behavior you want. Good luck!

 

My girls are only almost 7 months are are constantly pulling hair and smack each other. I dont' think they mean to hurt each other though.

I'm anxious to see the responses.

 

This is happening over here at my house too! More often than not though it's Cameron beating up Evan. He will hit him in the head with toys, grab his face sticking his fingers in his eyes, steals his toys, and this may not have been what it looked like, but the other day he even had Evan backed into a corner and was growling at him. :vava:

Like Mandy said, I don't think he is trying to hurt him though. Evan occupies himself very well and would prefer to play by himself the majority of the time, whereas Cameron would prefer to play with someone. I really think he is just trying to get Evan's attention and interact with him in some way. He just doesn't know how to do it properly.

 

How funny - my girls are just eight months and are doing the same thing. And they go back and forth with who is being the bully. Pulling hair seems to be the big thing. I've heard to try to dish out attention evenly when this happens - ie. don't give all the attention to the bully saying no etc. as she will enjoy the attention she's getting regardless if it's negative or positive. I also tell the "bully" to be nice / gentle and show her how with her hand. It seems after baths / dinner - after I get them in their PJ's - they are the rowdiest - but they seem to squeal with delight at each other then and they'll wrestle and laugh. It's so darn cute!

 

Lauren is my bully. She will do the smackdown on Emma every chance she gets. If Emma is up holding onto something (Leap Frog table for example) Lauren comes right over, grabs her arm and throws her down. She also will crawl over to her and start smacking her head. I have also tried the redirect approach and I think she is starting to get it. She will now crawl over and in her own words says "gentle" and pats Emma's head lightly.

 

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I'd take the offendings hand and say "gentle" or "nice" and rub the 'victim.' It shows what behavior you want.


That's what I do too. And now when I say "nice, nice", they rub their own heads! :laughing:

 

Thanks for the redirecting suggestions!!

 

Mine are still very young, so whenever I lay them next to eachother there is either face sucking, or fingers going into the others nose and mouth, lol.

 

YES, and as they get older it gets worse. I try not to intervene much, because they always work it out amongst themselves. When they were younger I did seperate them, because it was harder for them to get back to each other as quick, and by the time they did they had forgotten they were fighting, kwim?

 

I redirect as well. My guys don't attack each other much but they push each other down each chance they get.

 

It's like Lord of the Flies! My "A" baby girl is not really dominant, per se, she's just a bigger person than my "B" baby girl. She's constantly pulling her hair. I think she's jealous because she doesn't have half as much! Don't get me wrong, my "little one" isn't afraid...she's scrappy! It's funny to see how they just have no regard for anyone but themselves. You just can't help but laugh sometimes.

 

One pulls the others hair whether he is mad or not and they both push things in the others face when they are mad! They are yet to kiss or hug!