Do you want to have more babies now that you have twins?

After reading Boni's post, I was wondering how many of us want to have more children after the twins? Do you want more kids, and if so, how many total kids do you want? And how much spacing do you want in between your children, if you want more? I'd like to have 1 more pregnancy one day, I'd like to get pregnant again when the twins are 3, around the time of my 30th or 31st birthday. (I just turned 27 about a month ago.) It's because I don't want 3 in diapers, and I know this is crazy but I haven't given away ANY of the twins clothes and I won't, because I am hoping for a 2nd set of twins! Although I would also be happy with a singleton, I'd like to see what it is like to be pregnant with a singleton, but I love my twins so much I'd just love to have a 2nd set! How about you?

 

I has always planned on having 2. One then another a couple of years later. Now that i have had twins i would love just one more! DOnt get me wrong if it was another set then i would love them too but one more would be great. My SO is adament we are having no more children. I think he is just scared it would be twins again as he struggled with the first year alot x

 

DH wants more but I don't. We already have four kids. I have a hard time pregnant too b/c I am Type 1 Diabetic. I told DH just yesterday that I am on birth control and if it is in God's plan for me then he will bless us with more while I am on BC. I really dont want more though. I just hate those 9 months of being pregnant and this last pregnancy with the twins I was helpless for 8 months and the last 4 months I have been very tied down with the babies and am not as able to have fun with my older two kids. I would rather just have 4 kids and have time to spend with each of them everyday. My kids are my life. I am a SAHM and love them to pieces.

 

No more kids for me. I feel like my family is perfectly complete with two boys and a girl. Plus having three children who are 19 months apart is hard, so that helps me in my decision that three is enough.

 

I want more kids too! I would love another set of twins, but not for like another year or two. DH says no way-NO MORE KIDS! He said we should get a puppy, haha he thinks he has a choice!

 

I feel like there is one more little soul out there waiting to be a part of our family.

 

I would definitely love one more, but DH is a definite "no" - we have 3 kids. I'm not working and I know the financial aspect is very stressful for him. Plus my last two pgs have been with twins so my next pg would probably be triplets and we barely have room for one more. Guess we're done!

 

I have an appointment with the specialist next month to talk about our three frozen embryos. I'd like to do a frozen embryo transfer in September/October. This time I hope to transfer just one embryo because although I love my twins to bits, I'm not going to go out of my way to have another set. If the procedure works (fingers crossed) I guess my boys will be almost 2.5 when the new baby comes (knock on wood). I don't know if that's a good space between them or not but I'm not getting any younger and if the frozen embryo transfer doesn't work I'll have to go through IVF again and I don't want to do that too late into my 30's.

When Evan and James were first born I had such a hard time I said I'd never have another baby. But once that newborn period ended I started to get so much pleasure out of my boys. I'd love them to have the chance to be older siblings. I know they'll have each other and there's something special about having a sibling who shares your birthday, but being the "big sister" in my family is one of the best things in my life. I'd love them to experience that. Personally, I'd like to experience a singleton pregnancy and having just one baby at a time. It seems so much saner!

To be honest, I've always wanted 4 kids. We'll see!

 

I definitely want more kids. If it was up to dh-we would be done. He's an accountant and I was a teacher. So I am all about the kids! LOL! We have 10 frozen embryos left-frozen on Day 6-so we were thinking either to try at the end of this year, or beginning of next year. There would be about a 2 yr difference in their ages. And I stay home too...so more would factor into it-we would need a new car for sure with another baby. So who knows. It's out of our hands I guess.

And if it happened to be another set of twins(my dh will go crazy!) then it was meant to be. And they would be a piece of cake-because we've already been through it before! LOL! But I have a feeling the Dr will only transfer 1 this time...LOL!

 

DOne... We knew no matter what... One child, twins... one of each both same sex... we were doing IVF one more time and then that was it... We were done and either we were going to be blessed or we were not... We were doubly blessed with one of each and i am so happy to never TTC again... i am a-ok to never be pregnant again even though i enjoyed my pregnancy... I am just happy and content that we are on the same page and we can enjoy the 4 we got... LOL... Everyone said i would think twice about it once they were a few months old... I enjoyed the newborn stage and everyother stage since i just know we are done... i have wanted them small again but i have not longed for more babies...

 

We are probably done. I can't imagine having any more until these 2 are in school, because I can't afford 3 in day care! And by that time I will be 38, and have to go through IVF again, and my eggs weren't in great shape when I was 32! So I doubt it's in the cards for us. Plus, I don't know if I would want (or could AFFORD!) another set of twins, so I would probably only transfer one. I don't know. Unless a conception miracle occurs, we are complete.

 

When I first had the twins, NO! But now that they are 18 months, I can see why I would want to thaw out my snowbaby and give the singleton baby thing a shot again. Having one baby is SOOO different than two. I kinda miss that.

 

This is a major point of discussion in our house right now. I would love love love to have more kids, but DH does not (at this point anyway). We had to go through 3 years and ivf to get the twins, which plays a factor. I don't think I would go through ivf again, but we do have 7 frozen embryos waiting for us, and I would like to use those someday (not for at least 3-4 years). I think DH is still in the "oh my god this is really hard" mentality, but I'm thinking (or hoping anyway) that as the babies get bigger and it gets easier that he will change his mind. I can't imagine having 2 sets of twins though, that would be tough, but whatever is meant to be is meant to be. We did decide that I am not going to go back on bcp, the chance of actually getting pg on our own is like 2%, but hey, if it happens than great!!

 

God shoot me now! But I am kinda wanting to have another one now

 

I want one more -and am hoping that I will feel totally complete after that one more - I thought I would after the girls but having frozen embryos changes everything!

 

When we found out we were having a boy and a girl, my DH and I both said that we would be done. I thought that was what I wanted until my DD started crawling a few weeks ago. My DS has been crawling for a few months, but once DD started, I have had a hard time accepting that they are getting so big. Before she crawled she was still my "baby" and I was happy. Now I feel like I want another one! My DH thinks I am nuts. We went through IVF the 1st time to get pregnant and don't want to do that again and we had always said if we want another baby we would just take the see what happens naturally approach. I am afraid if we decide to try again and it doesn't happen, I will be back on that emotional rollercoaster and will end up doing IVF again. Whow knows? Time will tell I guess!

 

Every now and then I get a little twinge -- but no way, we are definitely done, for so many reasons.

Our first DD is 3.5 years older than our little ones, and that was the perfect spacing, IMHO -- it was great fun to have a singleton first, and we got to spoil her and enjoy every minute of her babyhood before adding chaos to the family, LOL. She was well out of diapers and in preschool before the babies came, which is what I had wanted.

I am not getting any younger -- I'll be 35 this year. We've been blessed with three healthy kids, so I'm not keen on tempting fate again. And, this pregnancy did a number on my body, and I still wake up in pain and feeling old -- I really don't know if I can do this again.

I already feel like I don't have enough time for each kid, so can't imagine spreading myself any thinner.

It's not easy for us to get PG -- we did Clomid/IUI both times to conceive, and this time I ended up with triplets (lost one), which was one of the most difficult things I've gone through. Definitely don't want to experience that again.

We have one bedroom for each kid, plus our bedroom, an office and a guest room -- we're out of space in our house, LOL.

And finally, we have two girls and a boy, and we're thrilled to be getting a chance to experience having both daughters and a son. I always wanted a little sister for my DD, so DS is a bonus!

Anyhow. I do feel wistful at each passing stage, because I know I'll never have babies again -- but, our family is complete.

 

I would like to try for a girl, but I am scared it would be twins again. Those first 2 months are still a vivid memory and something I do not look forward to anytime soon! As far as the timing goes.....hopefully it won't be in the near future.

 

QUOTE(PgTimesTwo @ Jan 21 2008, 01:46 PM) [snapback]582003[/snapback]
After reading Boni's post, I was wondering how many of us want to have more children after the twins? Do you want more kids, and if so, how many total kids do you want? And how much spacing do you want in between your children, if you want more? I'd like to have 1 more pregnancy one day, I'd like to get pregnant again when the twins are 3, around the time of my 30th or 31st birthday. (I just turned 27 about a month ago.) It's because I don't want 3 in diapers, and I know this is crazy but I haven't given away ANY of the twins clothes and I won't, because I am hoping for a 2nd set of twins! Although I would also be happy with a singleton, I'd like to see what it is like to be pregnant with a singleton, but I love my twins so much I'd just love to have a 2nd set! How about you?


I just have to say "wow." To actually want another set while yours are still less than 3 months is impressive!! I didn't even want 1 more child while my twins were so young... I vowed I'd never have another until they were 6 months old. After that I started singing a different tune! LoL! We waited until they were almost 2 to try for another....and now we do think we might have a 5th, eventually.

 

I definitely wanted more. My baby desires went through a bit of a cycle starting when the girls were about 4.5 months old and hitting every 6 months or so. We finally went ahead and tried to get pregnant right before the girls turned 3. It was a perfect age for us.

We want more kids but right now Dax is so wonderful that we're just enjoying him. Maybe we'll try again when he's 2 or so.

 

Dh and I said we wanted two, and we got two, so we're good. There are many days I ponder having another to try and get some stuff right that I couldn't the first time, but of course that is no reason to have another. So...I'm good!!

 

I would love one more. If it were twins, that woudl be fine too! But I'd like to experience a singleton!

 

We want more!

Reyna

 

No! DH and I only wanted two and these two are more then plenty

 

Wow, I can't believe this thread. I have absolutely no desire to have more kids. My DH is getting a vasectomy in March; the appointment is already made. We are both 30. Are we making this decision too soon? Are we going to change our minds?!

 

At this point we have not decided 100% either way. I am terrified of having another set of mutiples, maybe because mine are very much still in the newborn phase. I am also scared of a repeat of all the complications I had with my pregnancy, singleton or otherwise. I would LOVE LOVE LOVE to have a little boy, but obviously that is beyond my control. So right now I really don't know that we will ttc again, time will tell

 

The girls are my first and I only pictured myself having 2 kids but I don't feel like I'm "done." I'd like to have a boy but there are no guarantees what you'll get. I'm reluctant to give away my maternity clothes or any baby stuff. Another reason I'd like to have another is because I had such a horrible pregnancy, being on bedrest for 12 weeks and delivering 10 weeks early. I'd like to experience what a normal pregnancy and birth are like, but I know there are no guarantees with that either.

 

We wouldn't mind having another baby, but we have infertility factors on both sides & have both decided that we will NOT do another IVF b/c we're at a good stopping point there now (no frozen embies or anything from our previous 2 successful cycles), so unless some miracle happens, I guess we're done.

I should add that I am incredibly thankful & blessed for the 3 beautiful daughters that we have! I just don't "feel" done, I guess.

 

On a good day, DH and I both would love to have another baby. We'd hate to think that this would be our last time watching babies grow up.

On a bad day, we think, No frickin' way, this is IT! :lol:

On the whole, in our hearts we would kind of like to have a third. But we'll have to give it some time. I can't imagine trying until the twins are about 5 yrs old (though I also know how easy it is to change one's mind!). And it really depends on what we can afford. Public schools in our area are dog doo, so private schooling is a must, and that has quite a price tag...

 

Mine are barely 6 months and we have been trying for another. based on some symtoms I am having I think we may have. We shall see!

 

oh H*** no, were done. lol.
Dh only wanted one and I didn't wwant an only child so I said - if I'm having any i'm having 2.
twins sorted that out.lol.
I hated being pregnant.

 

My DH and I were just discussing it last night. I know our family is not complete. I don't want to wait too long. I want them to be close in age and then get along better. I am also 31 and it took 3 IVF cycles to get pregnant and have no frozen embryos. Only 2 made it to day 6 and they implanted both. SO I have a feeling it might take a while. We talked about starting the process in about a year. THen hope fully they would be 2 1/2 or 3 when the babies were born. Yeah we are hoping for twins again. I think I would be sad to just have one baby. But then I can't imagine 6 weeks of bedrest wiht 2 2yrs olds. SO we will see what the Lord has planned.

 

I have just recently been really feeling like I would like another one. Dh and I haven't fully discussed it yet. We are planning to move to Peurto Rico this year where all of his family is so I would have a lot more help there if we were to have another baby. However, even if we do decide to go for it, it really is in God's hands as I was unable to get pregnant on my own and finally had my twins after trying for 4 years and then going through a year of ferterlity treatments and ultimately IVF. I have heard of women getting pg on their own after IVF so if it is meant to happen then it will but I just don't see myself going through IVF again but who knows.

 

QUOTE(JenniferTwinMomMinneapolis @ Jan 21 2008, 10:35 AM) [snapback]582505[/snapback]
Wow, I can't believe this thread. I have absolutely no desire to have more kids. My DH is getting a vasectomy in March; the appointment is already made. We are both 30. Are we making this decision too soon? Are we going to change our minds?!


Your post made me laugh! DH and I did not want more kids either, so when they were 9 mos old he had a vasectomy (I was 30, he was 32). There are moments when I think it would be nice to have another, now that they are older. BUT, we are totally happy with our decision. I am not a baby person. Don't get me wrong, I enjoyed it, I just don't want to do it again...and I do not want another set of twins. Again, don't get me wrong, I could handle twins; we just cannot afford four kids (we'd have to get a new house, new cars, make more money to clothe/feed/school everyone) without having to drastically change our lifestyle and I don't want to do that.

 

I will never, ever, ever get pregnant again. That said, I would love at least one more child (two, tops). If we are able to do it, we will adopt. I have always wanted to adopt, moreso than ever wanting to become pregnant. The pregnancy was a meaningful experience, but it was really traumatic, too (8 months of bedrest, tons of complications....). Hopefully we'll be able to make my dream of being an adoptive parent a reality someday, once we get a bit more settled in with the boys.