Do you have people to help?

Until I can quit it seems that I have been searching high and low for help to no avail. The daycare has been a haven for illness even with a very low ratio. My husband can't come home and if it werent for my mom here and there (she lives out of state) I would be calling in sick every other day! I had an offer to watch one twin (who was the worst off) if I were to send the others, but I couldnt bring myself to seperate the girls. I could turn this into a vent about half-*ss attempts to help from some (that I go out of my way for!!) but I wont. Am I the only one that carries my family on my back? I feel like I am in the trenches all the time!! It is so exhausting being superwoman!!!

 

You are lucky your family is around. I have family around too and will help and did if I needed them or asked, but no one helped on a daily basis. If I needed or need help for a Dr. appt. I have family to call, but day to day I'm on my own.

 

I'm on my own most of the time...SAHM... but my mother will come over every now and then and either help or take over while I nap.... Jay helps when he is home and plans to go to every doctors appt... but he works 6 days a week.... 4 nights and 2 days!! I took the boys for a ride to Jays moms and she fed them and made me dinner....it felt great to get through a meal though! I was exhausted tonight.... still am!!

Shannon

 

...no help here...
i'm a SAHM as well with no help on a day to day basis and no family willing to shoulder the burden of babysitting even ONE of my kids! much less "the twins"!
what really sucks is when you have someone who is willing to help but who is also TOTALLY INCOMPETENT (as my MIL is)...i just think, man, oh man, do i wish she was a wonderful babysitter b/c she constantly asks to babysit; but you would NOT BELIEVE some of the things this woman has done while babysitting our firstborn...man, did i ever learn my lesson! ha!
my husband is a wonderful help, when he's not working/hunting/fishing/cooking/out with the boys....ha!

 

No help here, all our family is 1000 miles away. Though we recently have found a babysitter that we love so we can get out for a few hours in the evenings once in a while.

 

I am a SAHM so taking care of all 3 girls is mostly my responsibility. However, my parents live on the same street as us so we see them almost every night. A while back we started taking turns every night making a big dinner so some nights they are here and some nights we go to their house. Therefore, they are usually around when it's time to get the girls ready for bed which is a big help. I'm very close with my mom also so we run errands together a lot on her days off. Don't get me wrong though, I can run errands with all of them myself, get older DD to school, go grocery shopping or the mall, get them all fed or into bed. They are almost always available too if I need someone to watch them, however I'm not very good at asking.

 

My mom is here but i am a full time working mom and she watches my kids all day so i have no help any other time. I hate to even think about asking her to keep them here and there on the weekends because she has them all week. That is about to change though. She is watching them till 1 year then only 2 days a week and they will go somwhere else for a the other 3 days! All in all i am lucky i know but i have never had help with the babies when i am home. DH does do his part most of them time but he is sick right now so we all know what that means. LOL... Hang in there... It will get better once everyone is not sick.

 

I so understand. I'm a single mom - work full time. Me and the girls Dad seperated 4 mos. ago - I moved out and closer to my family - informed them I made need help every now and then - no problem - but since I've moved - I have not had that much help at all. My younger sister watches my girls Mon-Fri. She gets paid to do it by an awesome program we have where I live. So asking her to babysit anymore than that - I don't feel right - which is a bummer as I babysat for her SO much when her kids were small. My older sister seems to have fallen off the planet when it comes to help - and I babysat for her SO much when her kids were little too!! I'm most bummed about my Mom. She helped alot when the girls were newborn. (stayed with me for 2 weeks) but it seems now she's never available. I know she has a life etc., but I try to tell her how lonely I get sometimes on the weekends etc. and I could easily go up to her house and hang out for the night with the girls etc. and she seems to have totally backed off. I'm most hurt than anything as I thought me having babies would bring us closer (we are pretty close anyway) but it's not that way and I am bummed. It is SO funny when I talk to friends that said they'd help - etc. when the babies were born and now when I call them - just to say hi - the first thing that comes out of their mouth when I ask them how they are doing is how they are SO busy doing this and that - have plans this day and that day etc. Like they are basically telling me ahead of time before I even ask that they are totally booked for the next 5 years with plans and couldn't possibly watch the girls. It's frusterating and I find myself resenting people I love most alot!!!!! So- with the exception of their Dad taking them from noon til 5pm on Sundays - that's the only break I get. My wonderful niece has been coming over on Saturdays and her and I will take the girls shopping / beach etc. and that's great as I don't feel so lonely and it gets the girls out. sorry so long and I don't mean to thread jack if I am. But I totally know how you feel.

 

My mom comes over when I ask her most of the time, but that may not be happening as much since she might have lung cancer. She also watches the girls, along with my MIL while I work. However, my MIL who was great help the first six weeks seems super annoyed to be doing any help now. It was her idea to watch the girls when I went back and now she being a PITA about it. My sister come over and help too and when we are with family, they take the babies and take turns holding them.

April